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I have an 8 yr old who is accident prone (and i think her 4 yr old sister is following suit<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
On a daily basis (usuually 3-5 times a day each) my DD's hurts themselves by barrelling around the house and into things, or by stepping on things. It is really hard on everyone - they get hurt,thye cry or get angry and I:<br><br>
a) am fearful they might really hurt themselves<br>
b) tired of constantly having whatever I am doing interupteed by the "crisis"<br>
c) frustrated with telling them to watch where they are going, slow down, pay attention to their surroundings.<br><br>
They see fine, I have had them tested.<br><br>
I am feeling like a bad mommy<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">: Sometimes I do not care that they have hurt themselves - it is like what, again? I do not want to appear/be unsympathetic but it is hard to be sympathetic all day long, KWIM? I do not think they are doing this on a conscious level, but I do not know how to react. Give them attention = reinforce negative behaviours. Not give this behaviour attention= appear unsympathetic.<br><br>
ahhh...daughter just banged her head crawling under the computer table as we speak....<br><br>
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You say you had them tested . . . was a hearing test involved? I'm deaf in one ear due to an accident when I was 7, and since then my equilibrium has always been off -- making me clumsy and accident prone (8 stitches between my first & second toes on New Year's Eve - <i>before</i> champagne!). Do you notice any hearing issues?
 

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another possible source: sensory processing dysfunction (aka Sensory Integration Disorder) - read the "The Out of Sync Child". Some kids just don't have a very good sense of where they are in space or how they should move (vestibular dysfunction) and some are just not very coordinated (dyspraxia is the formal term).
 

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my 4 year old is exactly the same and everything is a complete crisis <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:<br><br>
i just tend to pick him up dust him off and give him a quick hug and say up you pop, there we go and not get any more onvolved than that, because if i spent 10 minutes comforting him every time there would be nothing else done. he really does throw himself around and then wonders when he hurts himself!!
 

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My dd is also very accident prone, though she has a very high tolerance for pain. She also has SID issues though no dx. So I second checking into SID.
 

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Will look into SID - is their anything you can do about it???<br>
I think their hearing is fine - youngest DD was checked, although older one has not been.<br><br>
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Are they getting plenty of sleep <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">?
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Will look into SID - is their anything you can do about it???<br>
I think their hearing is fine - youngest DD was checked, although older one has not been.<br><br>
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Yes, our son is in occupational therapy for SID and it's done wonders for him. He wasn't accident prone so much as he simply wouldn't try things. He was also hypersensitive to sound and touch, had poor fine motor skills, poor balance and poor bilateral coordination. (I didn't even know there WAS such a thing as bilateral coordination - but it's connected to the vestibular system, which is why the suggestion to get their hearing checked is a good one too).<br><br>
SID seems to be have two ends - some kids are hypersenstive (my son) and some are undersensitive. The undersensitive kids will literally run into walls, jump off incredibly high things, etc. to try to get some sensory feedback. There are also kids who have dyspraxia, in that they just can't coordinate the movements of their bodies.<br><br>
Our son loves going to OT -- heck it's a big gym filled with places to climb, swing, jump etc.
 

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My 4 yr. old son is super klutzy, too. I thought it was just normal, until my littlest started crawling and walking without getting several new bruises every day (I don't think he's even had 1, and he started walking 5 mos. ago!)<br>
Julian hears fine, is not uncoordinated-- he can ride a 2-wheeler, swim well, dive, he's great at gymnastics and soccer.... he's just hyper and doesn't pay enough attention to where he's going. He runs into walls all the time. He trips over his own feet when running on flat ground. I don't think anything's wrong, he's just a klutz. His dad tends to be the same way, but was never any good at sports.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">another possible source: sensory processing dysfunction (aka Sensory Integration Disorder) - read the "The Out of Sync Child". Some kids just don't have a very good sense of where they are in space or how they should move (vestibular dysfunction) and some are just not very coordinated (dyspraxia is the formal term).</div>
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Yes, yes and yes. My SID child is very clumsy though she has improved dramatically from OT.
 
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