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Kendall is finally head down! Yay!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy">:You guys know I've been pretty freaked about that, considering I'll be 36 weeks on Tuesday. I've gained another 2 pounds, bringing my pregnancy weight gain to a total of 14. Still occassional swelling, strong BH everyday but manageable. Other than that, things are great. The doc said that since everything was looking so good I don't need to come back for another two weeks. By then she's sure I will have dilated and the show will really begin.<br><br>
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So DP emails me at work on Monday and says he's ready to order the furniture.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/neg.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="negative"> tell him to wait until I get home so I can send him the info for the $100 gift card we got to save money. I sent the info but never heard back from him. This was Monday night. Today we're out at Cracker Barrel eating lunch and I say, "Oh, were you able to use the Target gift card info I sent you?" He says, "Oh I don't know. I haven't done it yet." <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/angry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="angry"> What do you mean you haven't done it yet? DP, you told me you ordered the furniture and that you were doing it this week! So you mean to tell me that if this baby shows up today, we have nowhere for him to sleep?! Are you freaking kidding me? I've been trying to be patient about him and this dang furniture for two months but the guy refuses to get it together. I'm a f$# it mood so Im just going to do it myself. Screw how much it will cost but I need somewhere for my child to sleep.<br><br>
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I've been complaining about how difficult things have really gotten for me interms of movement. I get out of breath easily, the weight, ect. Well, we're coming back from Blockbuster and I'm struggling to get up the stairs. He says he understands that now things would be difficult seeing as I'm in my ninth month. I said, yea, but I'll manage. He says, "Well, why don't you move back in with your parents for these next few weeks. That way you won't have to climb the stairs?" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/angry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="angry"> Dude are you serious?! My mother is already calling me fifty million times a day to check on me, do you really think I want to move back home and be annoyed? And why suggest I move in with them, why not suggest I move in with you? Idiot. His apartment is much closer to the hospital yet he moves me to move in with my folks. I am 27 years old, I haven't lived at home since I left for college (well, actually I did move back home right afterwards for a year and then moved out).<br><br>
I swear, men are so stupid. Please baby come soon because I'm about to strangle your daddy.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> Monique. Men can be clueless. Dh is moving on stuff now but I am constantly making him lists and I am here to constantly remind him.<br>
You are one together mama. I am sure it will all come together. Just try to enjoy these last few weeks, as much as you can. They go by so fast!
 

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Oh, I'm sorry! He's not done this before so he just doesn't have a clue.<br><br>
Have you looked into cosleeping? Our crib was a complete waste of money!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Oh, I'm sorry! He's not done this before so he just doesn't have a clue.<br><br>
Have you looked into cosleeping? Our crib was a complete waste of money!</div>
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I agree. We never owned one. But we loved our Arms Reach co-sleeper <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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Thanks for the support.<br><br>
I thought about a co-sleeper but we're thinking about saving money down the line by gettin ga 4-in-1 with the crib. Not sure if marriage on the horizon for us at this point, seeing as both we're pretty comfortable how we are, but I do want to make sure this child has somewhere to sleep. I'll just go ahead and order it myself.
 

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Awww...Guys can be rather thoughtless sometimes. went to the park tonight to watch fireworks and had to walk back up a big hill to get to the car....DH and dogs are going along just fine and then there is me, the big fat preggo about to pop huffing and puffing...I finally just called to him not to worry about me, I was going to take a nap and meet him at the car, hehe.<br><br>
As for the furniture thing, I totally hear you. We don't have wall painted yet and we won't have a bed for the baby until the middle of august. Seeing that the latest this little bug is offically going to be allowed to go now is July 21 ish ... well i think we will be cosleeping for at least a few weeks. hehe. I think we are going to do that anyway but I would like him to nap in the crib.<br>
And my mom keeps telling me there is nothing wrong with letting a baby nap in a laundry basket with a folded towel in the bottom. They are very portable that way too. hehe. I figure that as long as we have the car seat, cloth diapers and some clothes he can come anytime he is ready, hopefully not for 2 more weeks though.<br><br>
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<div style="font-style:italic;">I agree. We never owned one. But we loved our Arms Reach co-sleeper <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"></div>
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I just picked up a practically brand new Arm's Reach Mini Co-Sleeper off Craigslist. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy">:
 

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Dh drives me nuts, too with his procrastination! This is our LAST baby (and not planned, but NOT unwanted!) and he's been going to call the urologist to get fixed. Now this is HIS idea. I never pushed him on it, but he knows I don't care to put a bunch of hormones in my body and get on the pill. I'm due in 8 weeks and this lo will most likely be early based on my other births. He JUST called his primary care dr. for a referral! Then he has to wait until 7/25 for the consultation that is REQUIRED. Then the surgery won't be able to be scheduled until the middle of August - HELLO?!?!? That's most likely when the baby will be born! I can't have him just out of surgery one day and then the next go into labor!<br><br>
Makes me crazy! He just can't seem to think about the process of things and how long it takes in terms of when it needs to get done.<br><br>
Monique, sorry to take over here <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> Just know you're not the only one! And at least you're a few weeks beyond me! (And you've only gained 14 lbs!! I'm up to 40 now <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
And YEA he's head down!! That's always been a big worry for me, too.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Thanks for the support.<br><br>
I thought about a co-sleeper but we're thinking about saving money down the line by gettin ga 4-in-1 with the crib. Not sure if marriage on the horizon for us at this point, seeing as both we're pretty comfortable how we are, but I do want to make sure this child has somewhere to sleep. I'll just go ahead and order it myself.</div>
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A pack-n-play next to your bed works just as well. In case baby Kendall decides to show up before your furniture <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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My son just slept in bed with me and my hubby for the first couple weeks. I know someone who had her kiddo sleep in a dresser drawer (OPEN, obviously!!!) with some towels/blankets for padding when she was desperate. If the baby comes today, you still have some options. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Relax and try to enjoy the rest of your pregnancy. Your baby will NEVER be so easy to take care of as it is now <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
Yay on the heads down!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy">:
 

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I finally had enough today and went we went to reprice furniture. After getting rained on and soaking wet after visiting two stores, I was so mad about the fact that he wasn't even speaking to me that I just went home. We didn't speak to each other for about 4 hours and I was so depressed. Finally i checked my email and realized that ordered the furniture BEFORE we even went out. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy">: Apparently, the genius emailed me back from the email I sent him with the gift card info.<br><br>
I feel much better now.
 

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oh how funny!!! he must have felt so bad!! hehee!!! i am glad! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy">:<br><br>
That's exactly what I felt when my peanut turned head down! ouch!!!!
 

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I didn't mean buying a cosleeper. Just having baby in your bed with you. They are so small to begin with they take up very little space. My newborns have always slept in the crook of my arm <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I didn't mean buying a cosleeper. Just having baby in your bed with you. They are so small to begin with they take up very little space. My newborns have always slept in the crook of my arm <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"></div>
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Oh. I'm a pretty wild sleeper so I fear I would roll over on him.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Oh. I'm a pretty wild sleeper so I fear I would roll over on him.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"></div>
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You'd be surprised. I always thought that too. When I had my first it was by c-section <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> it killed me to get up and down to get her out of the bassinet. Plus I'd nurse her and as soon as I'd lay her down she'd wake up. So I just started keeping in bed with me (because sometimes I'd just fall asleep while nursing!).<br><br>
When you sleep next to your baby you become very in tune with each other. Dh says that in my sleep if he'd move I put my arm up to stop him.<br><br>
Dr Sears has a bunch of info about how breathing and heart rates link up on his<br><a href="http://www.askdrsears.com" target="_blank">website</a>.<br><br>
Its worth looking at at least, right? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> (please take this only as a third time mom trying to save you from 8 weeks of sleepless night until you finally give in and get some sleep, like I did)
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">You'd be surprised. I always thought that too. When I had my first it was by c-section <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> it killed me to get up and down to get her out of the bassinet. Plus I'd nurse her and as soon as I'd lay her down she'd wake up. So I just started keeping in bed with me (because sometimes I'd just fall asleep while nursing!).<br><br>
When you sleep next to your baby you become very in tune with each other. Dh says that in my sleep if he'd move I put my arm up to stop him.<br><br>
Dr Sears has a bunch of info about how breathing and heart rates link up on his<br><a href="http://www.askdrsears.com" target="_blank">website</a>.<br><br>
Its worth looking at at least, right? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> (please take this only as a third time mom trying to save you from 8 weeks of sleepless night until you finally give in and get some sleep, like I did)</div>
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I agree to that!!!!<br><br>
I was the same way, even my husband loves sleeping with the babies when they are so little and they too become very in tune. It's parenthood instinct, so amazing!<br><br>
I sleep a lot more when the babe sleeps with me, I breastfeed longer hours and more frequent. Sometimes I don't even notice when the baby has breastfed <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> cuz I sleep topless (when the 'leaking' stage has gone of course haha) The baby rarely cries too <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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According to my MIL her first son (my BIL) slept in a small clothes hamper for the first six weeks of his life "We could just pick him up and carry him anywhere around the house"
 

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Thanks Megan. I'll really consider that.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"> I'll at least try it one night. pray I don't squish the little fellow. LOL
 

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So glad to hear that K is head down and the baby furniture has been ordered! What a relief that must be! Men just do not get the nesting instinct.
 
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