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Hi everyone,<br><br>
I am concerned about my daughter who is seven years old. She is a very happy child, who has a close relationship with me, she is very fun loving, and all the sudden she told me that when she is alone in a room (like when I kiss her goodnight at bed time when her sister has already fallen asleep) that she fears that the house will catch on fire, or a big storm or tornado will come. We did have a big storm not to long ago, and she was screaming and climbing on me. It was one of those storms where it comes on fast, was strong, but then let up. A couple of weeks before, we had a storm where we ended up going into the hall bathroom because the news said it was severe, and we felt the pressure in the house change too. The storm was scary, but anytime we have a storm, I assure my kids we will be safe, and I stay with them.<br><br>
My question: Have any of your 7 year olds had this problem, and should I be concerned? And is there anything I can do to help her?<br><br>
Thanks,<br>
Jyotsna
 

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My youngest is deathly afraid of storms. He sobs and clings, the poor lil thing. It is horrible. My other two aren't that way. All I can do is hold and cuddle him. I feel so sorry for his true and honest fear that I can do nothing to relieve.<br><br>
Hugs to your lil scared one.
 

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There are some books on anxiety in children -- I think the one that people keep recommending is: Freeing Your Child From Anxiety.<br><br>
I keep meaning to read this for my ds, who is 6 1/2, and also quite afraid of storms. We had a big storm this last weekend. It didn't help that the paper printed a headline saying "Monster Storm Coming". Literacy does have its drawbacks! Where we were, we had some wind, a <i>lot</i> of rain, and no major consequences. Still, dh had to sleep with ds because he was too afraid to sleep alone.<br><br>
He did spend a portion of Saturday and Sunday playing "storm" where he'd dress up in his firefighter overalls, his rain coat and swim goggles and go out into the backyard. He'd then pretend that drastic things happened and it was too dangerous to be out. Sometimes he'd come rushing in himself, other times he had his sister call him in. He pretended the window in his room cracked because a tree fell on it, and that the room was flooded. He's done similar things where 'storms' have come and knocked over the doll house, and then the cranes come and pull it up again.<br><br>
I do think this kind of play helped him process the storm. (He is his own best therapist, as he does this naturally.) Some play where there's a 'storm' that comes might help your dd too. Either where you pretend to be the storm, or she does, or you act it out with dolls. Drawing pictures can be very powerful for some kids too.<br><br>
Somewhere I read that this kind of fear is relatively common for 7 year olds, as they are beginning to grasp the scope of things beyond them. I guess I wouldn't worry unless it's becoming a problem in her life. I'd talk about it, encourage her to get the feelings out through play or art, but not make too big a deal of it.
 

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When my son was 3 we were in hearing range of a tornato. He really isn't over his fear. The more he learns about it the less afraid he is. We have found many people in the weather industry are actually afraid of it <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> Their fear fuild a passon.<br><br>
The best thing you can do for her is educate her on what to do. Things are a lot less scary if you know what to do.
 

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i was absolutely terrified of tornadoes when i was a child. when i was very small i would cry when my mother said she was putting up the storm windows, she had to call them winter windows. when i was 6 or 7 i was obsessed with tornadoes and wanted to be a "newsperson on TV because they live in tornado proof houses." i found as scared as i was of them (and i grew up in the midwest so i am familiar with big storms and tornadoes) i was also fascinated by them. engage your child's fear and try to turn it from fear to interest by learning about them, what causes them, what to do when the happen, etc. it's a perfectly normal fear, especially at that age. it's something beyond their and their parent's control and that can be very scary.<br><br>
and FWIW i was terrified of dinosaurs for years, stupid Jurassic Park movie. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 
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