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Hello there,
My son just finished his college, he has a degree in hotel management. Now, he is saying that he wants to work, and doesn’t want to study further. Me and husband want him to study further and get a PG too, because we know that in today’s world, you cannot survive long with just a degree. But, my son is just so adamant that he doesn’t want to study further. He wants to make money asap and start living his own life, so that we can’t stop him from doing whatever he likes. He wants to live life on his own terms , without us interfering . I’m soo worried about him. He has even got himself registered with some recruiting agency called The Executive Wing, a recruiting agency. I feel he is too young and immature to work. I just don’t want him to fall in the wrong place and spoil his life. What can I do to make him understand the importance of studies ? Am I the wrong one here ? Or has he taken the right decision by getting himself registered with the recruiting agency ? I checked their profile and found it to be good . But, still not so sure about it. Please help.!!
 

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I think most people with a bachelor's degree in hotel management go straight into the workplace. That's one of those degrees where one should be able to get a good start and get their resume looked at by an employer. So I agree with your son.
 

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This kind of feels like a thinly veiled advertisement. I'm sure @iamsusan you don't want anybody coming on here thinking you're just advertising or trying to get clicks for that company, so I think you should remove you link.


I assume your son is about 22? As everyone will tell you, he's an adult now and is free to make his own decisions. As kids move from children to adult, our role becomes that of an advisor. You don't want your relationship to become strained with your son. Give him your advice if you must and then help him with whatever decisions he makes.


Welcome to parenting an adult child!
 

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There are many fields in which one can be successful that don't require a degree at all. I think Hotel Management is one of those. If he wants this as his career, he should just start working. If he doesn't want to be an academic, I don't see the point of continuing to study.
 

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I agree with the others. And he can always go back to post grad study later if he wants too. It's probably actually better to work first because then he will know what specialist knowledge he wants to pursue.

I started working full time two months after I finished my degree. I had just turned twenty. Two and a half years later I started a Masters and a year after I finished that I started a post graduate diploma in a different specialty. Having worked for a few years I could see the relevance of what I was learning and knew what I wanted to gain from the courses. I did much better in both of them than I did in my undergrad degree. I now work casually in both specialties which suits me very well.


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So has he gotten something like 16 years of formal education? He's understandably ready to join the real world now! Desire to work and live his own life is great, not something every young man has, embrace that he is a motivated adult!
 

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As the mother of a 22 yo, 21 yo and 19 yo - I agree with your son.

Believe me! I felt like you did for years. My oldest showed all the signs of not being ready for college and we pushed our agenda because ' you have to have a degree'. Fast forward to now and the boy seriously needs to fail on his own and pull himself up on his own.

I know it is hard!!! :hugs It will break your heart. Not to mention the fear you have for them deep inside.

But! Better for him to fail now and realize you are right. And then correct well before it becomes too late to correct. Or - even better - he jumps into work and becomes wildly successful - matures overnight - and makes you even more proud then you ever thought!
 

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I agree with your son... Because it's not about having a UG or PG degree but how efficient are they to do their work and his knowledge on subjects. Hotel management is one field where you can shine even with a UG degree. Allow him to try getting into a work...that will do him more good.
 

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Whether you or any of us agree with your son or not, you have to let him learn (and fail) on his own. We can't protect our children forever, and if they are truly too immature to work, the real world will get them up to speed in no time!
 
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