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Hello, I am new to this board, this is actually my first post here. I never really looked into it but I think I may belong here. I guess I need to vent a little and get some suggestions or comments or whatever. DS is 10 months old and getting quite mobile these days, he isn't very sturdy sometimes so he tumbles and bumps his head every once in a while. I am sure most of the time it doesn't hurt but he cries a lot of the times. If I think he is really hurt I will pick him up but if I think he isn't I will just touch him and let him know it's ok and then he stops crying. Well...today he fell and he was laying there crying and DP just told him "you're ok buddy" and didn't even try to help him up ( he was sitting down and tumbled over). I am sure he was fine, but I couldn't just let him lay there and cry so I went over and picked him up. DP tells me I need to stop picking him up every time he falls because I am going to make him a wuss <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: Umm...hello...he's 10 months old not 16yrs. I actually said this to him. I told him that if I thought he was actually hurt I would go to him but if not I would at least talk to him and tell him it was ok, try to get him focussed on something else to forget about it and he would be fine if he really wasn't hurt . I am really bothered by this. I am affraid that DP's bringing up is going to be hard to get out of him. DS is starting to take steps if you hold his hands, but you have to hold both or he acts like he is scared. Yesterday at his moms he tried to get him to walk with just holding one hand and DS acted a little scared, so I told DP to get the other hand and he says to me " well he has to learn somehow, he has to leave the nest sometime or he will never do anything" DP seems to have this idea in his head that DS is not a baby anymore and he just needs to be left alone to learn everything. I told him if he gets scared he will stop trying to walk or do anything. Am Ibeing unresonable? If not what can I do to change his mind? Mybe if I start now, I can get his ideas changed before we start butting heads all the time.
 

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You are not being unreasonable. I'd be mostly ticked off that your DP seems to be getting in the way of your mothering instinct. If your instinct is to go to your son and hold him than I say do that. As far as the "He'll have to learn sometime" comment. I can 100% guarantee you that if you and your DP do absolutely nothing to ever help your DS to learn how to walk, he will walk anyway. Trust me you aren't going to be carting him of the kindergarten via wheel barrow.
 
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