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DS starts at his new DC on July 7th. How have you gotten your LO's adjusted to a new DC or caregiver? Unfortunately, when I started DS at his current DC I left him there for 4 hours straight with almost no introduction and then left him the rest of the week almost full days. Needless to say, he was miserable there. This time I want to do it right.<br><br>
I was thinking of taking the first day off work and taking him to DC just to hang out for a few hours with me there and then the next day leave him for a half day. Does that sound like enough time to get him acclimated? What have been some of your strategies? I want to make this as smooth as possible.<br><br>
DS is 6 months old, if that makes any difference. He is not at the peak of separation anxiety, but he already understands when I am about to leave him. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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Honestly mama, I would do it the way you did it the first time. I think that spending a few hours with him at the DC sends the message that this is a place where the two of you hang out together, which will make it harder to leave him. If he was older (12 months or so), I might try a tour a day or so ahead, with explanations, but at six months, I'm not sure it makes any difference.
 

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I disagree. One of my new clients brought her daughter over for a few short visits to hang out with us. I think it was important that she got the vibe that her mom knew and trusted me and that I had a chance to interact with her with mom there. In your shoes, I would have 3-4 brief visits to the DCP's house where you just hang out, spend time talking with the DCP, hand ds off to her while you go to the bathroom, etc. Let him see her as someone you know and trust.
 

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In my opinion, the best way to acclimate a child to daycare is to spend as much time there with the child as possible. A good DCP should encourage this (IMO). Can you take some vacation half days and stay there? For one thing, I think it might make *you* feel more comfortable, which might help with some of the separation anxiety.<br><br>
People have different experiences/opinions with this -- mine definitely leans towards the "spend time there with the baby." But I understand how people have different experiences.
 

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I was just coming to post the same question. My dd will be about 2.5 when she starts at a home daycare the end of August. I feel like I want to get my child acclimated to the situation and don't feel comfortable just leaving her there 8 hours right from the get go. This is her first time in a daycare situation. I mentioned to the dcp that I wanted to take it slow and get her adjusted and she said that she's never really had anyone do that before, but that she would accommodate us. When we started having a nanny watch dd this summer we took it slow. When it came time for the real schedule (3 days a week for 8 hours), it was 2-3 weeks of super clingy, whiney child. But now I think she's doing really well with it and love spending time with the nanny.<br>
I am interested in hearing how others have handled the situation.
 

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our daycare provider requires that we come for at least 2 days before we start there. she really wants us to come in 45 minute stretches and hit the whole day over time, such that she gets exposure to the full routine (not that it's very routinized). also there is a phase-in period, individualized per child, but i think it usually takes 2 weeks until they are up to full time? will post more when i know more. dd starts in early sept.
 
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