I remember at my last vbac, there was a male student in the room (who finally left when I glared at him). Can I order someone who is not essential to the birth out of the room? I know my ob said she would put "no residents to be in attendance at the birth" on my chart but seriously....who is going to follow my obs notes? Also, I am planning to have a close friend come with me to hospital to support me.....can she speak for me ( I mean reinforce what I am saying/yelling to the ob/nurse....repeat what I am saying) and find out who is essential to the birth? I am just nervous on how much I am going to have to argue with "them" and I know how they dont seem to listen to women in labor. I just dont want to spend all of my time in labor focusing on protecting myself rather than doing what I should be doing.....birthing.