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Hello. I am new to this forum, I have posted a few messages, but very brief as I am usually able to type with only one hand! Either nursing or holding baby! We have 2 boys 2.9 yrs and 6 months. I just started EC one week ago today with my 6 month old and have had a lot of success. (and pee on me, of course...which is fine.) I have a few questions for you all.

1. Do any of you feel like you're so into watching baby for signs of needing to go, that you're losing time to just interact and have fun with him? I'm thinking I won't feel this so much the more comfortable we are with the process.

2. Our older son is not potty trained. We haven't really had any success with him yet. Now that he sees his baby brother going in potty, he is showing some interest. Has anyone had a similar experience with the younger one helping the other progress? I also don't want him to feel bad about not going in potty yet while it's so easy for his baby brother to go.

3. Any others start at 6 months? How long until "graduated"?

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I don't think I can answer your questions 2 and 3, but for the first question, I think learning how to communicate with your baby is interaction enough, IMO. What could be more important than learning how to speak without words? You can have fun on the potty too--it's like play time for us. Sometimes I put dd in front of a mirror so she can talk to herself, and sometimes stack a bunch of milk cartons up in front of her so she can knock them down. Anyway, sounds like you are doing great--just relax!
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To answer question #1:
At first, when we started EC, I thought that I was just not spending time with dd and instead just watching and waiting for signals...but then when I really learned her signals, I was able to relax and enjoy my baby. It took me about a week to learn her signals.

My friend has a 5 wk old and a 22 month old. After she read Ingrid Bauer's "Diaper Free", she took off her 22mo's diaper and started to use the EC concepts with her, instead of traditionally toilet training her. It took her a week and now she is diaper free completely during the day, and she has been EC'ing her 5 wk old since birth.
I just thought I'd share what my friend has done. Now her 22mo uses the potty by herself. I thought it was a great idea to try to use EC with a toddler, instead of the traditional way.
Hope that helped...
also check out the eliminationcommunication yahoo group! (
1. If you are watching so intently for longer than a day or two, you need to relax and not take it so seriously. The observation phase is just to give you a general idea about his timing and elimination patterns. These will not always be the same anyway, so don't try to be too exact.

2. Many parents work with a toddler and a baby at the same time. The kids tend to motivate and encourage each other. It's an excellent time to work with your toddler too. Here's an article with tips for late-starters. I hope it's okay to post this link here:

3. Average age of completion is around 24-25 months. Many finish before this. All are well on their way long before this time too. It in part depends on your definition of being toilet trained. If you mean near independence, then 24-25 months is the average.

1. i was that way in the beginning but got a bit discouraged when i couldn't decipher any signals at all. i decided to chart his feedings, pees, poops, and naps to get down his natural 'schedule', but couldn't see a pattern. i finally just gave up and rely on my intuition. i try not to focus on the misses, but my catches. i know i can get the ones after naps and in the mornings. i remind myself that if this is all the success we ever have, then he is still better off. since i stopped stressing about it our catches have increased. contrary to what seems to help others, i found that ds pees less frequently when wearing a diaper (we use disposables). and i feel more assured that when we have a miss he is not uncomfortable in his wetness. i ALWAYS change him immediately and give him potty opportunities throughout the day.

2. no advice on this one, i only have 1 ds

3. we started when ds was 6 months (i started cueing him at 5 months). we had great success from the first day. since he is only 7.5 months old now, i cannot speak to age when graduated. i don't expect him to be potty trained (independant) any earlier then with conventional western potty training. i do think he will have a head start to being able to go by himself, etc.

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