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Let me preface this by saying, my 7 yr old ds has never slept well, not even as an infant. I have always attributed his lack of sleep to it just being his personality. But we are now well beyond attributes and dealing with a whole lot of issues surrounding his lack of sleep. He is barely ab;e tp function in the evenings due to an extreme amount of irritability and grumpiness. I don't know what to do...and I don't know where the line is drawn between a potential problem and the result of letting him control bed/sleeptime. In the beginning, I always rocked him to sleep. He coslept until he was 5 years old until my dh said 'enough' and pretty much forced me to start putting him into his own bed. In some strange ways, I wonder if that has something to do with it albeit I do think by age 5 a child should be somewhat on their way to independent sleep. But nevertheless, by age 5 and 6...I would lay down with him to go to sleep until he started sharing a room with my dd (his bio sister...who is 9). This actually seemed to help because he wasn't alone and therefore he slept sounder. But the last 8-9 month have been the worst it's ever been. He has ALWAYS woken up in the middle of the night (even as a baby, naturally to nurse)...it's like he never outgrew his middle of the night feeding LOL. He wakes up and insists he can't sleep...and I believe him because for hours he will lay awake, play quietly, get up and 'go to the bathroom', etc, etc....every single freaking night. None of this new and I could go on and on with more facts, but what I am really wanting other AP thoughts on is this...<br>
For several months now, he has been waking me up multiple times in the night (2-5 times) and asking me to tuck him back into bed. I usually do because I feel too guilty if I don't. But now I am not getting enough sleep because by the time I get back to sleep he either is back again, or another child wakes up (I have a 2 and 1 yr old) for milk so here we go again. This goes on all night long. I am trying to train for a marathon in a few months and I am at a point now where I really do need all the sleep I can get...but the 3 or 4 hours I am getting just aren't enough. I would go to bed earlier but I need that time with all the kids in bed to catch up on laundry and sewing, etc. Would YOU repeatedly keep getting up to tuck the same child into bed multiple times? Or would you put your foot down and say one time is enough? (thats what my dh says I SHOULD say) I am catching alot of criticism from family and friends that I have taken my AP practices too far and I am allowing my kids to walk all over at me. Am I? I just try treat them like equals...and I do have bounderies...but unfortunately I tend to be...underbounded? (pretty sure I just created a new word there <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"> ) Anyway....anyone wanna throw their take in on this? I'd love to hear it!<br>
Thanks in advance!!!!
 

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I have had good luck with ds's "I have too much energy to go to sleep" problem by applying EFT. That is a method of stimulating certain acupressure points basically. It seems kinda far out til you see how well it works, I have no idea why it works but ds no longer gets up and comes to me every night after he's tucked in... I remind him to use his deep breathing exercises and his EFT tapping, and we talk about what he'll do if he can't get to sleep. That way he has a plan, and doesn't need to call for me.<br><br>
There is a free download to learn the method at emofree.com. It only takes a few minutes to learn and the bonus is once you know it you can use it on all kinds of things. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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It sounds like three issues.<br><br>
1) getting back to sleep<br><br>
2) wanting your engagement<br><br>
3) you getting adequate sleep<br><br><br>
For #1, here is a recent post of mine about 'getting back to sleep': <a href="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/showthread.php?p=10604929&highlight=peace+calm#post10604929" target="_blank">http://www.mothering.com/discussions...m#post10604929</a><br><br>
For #2 (and #3), it sounds like he is seeking the connection and attachment that you all enjoyed when he was young. However, you have two others needing that attention, and a marathon for which you invest energy and time. It sounds like you need a way to get self-care when you have many (physically and emotionally) dependent children needing you.<br><br>
HTH, Pat
 
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