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I want my mom to be my doula, but I want her to be prepared. It's been 31 years since she's given birth! Luckily, she did have 2 totally natural childbirths, and is a strong believer in letting the mother's body do what it was made to do.<br><br>
Does anyone know of a good book (or chapter of a book) that can help a laywoman learn techniques to help a woman through labor?<br><br>
Thanks!<br>
Bethany
 

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Personally, I think having your mom act as your doula is GREAT. My mom was my doula for my VBAC 22 months ago, and she was fabulous. (Now granted, she practiced as a CNM when I was small, so she had some extra experience...). For books, I recommend The Birth Partner by Penny Simkin. This book is great in general and has lots of practical and helpful suggestions to help you cope with labor. Having my mom there to help me welcome my daughter into the world was very special.
 

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Hands down, the Birth Partner by Penny Simkin.<br><br>
Other books I found helpful were Ina May's Guide to Childbirth and Natural Birth the Bradley Way.
 

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Yep - this was my pick as well. I didn't have a doula (in hindsight we both wish we would have based on some unexpected labor issues) but my DH and I were in one of Penny's birth prep classes and he read this book and I thought it was really helpful for him to do so.
 

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Definitely The Birth Partner.<br><br>
My mom was at my labor, and I wanted her to be prepared for things that might have differed from her own (mostly natural, 5 hour) labors. She downloaded it to her Kindle and read it all in a couple of days.
 

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Agree with PP. The Birth Partner! Ina Mae's Guide to Childbirth is also great. At least I'm hoping. I am using my mom as my doula also. We have both read and discussed these books and feel well prepared. I'm due May 15th.
 

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Like everyone said, the Birth Partner for sure. I also liked gentle Birth Choices.<br>
That's great that she's supportive of your childbirth philosophy. That's really the most important thing.<br>
Also, I had some points in labor where I just wanted everyone to go away -- I was really kind of private and inward. Maybe you could have some sort of code word to express that you want to be left alone for a little bit? It's hard to say what you'll want during labor but it's good to be prepared for lots of different things.
 

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The first book that jumped to my mind was the same as every one else. The Birth Partner. Its all the book you need.
 

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I would suggest this in addition to your mom doula-ing you. Maybe hire a Doula as well to help support your mom in supporting you. You can get them for free, so cost shouldn't be a problem, and it will be a great addition to your mom reading. Someone who is trained (and has read The Birth Partner) and who has worked with moms and partners of all sorts. A independant Doula would be great in really stepping back and just helping your mom support you too. Also, she can be your errand girl if you need anything.
 

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I agree with AustinMom. Your mom can't be your doula, because she's your mom, she'll always be your mom first. That in no way means that she can't be awesome birth support for you. I just caution you from thinking of her as your doula verses, my mom is reading up and going to be an educated birth partner. Reading a book and attending multiple births is a very different thing. I am a very different doula now after a few years than I was after a few births, than I was at my first birth, and I'm sure than I'll be in another few years.<br><br>
Your mom can be amazing support for you and I agree with all the others in recommending The Birth Partner, I just want you to know that it is very different than having an experienced doula there. Best wishes!<br><br>
I just re-read and it sounds a little harsh, I don't mean it that way. I'm really tired, have morning sickness, and pregnancy hormones so I may not be expressing myself in the best way. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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Two things: I want to gently disagree with the pp'er and just say that if your mother is able to take a step back, and be objective, then she will be a fine doula. A loving and dedicated heart is more important than tons of experience, especially if she's willing to read up on some relaxation and pain management techniques. A doula doesn't have to be a stranger, just someone who is solely there for your comfort and support. Now, if your mother is the type to shriek and scream and hyperventilate that her baby is in pain the first time you get a hard contraction, THEN, she's being your mother, not your doula (I've seen it, unfortunately...) But if she's able to put that aside, then she may be the best doula, because she knows you already, and probably many of your comforts.<br><br>
Also agreeing with the birth partner book, but wanted to say if she's willing to watch videos, that can be a huge help. My DH had read many articles, chapters, etc, but he didn't "get it" until we sat down and watched a birth movie together, and he realized how different my idea of an ideal and totally attainable birth was, compared to the stereotypical birth people see. If she will, I highly highly recommend Birth As We Know it. It makes me melt, and I think could convince just about anything into natural and peaceful birth.
 
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