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We're not going to find out the gender this time.<br><br>
I was thinking the other day that when the baby's born (homebirth), maybe I can get people to just not say what it is and unless I get a glimpse of the genitals, just let me hold my baby and FEEL him/her for a few minutes without knowing.<br><br>
If the boys are in the room, I know that will be out the window though!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
It's a romantic thought anyway. Something to make this last baby just that much more special.
 

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That does sound nice, but you just know someone going to yell out "It's a..." or "she/he is adorable". I am going to try as hard as possible not to find out as well. I could NEVER understand why people didn't want to know, but at this point I have a boy, I have a girl, I am prepared for either - so I would love not to know. I am going ahead with the ultrasound at about 20 weeks, so hopefully the tech won't blow it.
 

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That's what I keep thinking -- I'll want it a secret and someone will blow it for me <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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Heh, Gina Rae you might blow it for yourself at this point <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> You know what to look for in the u/s and unless you don't look at all....you might be presented with a very forthcoming baby <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> Happened to a friend of mine recently. There was noooo mistaking this was a boy and they weren't planning on finding out <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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I had exactly that experience at both of my births so far! It was awesome! After a minute or so, dh and I would look at each other and say, what's the sex? The midwife would say, I don't know, you'll have to look. They were so awesome not to say anything about gender. I told dd1 that she could tell us the sex this time. I'm also hoping that dh will be on the phone with me through the birth and will be able to discover the sex at the same time as me. I think that would be neat. I will be at a different birth center this time, but I will make it clear to everyone in the room that I do not want the gender announced. It is for me, and only me (unless dd wants to) to announce it.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I had exactly that experience at both of my births so far! It was awesome! After a minute or so, dh and I would look at each other and say, what's the sex? The midwife would say, I don't know, you'll have to look. They were so awesome not to say anything about gender. I told dd1 that she could tell us the sex this time. I'm also hoping that dh will be on the phone with me through the birth and will be able to discover the sex at the same time as me. I think that would be neat. I will be at a different birth center this time, but I will make it clear to everyone in the room that I do not want the gender announced. It is for me, and only me (unless dd wants to) to announce it.</div>
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That's how it happened for my sister and her husband. The baby was born and they were adoring the baby, and all of a sudden her husband said "what kind of baby is it?" She was (and is) a girl.
 

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I've thought about that! I have. But I remember that I am the WORST possible u/s reader ever. I can't "see" those things very well, so I am not sure that I WOULD be able to tell what the genitals are without someone directly pointing them out.
 

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I know I will be able to see if there is a good shot, so I am going to look away. I will keep my fingers crossed that one of the doctors doesn't tell me. They are pretty good about not telling people, right?
 

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We didn't find out with my son. After the midwives put him up on my chest, I said something along the lines of "Is it a boy or girl" and went to look, but then stopped and continued hugging him saying "....oh, I don't care I'm just so happy for it to be over" and didn't bother looking for a while. Little did I know that I still had the placenta to birth and 1 1/2 hours of stitching! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:
 

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We are in the same boat with a boy and a girl and don't want to find out this time. We had planned on not finding out with DS, but I was hospitalized aroudn 20 weeks and they did an ultrasound. It was virtually impossible to miss the fact that he was a boy...<br><br>
He STILL isn't shy about it either <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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i had a dream i gave birth unassisted. the dream was weirdly vivid and realistic, like i could almost feel the contractions/pushing etc, and when we finally delivered the baby we were so excited and happy that we didn't look for the sex, and then i woke up! the dream really seems to mirror the way i feel right know re: sex...like i'm really not hoping for one over the other.<br><br>
we're not finding out until the birth and i'll be curious to see how quickly i'll want to know irl.
 

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My hubby is in Iraq and we do not want to find out before the birth. I was thinking that if he is not on the phone or web-cam on laptop at the time then we will try and wait to find out till he is and have our daughter look and tell us. This will be her job and I think she will have a hard time not telling us as soon as she knows so I am not sure how that will work. She will be 8 by then, homeschooler, so I know she will be here for the home birth (unless she wants a family friend to take her out some place) and I know she will need a job.<br><br>
I spend so much time in my life waiting but with this, I do not feel rushed at least.
 

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That's a neat idea Kontessa. My hubby won't be here either, so I'm hoping he'll be on the phone or possibly webcam (though I'll probably be at a birth center) at the time of birth so he can find out the gender at the same time as us. I haven't given much thought to what I'll do if he's not able to be on the phone. It could be awhile before we talk if communications are down at the time (let's pray they're not for both of us!) Of course, I'll only be able to wait an hour at most since there will diaper changes. But I've told my (almost) 4 yr old dd that it can be her job to announce the sex of the baby, so I doubt she'll be able to wait very long. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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Alisha, I am not sure what your hubby does but my hubby is an enlisted, military intel. Been there since last October. Cell phones are not an option where he is but he calls on a pay phone once a day. He can call more often when he makes the time to and as he is running a certian kind of mission he can give himself time to come call me from that too. He will finally be getting internet in his room this week and will have it up on his laptop 24/7 so I can leave him messages even if he is not there and buzz him to wake him up if needed. If I go into labor while he is at work though, I just have to pray he calls soon as I will have no way of letting him know. Around that time though he will be calling often and his soldiers are understanding. It really is hit or miss though, just wanting the best we can get at this point. I am going to buy a lap top and web cam with wireless internet so I can drag it around the house with me in labor so hubby can be a part of it if possible.<br><br>
I wish for you the very best possible! Maybe your love can come home for leave about then? My hubby came home in Febuary and thus we are pregnant, but then they got extended and we thought he would be here for the birth, no such luck, he might be home end of January. The best made plans..... -sigh-<br><br>
Waiting on so much these days. As long as baby is healthy, we are happy.
 

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My dh is enlisted, aviation support. He's actually leaving sometime this coming week. That helps me to understand how it would work when I go into labor. I was wondering if there was a way to call him or if the Red Cross would give him a message that I was in labor (I figured not). DH has a laptop there and will get internet in his room as soon as he's able. We have one webcam, just have to get one more for dh, but I have no idea if the birth center has wireless internet or not. I'm doubting they do. So, I'd be happy to have him on the phone. I'll make a video to send him. Since I'm not planning on being induced (and I've had one a week late and one a week early) he's going to request to have his R&R 2 weeks or so after my due date to ensure that baby is here. So, he won't be here. It's just such a crapshoot to try and plan on him being here and I'd rather know that I'll have a support person with me (my mom who can stay as long as I need her) versus dh possibly being with me or not, kwim. We've thought long and hard about this decision since there's so many pro's and con's either way. Who knows, we may change our minds, but I kind of doubt it. My dh will have a long deployment as well, as long as 18 months, so after we see him at R&R it could be a year before we see him again. Too bad they don't give 2 R&R's for such long deployments.
 
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