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DD and I have a lot of fun, but mostly it's when we talk in the car (on the way to the doc/therapy/surgery/etc.) or in my half-attention while I'm working. DH is the roll on the floor guy. I feel like so much of my life with her is planning and researching stuff for her health care (financial and dx-wise), not quite as much is just play.<br><br>
Some of that is just me. I have a hard time letting go of all the hooha and just sitting down to play. Some is her. She would really just rather watch tv than anything in the world most of the time, and so trying to get her to play is just awful.<br><br>
Anyway, yesterday we baked bread together. It was really so lovely. She's getting where she's interested in and willing to follow directions (still won't eat the final product, but that's okay). I know that seems so small, and so many of you are much better at this part of mothering than I am. But, for me, it was just wonderful to feel pleasure in doing it instead of obligation. Does that make sense? It makes me really excited for the summer! She's doing ESY, but that's only until noon, so we'll have more time to play. And I'm actually looking forward to it. Which is a milestone for me!!!!!
 

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That's so great!!! I sometimes feel like I'm so busy trying to sort of fix my DD that I can't really enjoy her.<br><br>
If you guys enjoyed baking bread, you might like making playdough together!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">That's so great!!! I sometimes feel like I'm so busy trying to sort of fix my DD that I can't really enjoy her.<br><br>
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I might try that, though she HATES playdough (sensory). But, making it might get her interested in playing with it.
 

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Yay!! I'm happy for you (and I identify with much of what you wrote too).
 

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That sounds like fun! I love making things with my kids. But I am like you, I'm not really a get-down-on-the-floor type of parent. Most of this is because I have chronic neck/back issues and I live in constant fear of hurting myself and being unable to work, so I tend to avoid any situation that might bring about an injury.<br><br>
My oldest DS is a pretty "sensory" kind of kid, and one thing I've found that helps him is involving him in my gardening activities. He loves digging in the dirt and recently he started holding earthworms <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"> Believe me-this was HUGE. He's pretty much terrified of any kind of bugs or crawly critters, and for him to show interest in a worm was just totally cool. Maybe you guys could do something like that, too!
 

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Yay! I'm happy for you both. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I feel the same way. I'm a single parent and I am always researching or trying to work on something with my son. I never was one of those playful parents who always wanted kids. I have a hard time staying in the moment and playing on the floor with soldiers, etc., bores me to tears.<br><br>
However, I discovered that my son and I share the love of cooking/baking! So, we often spend time in the kitchen making muffins/cookies/breads, etc.<br><br>
I dread summer vacation with its lack of routine. My son LOVES tv as well and trying to get him to just sit and and work on something usually ends up in a screaming, crying, whiny kid and mommy. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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YAY for you and for Veegee! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><br><br>
And don't feel guilty about not being the "playful" parent. Parenting has so many roles, I don't think one is more important than another, as long as needs are being met, you know? She will remember those many drives in the car, the silly singing to the radio you do with her, those will be special memories for her just like rolling on the floor playing with daddy <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
You know what some of my most vivid memories of my mom are? When I was a teenager, and really busy with sports, I would get home very late at night and sit on the kitchen counter eating leftover dinner while she did the dishes. She and I would gripe at each other (we're both big venters <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">) until I was done eating and she was done with dishes (sometimes she'd gripe at me for not eating fast enough because she couldn't finish dishes until I was done eating!)<br><br>
My memories of my dad involve more of the "fun" stuff. But neither of those memories "trumps" the other, they're just...different...and still shaped me.
 

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Thanks y'all. After I posted this, I was worried that it really made me look bad. I'm trying not to worry about such things these days, but it's really nice to know I'm not the only one.
 

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Yay! What a wonderful milestone! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> And don`t worry, you are NOT the only mama who finds playing kinda hard. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">
 

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