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My 7 month old is with someone else for about 15 hours a week, spread over 4 days. We actually have three different sitters (long story), but I like and trust them all, and they're just awesome with ds.<br><br>
Here's the problem: last Friday, yesterday and today, ds hung out with the sitter, went to sleep, woke up from the nap--and proceeded to cry hysterically. Friday it was for about 20 minutes, until the sitter called me (at which point ds stopped crying as he tried to play with phone). Yesterday it was for a half hour, until dh came home. The sitter tried everything--walking in a carrier, music, soothing, distraction, feeding, diaper change... you name it. Today it was very short, since dh was working right there in the apt. Dh said the crying stopped instanteously when he picked up ds, like a faucet turning off. Dh hung around in the living room with ds and the sitter, and ds didn't mind when dh went back to work.<br><br>
We are VERY worried about this. Ds doesn't cry. Seriously, pretty much never. He's very social and laid back, and is delighted to see the sitters when they arrive, and generally delighted to hang out with them, go for walks, etc. He wakes up happy and smiley normally, too.<br><br>
What should we do? Is this normal for a 7-month old? We really aren't willing to let ds sob his heart out, for his sake, but also for the sitters'. We have the option of working from home, so we can step in if we need to, but that's more of a short-term solution. This is just killing us.<br><br>
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That must be frustrating! Don't have any advice, just <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">s.
 

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that sounds tough!<br><br>
maybe not sep. anxiety so much as waking up from a bad dream.<br><br>
has your sitter tried taking baby outside on a walk? my daughter (6 months ) LOVES that when dh can't calm her down. He also does "baby exercises" lays her on her back and pulls her up with her arms (like a sit up). For whatever reason it really calms her down for him. doesn't work for me though.
 

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Wow.... I have to say we have experienced something almost identical. Only my DD will cry for a lot longer (unfortunately). My DH has school 2 mornings and we get a sitter for 3 hrs. It is hit or miss. Monday my DD cried for probably an hour and a half (except when my sitter was on the phone w/me).She started 30 seconds after DH dropped her off. It was constant and horrible. I was in a mtg, so we decided my husband(who was closer) would leave class to tend to her. But on Wednesday, with another sitter, she was fine. I have noticed that if she is with someone who can hold her a lot, she is ok. But if she is with someone who cannot (i.e. they have thier own baby), it is difficult. Spoiled is a word I hear re: this, but I tend to protest(?). My pediatrician told me it takes 10 times for a baby to get used to being away from Mom & Dad. She gave me some holistic tablets to calm my DD (I think it was called Pulsatella?) during the transition phase. I only used it 6 times when she was sat and it seemed to work better, though I felt incredibly guilty giving these to her. She was better until this week (last week no sitter-spring break). I agree with you that it is really heart wrenching...there is nothing worse... Guilt sets in... I thought about buying the teething herbal drops, Chamilia? I think it's called? They are natural and have chamomile in them, which is said to calm nerves. Wishing you some releif through this trying time.
 

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Hey from Park Slope! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wave.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wave"><br><br>
The same thing happened to us when ds hit 9 months. DS loves his sitter and she adores him, and normally they are together 3 to 3.5 days per week just fine. But about a month ago, he suddenly started getting really clingy when I left in the a.m. and a few times the sitter called to say she couldn't figure out what was wrong, but just wanted me to know that he was very unhappy and kept crying for no apparent reason, even pushing her away when she tried to hold him. (She's pretty AP, and will even let him sleep on her chest in the rocking chair on days when he doesn't want to sleep alone.) He also started waking to nurse a LOT more than usual during the night. Our ds also pretty much never cries unless he's in pain (and even then not endlessly, it's more like complaining), so we were really worried.<br><br>
Having ruled out hunger, thirst, need for a bottle (comfort), a nap or a diaper change, the sitter settled on change of scenery as a solution for ds' crying, and it seemed to work. She started putting him in the Sutemi (carrier) and heading out for a long walk when the crying set in. He loves to be outside and apparently the distraction of other people, trees, traffic, etc. was enough to put him in a different frame of mind. The sitter said that putting him in the stroller just resulted in screams of protest, but using the front carrier worked great.<br><br>
After about 2 weeks of this, things sort of settled back to normal. He hasn't been crying or acting clingy during the day, and his sleep schedule is back to normal at night. So -- don't worry; make sure your ds gets lots of love and physical contact, and it should pass as he grows! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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Thanks for the advice. It's extremely encouraging to know that other people have been through this and that's it's passed (oh please oh please). Yesterday ds wouldn't last for more than 10 or 15 minutes at a time without losing it. He's done a couple of all-night nursing marathons recently as well, so that sounds familiar too.<br><br>
We're just trying to hold him a lot, and the sitters are doing the same. Fingers crossed....
 
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