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My son is 15m. I need to work. DP will be watching DS at night when I work, as I watch DS during the day. My new job is 5p-midnight. Now DP will be putting him to bed and we are kind of worried about how this will affect DS. I still nurse DS to sleep...it is the ONLY way to get him to sleep. DS's normal bed-time is 8:30p. Usually he nurses for 30-45 min, then rolls away and falls asleep on his own.<br><br>
Has anyone else had a situation like this? How did your LO handle it?<br><br>
I will be letting DS nurse all he wants after I get home at night. Do you think he will be angry with me? We *do* co-sleep. DS has his own mattress next to ours, but that lasted for about one night!<br><br>
I guess night-weaning is not the real problem, but how DP will get DS to sleep. He wants to just let DS CIO, but apparently has tried this before and couldn't bear to let ds cry. Any tips?
 

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have you read Dr. Jay Gordon's <a href="http://www.drjaygordon.com/development/ap/sleep.asp" target="_blank">article on nightweaning</a>? It's not abrupt, and seems to be a lot gentler and more effective than a lot of other methods. It worked well for me when DS was about a year old, except that I stretched each stage out over a week or so instead of days. I started with putting him to sleep with no nursing at naps only, and our regular routine at night for a few weeks, and then transitioned to no nursing to sleep at night, and then to no nursing at night. Knowing that I would comfort him no matter what-even though I wasn't nursing him to sleep anymore-seemed to help the transition go smoother for both of us, as did having my DH get up with DS some of the time.
 

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Could your husband feed your son a good snack at around the time he usually gets sleepy, and then put him in the sling and walk with him until he drops off? I realize it'll be hard at first, and your son will probably be restless until you get home and latch him on -- but I think your baby will adjust, especially since he still gets you for the greater part of the night.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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Its only for about 4 hours til you get home?<br><br>
He'll probably either stay awake those four hours, or (more likely) sleep fitfully til you get home for the first few nights. Hopefully your DH is okay with not going to bed until you are home for a few days - might not happen that way but there will most likely be an adjustment.<br><br>
DH can walk him, rock him, take him for a drive in the car - they'll find their own way.<br><br>
I don't really consider it nightweaning since its really jusy delaying nursing for four night time hours.<br><br>
So who will be getting up with him in the morning? You? If so, I wonder if you are going to get enough sleep, since he'll probably nurse for an hour or so when you get home then several more times throughout the night to make sure you're still there. Maybe it would be ok if your DH can't get him to sleep and instead he gets on your schedule and you both sleep late, so that you get enough sleep.
 

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I work those same hours, and DD (almost 12 months) is home with DH while I work FT. It's the only way she's ever realy known, I had to go back at 7 weeks.<br><br>
For us, DH puts the baby to bed at night with a bottle, and she usually wakes to nurse sometime after I get home. Occasionally, she'll be waiting for me to get home, but in the past 10 months, I think that has happened about 3 times total.<br><br>
Your DH will find a way. Start now, maybe, nursing your son and letting DH do the getting him to sleep part. It may take rocking, swaying, patting, glider time whatever, but they will find a way. DH's way to get DD to sleep is totally different thatn mine, and they had to find it together themselves.<br><br>
Have him reassure your son that you're coming back. That when he wakes up, mama will be there and it's OK. If your DH is OK with it, chances are your son will be too.<br><br>
Can you pump milk and have DH feed him in a bottle or sippy?
 

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Yes I was planning on pumping milk at work. I don't know if he'll take it in a sippy, last time I went out at night for "me time", ds wouldn't eat or drink anything for daddy, dp said he just screamed and screamed. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> He said he'll probably take ds for a drive at bedtime every night--that also puts him to sleep.
 

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You can try starting the Pantley Pull-Off; that might help him learn new ways to get to sleep. Sometimes DS will go to sleep for DH by bouncing and shushing (although usually he's like "DADDY'S HERE! IT'S PLAYTIME! but if he's tired enough he'll do it).
 

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Deleted because I realized the joke was in poor taste and violated the UA.
 
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