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This is my first babe who has been such an avid cosleeper/all night nurser. I am okay with that. What I am sort of starting to wish for, however, is more than a consecutive hour or two of sleep when he first goes to bed (which is sometimes 3-4 hours earlier than when dh and I go to bed). He goes back to sleep easily - and doesn't even have to be nursed each time - but it has to be ME doing it. Maybe dh just hasn't tried hard enough, but he hasn't had any luck in that department yet. I dream of running errands by myself or going shopping on those early-to-bed nights, but at this point I really can't leave for any length of time.<br><br>
Ds2 is 12 months, BTW.<br><br>
Any thoughts, experience to share?
 

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I know how you feel. With DS, I was the only person to put him down until he was 18 months old. Then, I just decided that he would have to deal with it. He cried when DH would take him to bed (though only for about 3-5 minutes - but still heartbreaking whenthey are crying for you specifically). Honestly, he didn't stop "crying" for me until I had his sister 6 months ago (he was almost 3). His dad had to put him to bed for 4 weeks straight - and now he doesn't want me to do it EVER. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
It will pass, just let him get used to the idea. Maybe your DH can do something special - my DH tells DS special stories that he loves.
 

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I'm not very experienced, but thought I would share the my DD was the same way until recently. I think she just started sleeping better because she was ready to. I didn't do much to encourage it and she would scream and cry if DH tried. Now that sleeps better from about 8 -11 or 12, I still don't run out to do anything just in case she wakes.<br><br>
Maybe DH can run errands and you can relax to a cup of tea! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> I'm dreaming of a solitary evening some day too.
 

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I feel your pain. We're just now kinda-sorta starting to move past this stage, and ds is just shy of 26 months. Usually he sleeps from 7 or 8 till midnight or so, but maybe 2-3 times a week, he'll randomly wake at 9 or 10, and wants absolutely, positively no part of Daddy when he does. So, no advice, just commiseration!
 

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Back in the olden days (1.5 years ago) I was in the same boat. I went on a business trip when ds was 13 mos and he and dh did fine. But when I returned, it was me he wanted. Every once in awhile I would go out with friends or do something and return late and my 2 guys would be fine. But then it was my turn to do bedtime. Since my 2nd has arrived, my ds and dh have established a bedtime routine and it is not acceptable for me to put ds to bed. It took 3-4 days to establish the new routine and there was some sadness for ds. But now I only "get" to put him to bed if dh is out.<br><br>
My point is that when it's necessary for dh to handle it, he will. And if desired, dh and your child can establish a routine.
 
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