a new chat thread mid october...

parsley · Oct 21, 2011

Yeah, I agree with Zakdat, it's great to hear how everyone is doing. Terrific to know that everyone is basically fine even as we deal with exhaustion (I'm there too Zakdat!), complications, and family stresses. And, frankly, it's also kind of nice to hear I'm not the only grump!
 
Bluedaisy- I did start taking cranberry capsules each morning. I bought a type with probiotics too so I'm hoping this will make a difference. I'm also *trying* to be careful to pee when I feel the urge rather than hold it in forever in order to allow less time for bacteria to grow. But, it's so annoying to interrupt what I'm doing once and hour to walk all the way to the bathroom at work or go up the stairs (and get distracted too) at home. Lazy, much? I know... In fact, I should probably go pee now but instead I'll finish my post and check out some other threads too <img alt="shrug.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/shrug.gif">.
 
MamaShannon - so glad to hear that your sticthes seem to be holding. I have my eye on the viability mark as well so I totally understand how that can make time start to drag. 
 
I do want to share one especially nice thing. So, DH is always very kind and supportive of me. Even when I'm a stressed out monster. A big surprise in all this is how kind and sweet DD is. It's not like I'm being distant or (especially) grouchy she just seems to understand that things are hard for me and wants to make me feel better. 
 
For example, a few times when I've come home and my belly feels like it weighs a million pounds and I collapse on the couch, DD has said, "Mommy, how about I take half of the baby, daddy takes half of the baby and you only have to take half too. We should share since she's going to be all of our baby." How incredible, no? (And, I didn't even correct her math/language

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And, yesterday, DH and DD were picking me up after teaching an evening class (that is a major source of my stress) and DD had convinced (cheapskate) DH to buy flowers. She reminded me how on Mother's Day I had bought her flowers when she bought me flowers (my idea was that it has to be a happy kid's day in order to be a happy mother's day) and she announced that she thought we needed another "Happy Kid's Day and Happy Mother's Day" so she bought us two types of flowers (both pink) to put in vases next to each other and put in the living room. 
 
Sorry if this sounds like bragging, I don't mean it to be I'm really amazed by what a kind kid she is. And, this sweet stuff helps to mitigate the miserable stuff and also helps to remind me why I'm pregnant... it's definitely not for the sake of pregnancy... it's for the sake of having another kid. 
 
OK, now I have to pee and I'm crying.

atomicrocket · Oct 21, 2011

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For example, a few times when I've come home and my belly feels like it weighs a million pounds and I collapse on the couch, DD has said, "Mommy, how about I take half of the baby, daddy takes half of the baby and you only have to take half too. We should share since she's going to be all of our baby." How incredible, no? (And, I didn't even correct her math/language

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And, yesterday, DH and DD were picking me up after teaching an evening class (that is a major source of my stress) and DD had convinced (cheapskate) DH to buy flowers. She reminded me how on Mother's Day I had bought her flowers when she bought me flowers (my idea was that it has to be a happy kid's day in order to be a happy mother's day) and she announced that she thought we needed another "Happy Kid's Day and Happy Mother's Day" so she bought us two types of flowers (both pink) to put in vases next to each other and put in the living room. 
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That is so sweet! 
 
Kids are so great. The other day we were explaining to my 4 year old niece that there is a baby in my belly and she put her hands on it and said "It must be a pretty big baby!" It was pretty funny.

slimkins · Oct 26, 2011

parsley, what a sweet little girl you have. I loved the story. Thanks for sharing.
 
I have been so MIA around here, but only when it comes to posting. I lurk all the time, but just find a hard time posting. I think I always have so much to say, and don't want to get myself started.
It's nice keeping up with everyone, and I'm sorry for those of you ladies who are having some tuff times. Hopefully having a place to vent helps some.
 
Things are moving along on my end pretty nicely. Sometimes I can't believe how far along we are, but yet, I'm feeling ready (though I am not actually prepared at all) and feel like everything is happening at the right pace. I like having a real belly now, and not something that is in between. I had my 24 week appt. today, and all is well. I went ahead and reserved my midwife's birthing tub. It's $100 to rent (don't feel like buying one) and she already has the pump and all the stuff. I told my DH, and he said that if I don't use it, him and our son will. I guess that is his way of making use of the money spent. I didn't put any expectations on my birth last time, and don't want to this time, but feel that I would like to try harder and make a waterbirth happen. We shall see.

And my mom has been amazingly supportive even though I know this wouldn't be her preferred way for my to birth. I think she trusts our decision, and that makes me really happy. I don't think my inlaws know, though, and hope my DH tells them without me around.

hildare · Oct 26, 2011

slimkins, that's got to be exciting....
 
holy cow, ya'll.. a mama in the january ddc had her baby already. (so far everyone's ok, of course baby is in nicu but good.)

Gunter · Oct 27, 2011

I read lots of post back in the summer but was just keeping this pregnancy between DH and I. Sorry for the delay in joining but I have so enjoyed my DDCs in the past with my two precious ones. 
 
slimkins- sometimes, mamas will get in the tub AFTER the babe is born just to rinse off and snuggle. maybe that would work for you all to get your money's worth and all?

i am currently in bali, indonesia volunteering at a birth center here. i am a student midwife and their volunteer coordinator for a season while we are in between coordinators. this is our family's third trip in the past 5 years. 
 
otherwise, we live in north carolina. this is our third babe and we are super stoked about him/her coming to us. both of my girls were born into the hands of a midwife in NC at our house. we've got crazy politics there so forgive me if i don't talk about them or ramble on- it's a hot button issue for me.
 
we're Waldorf inspired homeschoolers and do all that AP, CD, co-sleeping kind of business. happy to be among good company. i know i am kinda late to join but hope to be welcomed and contribute as i can. thanks!

parsley · Oct 27, 2011

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Thanks for posting this Hildare. It totally freaked me out though. I just had my midwife appointment and I asked about traveling at 34 and 35 weeks if my placenta doesn't move (checking on 11/21!). Her first question was what's in the town we'd be travelling to. When I mentioned friends and family as one answer she said "OK. I just don't want you to travel anywhere where you won't have a support system in case you have to go on emergency bed rest and/or have an emergency c-section" (from bleeding due to placenta). She then suggested that she's want to work out a map with me so we always knew the closest hospital along my driving route so I would know where to go if an emergency happened. Yikes! I can't imagine already having a baby at that point... 30 weeks is so early (which is around where I think the mom in the Jan DDC was). 

ETA: Turns out she was 27w5d. That is so soon. Sounds like she and the babe are doing fine...
 
Welcome, Gunter! 

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TeamGR · Oct 28, 2011

Ummm... embarrassing question..... 
 
is anyone else leaking? After I pee, for a few minutes afterwards, it feels like I'm leaking. It doesn't really happen if I laugh or jump up and down or anything like that. But, it's annoying of course. I've been doing my kegels (never as much as I should, but that's how it goes). 
 
Is this normal? A sign that something else might be going on? Should I be concerned, or is this just a joy of 6 months pregnant? 
 
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hildare · Oct 28, 2011

i did more so last time than this time... somebody here on mdc gave me awesome advice, which was to pee it all out, then kind of rotate your body all the way around a circle (like middle school exercises, kind of) and more will come out. getting it super empty helps.
it also might come and go based on where the babe is in relation to your bladder. i've been using cloth pads (small ones) and just washing them with the underwear. it's really annoying and horrible but there isn't much you can do and you certainly don't want to under hydrate.
 
and parsley, i would just fall down freaking out if someone said that to me. i hope she told you that in a way that didn't make you anxious. yipes.

slimkins · Oct 28, 2011

TeamGR, unfortunately the same thing is happening to me this pregnancy. It really does stink. I had to wear a panty liner last time, but not cause of pee. ughh!
I wasn't sure what was going on at first, until I realized my underwear were smelling like pee.
 
hildare, I am going to try that. Makes since considering that I get more leakage if I am out and squat to pee at the restrooms vs. sitting at home. I think the squatting alone doesn't allow me to fully empty, so, that could help. I've given up, and decided it's time to just sit.

TeamGR · Oct 28, 2011

Thanks Hildare and Slimkins, glad to know I'm not the only one. The twisting thing has helped this afternoon so far, so I retain hope

tobemomof3 · Oct 29, 2011

I was feeling the boredom, too, until I feel on the stairs today! I had finally started relaxing, and I have to admit it scared me. My Sears book and online sources say it isn't a big deal, unless mom is seriously hurt baby is rarely affected, but it has shaken me up. I called my OB, who is very midwifey about birth, and teaches hypnobirthing, but I felt like she worried me more than I was. I explained I stumbled down 2-3 stairs, caught myself on my left hand and right knee, didn't land on my butt or bump my tummy at all. She said she needs to see me next week, take it easy, watch for slow down in movement (he's been moving plenty), etc. She said a placental tear can happen...don't tell me that! I guess I can only expect her to be cautious, I just wish she'd be more reassuring. I'm trying to focus on feeling the baby move, and getting back to my happy place : ) Anyone who wants to reassure me is welcome to.
 
(to zakdat: be gentle with yourself; you're doing great. picking up a pizza or getting some help around the house is sometimes what makes us smart moms. some women treat themselves to spas, i prefer someone to clean now and then : ))

Gunter · Oct 29, 2011

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I so know how scary that can be. When I was pregnant with my 2nd, I fell all the way down a flight of stairs. Concrete ones, outside at our house in Bali. I was pretty scratched up and called the MW over. She listened with the doppler to assure me we could hear the babe. I actually went into shock and started throwing up; I was so freaked out. All was totally fine though. No placenta tears or bleeding or anything. She's a boisterous 3.5 year old now. 
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Kaydove · Oct 29, 2011

tobemomof3 - I hope you're okay! Not fun to have your care provider getting you all stressed out. Didn't sound like too bad of a fall though.
 
Last night I choked on my water due to it going down the wrong pipe, and since I'm getting over a cold and pregnancy has made my gag reflex super sensitive, I threw up! I made it to the bathroom but most of it ended up on my feet. It was horrible! And I had to clean it up since my DH would have thrown up too. Then I couldn't sleep because I kept coughing. Ugh. And today posting on Facebook about how do people get pregnant more than once on purpose and commenting how I threw up my water, my friend commented how wonderful her pregnancy was and how it was everything she hoped it would be! That got me all riled up! Who says that to a hormonal pregnant person?! Instead of shrugging it off like I normally would, I said "Good for you, you can have a 1000 babies and I don't want to hear any crap from anyone about us only having 1". Some people have no tact, and pregnancy has made me feisty.

hildare · Oct 29, 2011

tobemomof3, i fell when i was preggers with dd, not badly, but my mother in law told me a story about how she fell out of a tree (???!!!) when preggers with my dh! they're so padded in there, try not to worry!
 
kaydove, that's weird-- i've been doing that too... the other day, i took a huge gulp of water and choked-- spit it all over my desk at work, in front of several people then coughed and coughed. so embarrassing.

tobemomof3 · Oct 29, 2011

I have a good friend who just became a CNM and she was very reassuring that my OB's reaction was a "medical model" reaction. It makes me wish I was with a midwife, but I just didn't find a group in my area that was small enough for me. My OB delivers all of her own patients, which is what I wanted, so... I appreciate the reassurance here, too! I feel a little sore today (my knee mostly), but preg symptoms are totally normal. OB said make sure I feel 5 movements within an hour three times a day (which midwife friend says is goofy)-I said I've felt him move more than that each of every hour since I fell! I'm really wanting to shift to trusting the process and myself (and not being hard on myself for falling), and venting and listening here is helping. Thanks Wonderful Women!

Gunter · Oct 30, 2011

tobemomof3- sorry but i messed up my previous post. 
 
I so know how scary that can be. When I was pregnant with my 2nd, I fell all the way down a flight of stairs. Concrete ones, outside at our house in Bali. I was pretty scratched up and called the MW over. She listened with the doppler to assure me we could hear the babe. I actually went into shock and started throwing up; I was so freaked out. All was totally fine though. No placenta tears or bleeding or anything. She's a boisterous 3.5 year old now.

parsley · Nov 1, 2011

Tobemom - glad you are ok. 
 
Kaydove - I so hated being pregnant last time. I couldn't stand when anyone said anything to me about what a wonderful time it was... all I knew was I was sick and had pimples and was stressed out. I think knowing how awful it was really helped me cope this time. I expected the worst and I'm pretty pleasantly surprised. So, there's always that <img alt="winky.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/winky.gif">
 
Hildare - I'm pretty shocked that I didn't freak out when I got that grave warning about traveling. Thing is, I sort of asked for the worst case scenario (see above

) so I had it coming. Even still, the idea that I shouldn't be more than 45 minutes away from a hospital at any time has me a little on edge.

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