[wryknowlicious]

yep.
7 1/2 years. married. 8th is coing up in January. Maybe we will DO something this time... finally.

let me paint a picture : DH has no "friends" and neither do I. A few acquaintances between the 2 of us and about 4 really good friends that live far away. Noone close enough to call up and chill with onthe weekend.

We have each other. we like it like that. DH works full time plus OT and I used to also before the girls. Now I SAH and i swear it's harder than working outside the home. seriously I'm exhausted by 3pm.

We are glad for every single min we have together as a family or as a couple.
They are few. With chores and working and spiritual pursuits - we don't ahve what I would consider to be "ALOT" of time alone or together.

BUT - most everyone I tlak to IRL or OL thinks that we are "weird". that we both need some kind of extraciricular pursuits (not the sexual kind) seperate form each other. Or we will burn out.

they thnk our atachment to each other and to our kids is unhealthy. that we have some kind of co-co-co dependant relationship.

whatever.

I know I;m not alone.

soo........ any other homebody married to thier bestfriend just us and we like it happily married folks out there?

 

[Shonahsmom]

Congratualtions on your happy marriage!

I think we are all just very, very different people. Personally for me, I have a high need for personal time and while it waxes and wanes, I have a moderate need for socializing, especially with my women friends.

So, while your marriage probably wouldn't work for me, I don't find it odd or strange or wrong that it does for you. Your preferences and needs are just different from mine and its wonderful that you've married someone you are so compatible with.

 

[Strong Mama]

Guess what??!! Your marriage and mine sound the SAME! Dh and I have no *friends,* going on 4 years now! WE love it! Just wanted you to know, there is someone else like you out there. We always get the *its weird* thing too.

 

[Thalia the Muse]

What works for you, works for you! I like to get together with friends on occasion, DH is happier spending his free time with me and our daughter or working in his studio. Neither is a better way to be, as long as you're both happy!

 

[EVC]

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soo........ any other homebody married to thier bestfriend just us and we like it happily married folks out there?

Yup, we have no friends here and we're fine with that. We both do our non-family socializing on forums

Sometimes I think I'd like to get out more and meet people, but then I get lazy and figure that it's probably more trouble than it's worth

And my family keeps me busy! Since dh works from home, we're basically together 24/7, but that will change a bit when I go back to school next week.

 

[juliansmom]

Well, dh and I have had our ups and downs, but, like you, we don't have any close friends. Dh had a good friend when he and I first got together, but we moved out of state, so now they just talk on the phone or over the net from time to time. I also have some long-distance friends, most of whom were once local and have since moved away and many others I would consider acquaintances. I have one friend whom I call a "best friend" because she and I come from the same background and she has been my mom's neighbor for many years, but she is just an aquaintance also. I have no people with whom I get together on a regular basis.

A psychiatrist would have a field day with me, but, although I am a friendly person, I find it hard to tell people details about myself IRL. Sure, they know my full name, address, work situation, etc., but none ever hear about some of the things I have written on this site (including the info in this very post!)

The whole "keep it in the immediate family" thing comes from my parents; my dad especially has been like this all his life. Dh and his family are the same way, and I think this is a quality that attracted us to one another in the first place.

 

[PadmaMorgana]

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Originally Posted by wryknowlicious yep. soo........ any other homebody married to thier bestfriend just us and we like it happily married folks out there?

except it has been 10 years

Our anniversary dinner was pasta and sauce over the campstove followed by a bottle of wine in mugs in front of the fire while the kids slept in the tent. But it was in the middle of our family camping trip and we all had so much fun

DH and I are both very private introverts. Our main entertainment is watching movies and TV with each other and doing home and yard work (this weekend we built a new bookshelf for the playroom and moved the kids into a bigger room....which was the 'junk' room) with the kids 'helping' us. Occasionally DH goes to play poker with coworkers and I go out for a few hours with a friend, but mostly we spend out time together as a family.

I don't feel burnt out, in fact I feel less burnt out as we are laid back, not rushing around people. I am tired at the end of the day, DH doesn't care I am in a torn shirt and old pants, the last thing I want to do is go out. Plus DH is very hands on as a parent so when I need to sleep in (like this morning...aunt flo is kicking my behind) he is more than capeable. He can even change DD's diapers on my bed without waking me up

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[cjuniverse]

I have one close friend whom I see infrequently, and one online I've never met in person. That's it. I'm too tired to go out these days, though eventually I'd like to go out clubbing/dancing again with my husband and best friend.

He has a few aquaintances, a close family friend that's basically his aunt, and one guy I'd call a real friend. He sees these people on a regular basis via soccer games, birthdays, and holidays. He's actually quite social and would be more so if I didn't insist on not being dragged everywhere and having some family time. I like his friends, but none of them speak English and all of them criticize my parenting...to the point where I now feel very uncomfortable around them. It's a cultural thing and I understand it, but I don't appreciate or accept it at all. Another thread though.

We don't spend a lot of time at home together right now because he works two jobs...but during the first year before Ryo was born, basically all we did was watch movies. During the times we weren't at each other's throats, it was nice.

It's a mixed marriage, I guess. We've had it one way and the other and are one way and the other.

 

[mamalisa]

Me me me! It's funny because we moved away from our "home" about 2 hours away. At first I was lonely, dh traveled, I was sahm for the first time but once I settled into a routine, I started to enjoy being ok with not having places to go and people to see. Now we're considering a coastal move and I'm quite content with it. My only real issue is leaving my dad, as he's older and has some health problems. Plus I want my kids to know my dad, you know? I was talking with my sister and she really doesn't understand that I'm happy with just my kids and my dh. By keeping a bit of distance from our families we remain clear of the chaos that they bring. Plus we're more like each other than we are like the families we were raised in. We both have "best friends" and a few other people in our lives, but 99% of the time we just hang as a family unit. We like it that way.