pretty well and BAM. I'm sorry. It just sucks that some
men don't want to be adult for the well being of their dc.
Aaaaarrrrrggggghhh!!!!
WHY?!?! Do I let him get to me!?!?!?!?!?!
Sorry, ladies, it's been a long time since the ex got on MY LAST NERVE and set new RECORDS FOR BEING A COMPLETE DUMASS....... I actually thought we were on a good solid road to being good friends again and now we're back to "I hate you and never want to speak to you again".
I think I'm actually going to have to walk away now and I'm kind of sad
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pretty well and BAM. I'm sorry. It just sucks that some
men don't want to be adult for the well being of their dc.
I have been there...many many times.
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Thanks ladies - I just don't, for the life of me, understand how someone can be willing to walk away from their own flesh and blood because they are mad at the other parent for something totally unrelated to the child or the relationship, etc.
For the record, I did do something kind of low and I don't blame him for being hurt or mad. BUT THAT WAS OVER A YEAR AGO & WE WERE ALREADY SPLIT UP!
Come on, we're adults here. Be mad at me, fine, but don't bring up term'ing your rights so you don't have to talk to me anymore!!
OK - I'm getting all riled up again.
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For the record, I did do something kind of low and I don't blame him for being hurt or mad. BUT THAT WAS OVER A YEAR AGO & WE WERE ALREADY SPLIT UP!
Come on, we're adults here. Be mad at me, fine, but don't bring up term'ing your rights so you don't have to talk to me anymore!!
OK - I'm getting all riled up again.
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hmmm... all i can say you chose a reeaaaaaaaaaaaly sensitive man. cannot forget an incident over a year ago. can you apologize or was it so deep he didnt accept ur apology.
term. rights is BIG. but if that is what it takes to bring peace in ur life and your children's so be it. they will adjust and find other role models eventually.
i mean is he going to use this everytime u guys disagree?!!! or is he JUST saying it. u'd be surprised at teh things they say and then say they didnt really mean it.
also remember how u think of ur flesh and blood with whom u live and whom u raise - they dont feel teh same way as you do.
sooooo..... from someone who has BTDT - learn how not to let him get you so upset. sorry that u will have to do all teh work, but unfortunately that's how it seems to flow.
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it certainly deeply hurts doesnt it when u find they dont care for ur kids the way you do - esp. when they created them and have been in their lives so far.
Originally Posted by woobysma Thanks ladies - I just don't, for the life of me, understand how someone can be willing to walk away from their own flesh and blood because they are mad at the other parent for something totally unrelated to the child or the relationship, etc. For the record, I did do something kind of low and I don't blame him for being hurt or mad. BUT THAT WAS OVER A YEAR AGO & WE WERE ALREADY SPLIT UP! Come on, we're adults here. Be mad at me, fine, but don't bring up term'ing your rights so you don't have to talk to me anymore!! OK - I'm getting all riled up again.
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term. rights is BIG. but if that is what it takes to bring peace in ur life and your children's so be it. they will adjust and find other role models eventually.
i mean is he going to use this everytime u guys disagree?!!! or is he JUST saying it. u'd be surprised at teh things they say and then say they didnt really mean it.
also remember how u think of ur flesh and blood with whom u live and whom u raise - they dont feel teh same way as you do.
sooooo..... from someone who has BTDT - learn how not to let him get you so upset. sorry that u will have to do all teh work, but unfortunately that's how it seems to flow.
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I lost a whole post the other night about this.
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: Basically, it wouldn't make any difference in our lives if he did TPR - he has zero impact on the kids' lives. He calls me daily or a few times a week to discuss how to re-enter our lives, but he doesn't see the kids (he's lived several states away for several months). I thought we were on our way to being good co-parents, but I was mistaken, obviously. I think it was more about getting back in my life than getting back in the kids' lives.
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I'm just going to leave it for him to fix. If he calls, great, if he pays cs, great, if not, I really could care less at this point. I swore to myself that I wouldn't let him disappoint me again, so I need to stop facilitating him being a lazy, selfish butthead.
I'm just going to leave it for him to fix. If he calls, great, if he pays cs, great, if not, I really could care less at this point. I swore to myself that I wouldn't let him disappoint me again, so I need to stop facilitating him being a lazy, selfish butthead.
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