1. i was that way in the beginning but got a bit discouraged when i couldn't decipher any signals at all. i decided to chart his feedings, pees, poops, and naps to get down his natural 'schedule', but couldn't see a pattern. i finally just gave up and rely on my intuition. i try not to focus on the misses, but my catches. i know i can get the ones after naps and in the mornings. i remind myself that if this is all the success we ever have, then he is still better off. since i stopped stressing about it our catches have increased. contrary to what seems to help others, i found that ds pees less frequently when wearing a diaper (we use disposables). and i feel more assured that when we have a miss he is not uncomfortable in his wetness. i ALWAYS change him immediately and give him potty opportunities throughout the day.
2. no advice on this one, i only have 1 ds
3. we started when ds was 6 months (i started cueing him at 5 months). we had great success from the first day. since he is only 7.5 months old now, i cannot speak to age when graduated. i don't expect him to be potty trained (independant) any earlier then with conventional western potty training. i do think he will have a head start to being able to go by himself, etc.