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Since my son was born premature I had/have my cervix checked everyweek since week 20. Yesterday at my 31 week appt my midwife found that my cervix had dilated to 2 cm. Coupled with the tightness I was feeling over the weekend she decided I needed to go the hospital for observation. 8 hours, many tears, and no change later they sent me home. With DS I was so well prepared for his arrival: all the diapers were washed and ready, we set up the cosleeper the day before he was born (surprise) at 34 weeks, we had a car seat and a going home outfit. This time around all I can think about is keeping this baby in full term. So my question to you if this is your 2nd + baby- how prepared are you for baby's arrival? Also, since my DS was born in winter we had all of the warm and fuzzy sleepers, what will your July baby wear home? Thanks
 

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I have lots of cotton one piece sleepers, we live in Canada where it can still be cool especially in the evening and we get lots of rain in the summer. We will be having a homebirth so I guess I don't really have to worry about the outfit but if we did go to the hospital I would use one of those light weight cotton sleepers and a hat, + receiving blanket in case its cool.<br>
Hope you are able to go full term. Good Luck!
 

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I have absolutely nothing prepared for baby! DD was born right at 36 weeks and I wasn't prepared for her either. My mom bought a car seat and brought it to the hospital and she also bought and washed an outfit for her to come home in. I had to find a local cloth diaper kit so I didn't have to wait for shipping but it all worked out. I had all the receiving blankets left over from DS and a few neutral sleepers and gowns (and a few blue ones.. I think girls are cute in blue) that I washed up quick when we got home. Really all you need is your breast (if breastfeeding), diapers (I had 4 I made and sposies for the first 3 days), receiving blankets and baby.<br><br>
I am planning a UC again.. so if I transfer again I may be in a similar situation. I would try not to stress to much about being ready. You don't need to have a lot of things to be 'ready' for baby. The bare minimum works just fine.<br><br>
I had everything ready with DS and nothing for DD. I didn't notice a difference in stress level, feeling overwhelmed or anything like that. All I remember is my precious little babies and how perfect they are.<br><br>
I hope you LO stays put until term. If it makes you feel any better I walked around dilated at 3 for two months and DS was born at 38 weeks.
 

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Totally not prepared with "stuff" at all.<br><br>
We have the diapers and can have the bassinet on a moment's notice.<br><br>
Carseat-nope. Baby clothes-nope.<br><br>
I have a couple of wrap slings. Boobs are ready to nurse!<br><br>
I think my cervix was opening up a bit the other day after dp and I dtd. I had some crampiness and started feeling "squatty" so I checked my cervix (for the first time ever!), and found that I could gently fit about two fingertips (so about 2cm, same as you), and that my cervix was still "there", not effaced, but very very soft.<br><br>
It kinda freaked me out and I felt a little poky down there all day, but I just took a couple of hours to lay about on my side until the crampiness subsided. Had it gotten worse or begun contractions, then I definitely would've called my midwife or visited the hospital, but I didn't want to be a nervous nellie or end up "high risk" and rule out my home birth. We actually ended up dtd again way later that evening with no resulting crampiness or dilation *shrug* I guess he just had really potent sperm that morning.<br><br>
I plan on talking to my midwife about it today at our home visit. She hasn't done a vaginal exam on me yet, and I'm thinking it might be time to get a professional opinion on the state of my cervix.
 

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I have nothing of consequence prepared. I suppose my June 1 "layoff" will have some benefit, no?<br><br>
There are plenty of clothes, and we found a big box of my stepdaughter's bibs, burp cloths, towels, and receiving blankets in the basement. They are pink, but who cares?<br><br>
No diapers--we'll probably do disposables for awhile anyway, and it's not like there won't be stores in a few weeks.<br><br>
No crib or bassinet or Pack and Play--my parents are buying us a crib (we're not intending to full-time co-sleep and even if we were, I wouldn't be telling my parents that); I'm assuming we'll pick one out in June when I'm not working. (Sigh.) So, that's probably something we will need sooner rather than later.<br><br>
My grandparents are sending us (hopefully a gift card and not an actual) stroller, but there's no urgency for it. We've got some sort of backpack carrier, but it doesn't look good for a younger baby, so we will need a carrier or two. (Strangely enough, my husband is eager for a sling--better for family walks in the woods than a strolelr would be.)<br><br>
"OMG, you don't have a diaper bag?!!!" (We do have a little one--a gift--it'll fit a couple of diapers and a change of clothes, which is really all I'll want to be hauling at first anyway). But we have totes, backpacks, Trader Joe's reusable sacks. I fail to see the difference between these items and a diaper bag. (I have also endured: "OMG you don't have a sterilizer!" I have a dishwasher, microwave oven, and 1-quart, 2-quart, 3-quart 4-quart, 8-quart, 12-quart, and lord-knows-how-many-quarts (canner) pots (this is a side effect of combining two fully functioning households). I'm not sure exactly what I'm going to be sterilizing anyway, especially while EBF at first. I'm pretty sure I can manage.)<br><br>
We need car seat(s), either two convertables or a bucket and two bases. Again, that's one of those things if we go early, there are stores, and we can send my parents with specific instructions. I trust them to buy what we ask for rather than decide that we need something cheaper or more expensive or with a more appealing pattern.<br><br>
We do have a dresser, are not getting a changing table, and I have a hand-me-down breast pump that needs new tubing but that's easily obtained and I won't need it for awhile, as I may not be working for several months (though I do want to prepare a freezer stash if I can).<br><br>
Some of my relatives are oddly freaking out about our lack of feeding supplies--not bottles, but sippy cups, bowls, baby spoons, baby food(!) and a high chair. Even using 1970s "start solids as soon as possible" guidelines, we wouldn't need that stuff yet anyway. (I do have everything on hand, except a place for the baby to sit, to do BLW.)
 

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I guess I'm the oddball. I'm ready, or as ready as one can be.<br><br>
I had lots of contractions--a few painful--this past weekend, which really kicked me into gear. Furniture is assembled and arranged. Clothes are washed and in drawers. Emergency list is ready. My daughter's schedule is prepared (from now until 15 July, the latest I can go) for my MIL, who will be with her while we're in the hospital. The new things (a second breast friend cover, a third swaddling blanket, a new Moby, a couple books that will actually belong to the babe, hygiene products) are purchased.<br><br>
But then, I'm a planner, and would be freaking out if I thought this kid could arrive without everything waiting. (Yes, I know I don't need a nursery for months, and those 3-6 and 6-9 month clothes could have waited in storage. . .but I know I won't have time for all that stuff once the babe arrives.)<br><br>
Note also that this was great procrastination for a woman trying desperately to finish writing a book <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">
 

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I have nothing for this baby other than 2-3 cute outfits my MIL bought and an old, unassembled crib that my mother bought (which I don't even think I'll use -- I have no idea how old it is and I don't trust it.). I just found out the date for my "secret" baby shower (<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">) so I'll be a little more prepared after that.
 

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I think I was a bit over prepared for ds...if that's at all possible. I had a ton of stuff that people had given me that was completely useless and just took up space. I'm taking a much more minimalistic approach this time around.<br><br>
I have plenty of clothes, cloth diapers, towels, blankets, a nursing pillow, and a car seat so I'm feeling pretty set! I kept ds's changing table, so I've got that all organized and ready to go. I just put baskets in there for clothes and dipes so I don't need a dresser yet. We also co-sleep so we don't have a crib. I thought about getting a pack and play, but figured a laundry basket lined with blankets would work just as well <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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I hope you LO stays put until term. If it makes you feel any better I walked around dilated at 3 for two months and DS was born at 38 weeks.</div>
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Thanks, it does make me feel better! Cognitively I know dilating doesn't mean anything, but past experience causes me to go straight to panic mode.<br><br>
I appreciate everyone's responses.
 

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We just bought her carseat, we have enough clothes (tank tops, a skirt, a few dresses-- it'll be HOT at the end of July in Kentucky), I have all her diaper covers but need to buy the inserts still (and am planning to this week or next when I get to the diaper store).<br>
All I really need to get is the birth supplies, and since we're moving at the end of this month (eek!) I'm waiting until we get settled in. The move is definitely a more urgent issue for me! All her stuff is in a box, actually. I'll be totally prepared in 3-4 weeks, I think.<br><br>
Also, I've been 2cm for a few weeks now (am 29 weeks). I was several cms for about a month with each of my boys (3cm with #1, 5cm with #2) and they were both born at 39 weeks so I'm expecting to go to 38-39 weeks again.
 

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I've got everything ready. Cloth dipes and wipes are washed and folded, so are all the newborn baby clothes and blankets. The nursery is all set up. The car seat is in the kitchen in case we need to grab it and go. All of our people are on standby, ready for the call. The moses basket has clean linens and is set up next to our bed.<br><br>
The only thing not ready yet is all the home birth supplies. We have them, they just are not organized. But the midwife came by today and dropped off all the drugs and supplies. I can have a hb in 3 weeks so we're a bit early, but it's set up.<br><br>
I had preterm labor with dd, with ctx every 3-5 minutes for 7 weeks. My water broke at 37 weeks and she was born a couple days later. When I went into labour that time, I'd progressed to 4cm 90% effaced by the time my water broke.<br><br>
Now at nearly 34 weeks, I'm 2 cm and having ctx every 3 minutes and she's well engaged in the pelvis. SO it could happen any time. Or drag on like this for weeks.<br><br>
But we're ready. If she's not born outside of the home, we have 2 sleeper type outfits she can wear home. I'd rather keep her skin from feeling the wind and all that even if it's hot, just because she'll be so fresh I want her to feel warm and womby for the car ride home.
 

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I think I have mostly everything, the most important stuff anyway, it was nice having it left over from DD and not having to acumulate it again. We have the carseat and a couple bases. Clothes (sleepers, etc), burp clothes, swaddle blankets. My cloth diaper stash is complete. We don't have a change table or crib yet but we'll get them. For the first while baby will be with me or in playpen beside me so that can wait. Now I just need baby to stay put until due date (July 25th) because our new house won't be ready until June 28th. We're staying with my dad for a few weeks/month and I'm debating if I should leave the baby stuff packed and have it in storage with the rest of our stuff for the movers to put in the new house or if I should keep a "baby bag" in case this one is early for some reason.
 

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Also, I've been 2cm for a few weeks now (am 29 weeks). I was several cms for about a month with each of my boys (3cm with #1, 5cm with #2) and they were both born at 39 weeks so I'm expecting to go to 38-39 weeks again.</div>
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Thank you for sharing!!!! Now I'm also losing mucus, did you have that with your boys?
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Thank you for sharing!!!! Now I'm also losing mucus, did you have that with your boys?</div>
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I did with my second starting around 32 weeks. It regenerates and keeps coming (although I didn't notice any in labor).
 

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I am mostly prepared. The only critical item I don't have: another infant carseat. Have one, but need two. Other than that, I am pretty well set. I do have some packing and nesting that needs to be done however. If someone could send some energy my way I am in desperate need of it!
 
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