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Hi,<br><br>
My 8 mo dd pinches me with her little fingers when I bf her. She usually grabs my arm and does it. She pinches HARD and leaves little marks on my skin, sometimes drawing blood if her nails are long. My arm is all scarred-up as if I was attacked by a cat! I don't know how to keep her from doing this. It hurts! I used to say, "Ow! That hurts mama!" But I'm tired of saying that, so I stopped. This has been going on for about a month. DD also pinches me if she's crying/upset when I pick her up, or if I'm trying to do something she hates (like diaper changing). Is she deliberately pinching me as a form of communication? How can I convince her to stop?<br><br>
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At 8 months, I don't think she's communicating anything, just pinching.<br><br>
I'd take responsibility for making sure I kept her fingernails short...I bite my kids nails off when they are sleeping. And wear long sleeves.<br><br>
She'll outgrow it.
 

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my dd is going through a similar phase. i think it has to do with either a drop in milk supply, or her not being able to wait for the slower flow now that she has stuff to do. we started putting her in those shirts with the fold over mittens at night so i can sleep without her doing it all night.<br><br>
it's definately not an intentional hurting you thing - she doesn't even realize you are two seperate people at 8 months old.<br><br>
sorry, at 8 months it's really not a discipline issue at all. i wish i had some golden advice for you. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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Aja, I secretly was hoping it was not a discipline issue. My grandmother was the one who told me, "you shouldn't let her do that!" I'm fine with just keeping her nails short and enjoying these little "caresses". It is interesting that you mention at 8 months she still is not aware that she's a separate being - I often feel like she's such a part of me; like an appendage or a vital organ of my body. When she pinches, it seems like she's playing with a part of her body - like grabbing her feet and fondling her toes. It is kinda cool thinking about it from that perspective. Thanks for bringing it to my attention. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
And chfriend, thanks for making me feel ok about biting her fingernails off in her sleep. I often feel the urge to do this when the nail clipper is not in easy reach, but am always afraid to do it. If I can just bite them off in her sleep, then I can be more diligent about keeping them short.<br><br>
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I bought a nursing necklace (at <a href="http://www.lorisnursingnecklaces.com" target="_blank">www.lorisnursingnecklaces.com</a>) to stop mine from pinching grapping ect while nursing. That might help you too and I guess for the other time I would keep redirecting and telling her it hurts ect. Good luck.
 

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Yeah, we're still going strong with the pinching at almost 11 months. It's tactile exploration and pincer grasp practice and general developmental obsession, not intentional hurting. I move hands, even if I have to do it a bajillion times, or I give her something to hold. Sometimes I wear a sturdy necklace. Keeping nails short is a must.
 

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my friend's dd is a pincher and she does it to soothe herself. She now does it to her self when she is tired.
 

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Mine starts pinching every few weeks too and I start wearing long sleeves and distracting her any way I can. There's a kellymom article on nursing manners that might give you ideas:<br><a href="http://www.kellymom.com/bf/older-baby/nursing-manners.html" target="_blank">http://www.kellymom.com/bf/older-bab...g-manners.html</a><br><br>
In my case, it's the underneath arm that pinches so sometimes I have to put it between me and her. Works sometimes.
 

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<span style="font-size:medium;"><span style="color:#800080;"><span style="font-family:'Comic Sans MS';">Try a nursing necklace! I use mine for *exactly* this purpose!</span></span></span>
 
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