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My dad passed away last month, due to a rare type of Parkinsons. We had gone two weeks before to the nursing home to suprise him with the news that I was pregnant. However, we found out that Mom had accidentally leaked the suprise and that he already knew. To "get her back" we told my dad the real names that we had chosen for the baby (we're giving everyone else the fake name of Indigo Sunshine). Although Mom tried over the next few weeks to get him to tell her the names, he took the secret to the grave <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/mecry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="crying"><br>
They also talked about something else. Dad told Mom that if he died before the baby was born, that he wanted some of his life insurance money to pay for our m/w and birth center. Mom told us last night about their conversation and informed us that all our costs for this birth will be taken care of with his insurance money.<br><br>
I also have a second motive for telling you all this story. Get life insurance. Do it for your kids, or for your partner, or for anyone else in your life that will have expenses after you die. This was an amazing gift my dad gave us, one that will really help us start off right with a new baby. Don't procrastinate - it's too important.<br><br>
Thank you, Dad. We miss you. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/bawling.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="bawl">
 

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I'm so sorry for your loss.. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"><br>
How awesome that your dad did that for you guys.. what a great parting gift! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I am so sorry for your loss.<br>
But what a great gift for you and your child.
 

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I'm sorry about your father, Trianna. My father died, wow, six years ago come March 23, but it still feels like he just died recently. His life insurance is what made our down payment possible. I joke that instead of a father, I have a house. Bad trade, eh?<br><br>
My mom died almost two years ago, when I was pregnant with Cale and Dillon. I was in the hospital for preterm labor when she went into hospice and couldn't go home to see her. I still regret it in my heart, like I should have gone against my doctor's recommendation, left the hospital, and flown home. But my brain knows I'd regret to 25 week premies even more.<br><br>
Anyway, pregnancy is a crappy, crappy time to lose a parent. I'm very sorry. ((Hugs.))<br><br>
* Jaime
 

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That is a beautiful story. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I'm very sorry for your loss.
 

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Aww, you guys sound like a close family. Some people's parents, yk, they find out you're going to a birth center with a mw and they're like "Oh hell no, you need a real doctor." But your dad was on board, that's so cool. And your mom followed through, that's awesome. What an awesome family! Sorry for your loss, he sounds like the greatest dad ever.<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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what a wonderful gift from your dad.<br><br>
IKWM about life ins. Dh and I have very larger policys so that one or the other is taken care of or our children will be very well taken care of heaven forbid they ever have to use it though.
 

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That is wonderful. May you daddy rest in peace. I am so sorry for your loss. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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That's such a tragic loss and such a heartfelt parting gift! We recently got life insurance and were surprised by the low cost. We got it for DD as well and she has the option of getting the money back when she turns 18.
 

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It sounds like your father was a great one. I'm soo sorry for your loss, but at the same time very happy for you that you will be able to have the birth you want. It will be wonderful to be able to link the birth of your child with a great gift from your father, you will have that to remember for the rest of your life... how beautiful! Your story has moved me to tears.
 

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I am so sorry for your loss. It sounds like you had a wonderful dad who loved you very much. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">s
 

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I'm a bit teary reading your story! What a selfless thing for your dad to be thinking about in his final weeks. It sounds like he loved you very much and was working very hard to have an impact on little "Indigo Sunshine" even if he couldn't be there in person. Your LO has a heckuva guardian angel!
 
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