Why are parents afraid of their children growing up?
I have been lurking and talking elsewhere. I repeatablely have seen parents (mostly mom) talk about how young 10, 11, 12, 13, and 14 for their child to start their periods, start an interested in boys/girls, wanting to be adult like.
There seems to be a looming fear of their children becoming sexual beings (having a sexual identity), adults, and responsible.
I keep on hearing "IT IS JUST TO YOUNG!"
I sit and think, no it is not to young just all this growing up is happening way to fast!! I feel alone with this thinking.
I am enjoying watching them grow up. I find it fascinating that my son, 9 (who has always been a lover boy and girl crazy) actually got embarrassed about a girl. I see the starting flames of puberty, even though I know it is some time off, but will come. I relish the phases and stages we are in, but I am not afraid of the next. They are supposed to happen! Why fight it? Why think they are too young, when biology dictates it? Why not enjoy it, like their first steps.
I remember my children's first steps. I was excited! Why is puberty and a child's development to adulthood any different, his/her's sexuality is part of it? It is like they are making their child's sexuality a dirty thing. Now, I am not talking about the Britney Spear's clothes for 6 yr olds nor the forced/sensationalized sexuality. I am talking about natural age appropriate growth and development.
Am I nuts to want my kids to grow up, become responsible, and enjoy (maybe savor or relish is a better term) what their bodies and minds are capable of.
I find their future growth as magical as the growth they had in my womb.
Why and I not afraid of this "next" stage, that admittingly will come much to fast? Am I wrong for not being afraid?
It is suppose to happen, why dread it? Why not find the joys in it?
Aren't we, as parents, supposed to be guiding our children through this journey? Why hinder it? Why despise it? Why try to rush it as infants/toddlers then try to stop and deny it in puberty, teens, and young adulthood? Why not enjoy the moments, growths, and milestones?
I am in no rush to see my children leave my home/care, but at the same time I am excited for their future and their possibilities. I greatly miss our nursing. I miss holding and rocking babies. But I see how long their legs have grown and I see how well they are doing and it makes me happy to be here at this stage with my children.