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So I'm somewhat freaked out by cockroaches. The other night, I saw one scuttling over the kitchen table and called to DH to deal with it. He was in bed, but not asleep, and refused to get out to kill it, telling me just to leave it. In my book, that's one of the things you <i>just don't do</i> - if a spouse finds something repulsive and horrible, you deal with it on her behalf. So I couldn't deal with the thought of it loose in the house, and being a giant pansy had to do a complicated routine of knocking it off the table with a broom and flinging boiling water on the kitchen floor (don't knock it, it works!).<br><br>
I was initially furious at DH, but eventually thought perhaps I'd overreacted because he was, after all, in bed. Still, I mentioned it in a mock-peeved way today to DH on the phone, and he said "I guess now's not a good time to tell you I saw a roach crawling on our underwear chest the other day, but I was busy working and couldn't be bothered dealing with it, and it went inside and I don't know what happened to it?"<br><br>
AAARRRGH! I've been WEARING underwear from that chest! And he was sitting ON THE BED at the time, which is right next to - in fact, <i>touching</i> - the underwear chest. But he couldn't be bothered not letting a filthy creepy-crawly crawl all over my panties?? Someone tell me it wouldn't be overreacting to, I dunno, <i>kill him</i>. I'm disgusted.
 

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Yeah, I would have been really ticked. I have a thing about spiders, and DH even came home from work at lunch once to kill one.<br><br>
But I suspect that this set up has more to do with my spider loathing than my DH being a good guy. He also has a thing about killing pests, so it works out. He likes freezing the spiders with compressed air. He also killed three mice with his shoe a few weeks ago. I'm just glad i wasn't there for it. Yuck.
 

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I would totally freak. I would be LIVID if my DH told me that. I have a serious problem with bugs, especially roaches. Honestly, there is no way my poor DH would have been able to sleep after I found a roach...I wouldn't let him. I'd be freaking out and pulling on him until he killed it, lol. So yeah, I wouldn't say you are overreacting. Just the thought of a roach crawling around in my panties makes me feel sick.
 

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Um, yeah. I might cut him some slack on the not getting out of bed thing. I wouldn't be happy but I'd figure at least the roach was properly dealt with. But the letting it go because he was too busy??? Yuck. And not at all okay. I'd be really, really, really, really angry. And I'm not at all sure what it would take for him to get back in my good graces. I think I'd tell him he needed to empty out the entire set of drawers and make sure the roach wasn't lurking in there and then he'd need to put everything back in just as it was to begin with. That's just for starters.<br><br>
(OT but I once killed a spider by freezing it with liquid nitrogen. I had gone to the basement to refill the dermatologist's little canister--I worked there and it's used for freezing warts. I was wearing sandals and saw a huuugggee spider. No way was I going to step on it, the legs might have wrapped up around my shoes after all. So I froze it.)<br><br>
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i'm sorry for finding this thread hilarious. crl, you're killing me. also super weird - i had a dream this morning that we discovered a few cockroaches in the kitchen (i don't even think there are any, where we live).<br><br>
anyway, the first thing, you handled it yourself and it was fine! i don't think it's reasonable for one adult to get out of bed to deal with something like that, for another adult, unless you had, like, a debilitating phobia, which you obviously don't. but the second thing?! SO WRONG. so, so wrong. wrong for him to not get the cockroach if he was right there, and even more wrong, in my book, to then tell you about it.
 

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I totally agree with you, OP. He should have gotten out of bed. Obviously, it bugs you WAY WAY WAY WAY WAY more than he, so it was his job.<br><br>
If my DH did such a thing in such a situation, we'd be moving within a day or two to a (hopefully) non-infested home. AND he'd be doing all the packing!!!
 

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ugh, I would be mad too. You need to get some roach traps or something soon. You can't depend on him to look after it for you <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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I once left my apartment because I saw a roach and sat outside for 4 hours until dh came home from work.<br><br>
I also once killed a roach by throwing a phone book on top of it and then left it there for several days until dh came back from a business trip to clean it up. (Squashed roach. Ugh.)<br><br>
Needless to say, I think you're right.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Someone tell me it wouldn't be overreacting to, I dunno, <i>kill him</i>. I'm disgusted.</div>
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I say do it. No jury would convict you, at least if I were on it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I also once killed a roach by throwing a phone book on top of it and then left it there for several days until dh came back from a business trip to clean it up.</div>
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I did that once with a spider <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> except it was a coffee table book on WWII <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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Oh I feel your pain. Recently I found a big spider behind our bed and dh goes "Oh I saw that spider on my side of the bed the other day but didn't want to wake you up by killing it so I just left it." So I slept there unassuming for a few days with a big spider right behind me. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shake.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shake">
 
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