[calngavinsmom]

I just want to write in words what I feel in my heart about this issue and how wonderful my husband is bout it.

My husband is circumcised. He was circumcised at birth in 1973 when it was "just done". My MIL doesn't even remember being asked. He harbours no resentment about it however because he says it is all he has ever known.
Those are his feelings and I respect that.

But, all this aside, not even once did it enter his mind that the son we were expecting needed to "look" like him in that respect. From the beginning, he just wanted what was best for our son-to-be. All he asked for was info from credible sources about what circ is, what were the benefits/risks and also the prevelance of the procedure. He totally respected my point of view, never, ever pulled the "I'm the man with the penis, I know better than you" crap. He never needed to feel that he was "better" in any way because he was circed. He totally respected our sons point of view. He has never seen him as "his" (posession) to be made into his own image or mould.

He said to me a while back that if we had made an uninformed decision about circ and had just done it because he is, and had learned what we now know about circ after the fact, his heart would be broken for what we did to our son. He now speaks out against circ to anyone who wants to discuss it. He also backs me up 100% when it comes to the work I do for my "cause". Both emotionally(as a sounding board) and financially(money for fliers, ordering online articles ect.).

My husband is the most caring, unselfish, giving, respectful person to the people he loves. We are all very lucky to have him in our lives.

We often hear about the husbands who fought against their wives wishes not to circ their boys, I thought it would be nice to hear about some who supported this "non-decision".

I hope to hear more tributes (from anyone who is still reading LOL)

Happy Fathers day Jeff, We love you!

Take care,
Tara

 

[Smilemomma]

Amen! A tribute to the fathers who didn't feel the need to mutilate their sons in retribution, guilt, or just plain status quo feelings.

Happy Father's Day to my dh, who didn't and doesn't bat an eye that his son is intact, and who also isn't shy about bringing up the subject with any of his friends, whether they are expecting or not.

 

[LavenderMae]

My dh was also born in 1973 and circed. He isn't too happy his parents chose to do it though. I doubt he'll ever talk to them about it though they aren't too close.
All I needed to tell my dh was that circ was painful and unnecessary and he knew he didn't want to do it. He has made sure to tell his friends why circing is bad and why foreskin is better (eventhough they are all circed).

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Amen! A tribute to the fathers who didn't feel the need to mutilate their sons in retribution, guilt, or just plain status quo feelings.

INDEED!!!!

 

[PuppyFluffer]

Another tribute to a wonderful husband and father!

After the relationship of my life (or so I thought) fell to pieces due to my boyfriend's hidden drug addiction, I came to dating with a much different agenda. I knew I wanted a solid man in my life, I knew I wanted a family and I knew I wanted a man who would conduct himself in a manner that would assure he'd be in my life for the long haul! I was 30 years old and suddenly single and didn't have time to waste.

I had come to question circimcision when I had the opportunity to have a little fun with an uncircumcised man (many years ago). I regret I was as inexperienced in the ways of sex at that time because I would have been much more bold and inquisitive with him. I can say that the experience was more pleasurable due to his foreskin and this made me think about circ. It was something I had previously not thought about. I learned how unnecessary circ was and I learned about restoration, just that it was possible. I knew I'd never allow circumcision to happen to a baby of mine.

After the destruction of my previous relationship, I had really raised the bar! (and remember, I didn't have time to waste!) On the first date with dh, I asked him over dinner "What do you think about kids?" I still remember the look on his face as he froze with a fork full of linguine. He said "They are a great excuse to buy toys" with a smile on his face. I thought "well, he passed that test!" As we got to know each other, the talk of family got more serious and I asked him what he thought of natural childbirth (he said it seems pretty natural to me!), breastfeeding ("what else would you do, that is what breasts are for isn't it!"), co-sleeping ("makes sense to me. I wouldn't want to have the baby across the house from us").....and circimcision......and he said "I'd NEVER to that to a boy and frankly, I'd like mine back!" And when he said that, it was a real "ah ha" moment! Here was my man!

I would never consider marrying and making babies with a man who would request and consent to harming his child. If he had not been instantly on board with me on this topic, I would have presented the info about it and if he still supported infant circ, there wouldn't have been another date. End of story.

Dh and I have one child, a wonderful little girl. I love her dearly. We plan on having another baby. I hope it is a boy so I can share his natural body with friends and family. I want others to see how easy a diaper change is on a normal boy.

I have the "get yourself informed" discussion with pregnant women when I can. I have also talked to men about it too. When I'm out with dd, strangers come up and talk to me about how cute she is.....and the chit chat comes around to how wonderful kids are....and frequently I ask the person if they have kids. If they don't, I usually say something like "kids are wonderful fun and alot of work" and I go on about the responsibility to learn and inform yourself so you can make the best choices for them......and I tell them to consider what circimcision really is and to research vaccines. I have never had that chit chat go badly. People have been interested in thinking about it. I just tell them that they don't know all that they need to and that they owe it to their kids to really know about things that will permanently alter their bodies. I come away knowing I have planted a seed and once planted it will probably start to take root.

The change in circ rates will come because individuals like us advocate for children to have thier birth right - the body they were born with! And because fathers advocate for their babies and help inform people......goodness knows it won't come because the medical folks say it's innecessary!

 

[Ilaria]

Another tribute to a 70s circ dad who saw no need to mutilate his son!!

Just yesterday, after Owen's birthday (pool) party and after seeing many cut boys, he said: "Another good thing about Owen not being circ'd is that his pecker is longer and points down and not at a weird angle straight ahead. Circ'd penises looked weird to me!"