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For those of you that have limited means of transportation:<br>
How much adult interaction do you get?<br>
Does it ever get to you if you have no one to talk to other than your toddler/LO?<br>
DP and I were just discussing this the other night.<br>
I was trying to have a conversation with him and he wanted to be left alone to do his paper work(he works from home) and said that I should go talk to my friends. Kinda mean, but he was frusterated and kinda just let it come out that way without thinking first.<br>
Then I proceded to explain. Althought it is great to have a place like MDC to come to and chat, actual interaction-face to face with other adults, parents, or anyone over the age of 21 or so is very stimulating if you are stuck at home with 2yo's all day every day ykwim?<br>
Once it hits 40 degrees we cant take DD out much because of her having trouble breathing.<br>
So I am inside A LOT during the winter months.<br>
I make lots of phone calls during the day to keep my sanity some days. Lately I have just been wanting more stimulating conversation, yk?<br>
So does anyone else experience lack of adult interaction?
 

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I know exactly what you mean. When we are stuck at home because the kids are sick I feel so trapped. If you can't go out, can you invite someone over?
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I know exactly what you mean. When we are stuck at home because the kids are sick I feel so trapped. If you can't go out, can you invite someone over?</div>
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Oh I wish. I moved out of this area a while back and just moved back here three years ago. All my old friends are gone now. I go out to my AP group, but that only meets once a month...<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br>
I actually contemplated going back to bartending once or twice a week just to get out of the house. I am good at it so I figured what the heck yk?<br>
Its only a nite and like 6-10hrs a week, but its fun.<br>
I figured since DD isnt really nursing much anymore it would be ok. Just somethin to do. Seeing as how I dont really have a "girls/mommies" thing I can go to...
 

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I know exactly what you mean. I am stuck at home most days. We only have one car and can't afford the gas for me to take my husband to work. I stay at home with my daughter who's 2 and a half. I just moved here in Feb. I have some friends and am very grateful for them. But I miss adult interaction. I love all 4 of my children but it's not the same. When my mom calls we talk up to 2 hours at a time. My husband works weird shifts and I only get to talk to him over the phone all week. Thank goodness I have Saturdays with him and church on Sundays but even then I work in nursery with kids 3 and under. So don't get much adult interaction. Hopefully soon it will get better.
 

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I know exactly what you mean too...<br><br>
my oldest was sick for the past week and it's been cold here so I am suffering severe cabin fever!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">: so so lonely...<br><br>
I see you have yahoo...if you want...we can chat during the day<br><br>
-Nonny
 

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<span>I host a play group at my house once a month or more with this moms group I belong to in cleveland. I find most events are held about 30 minutes away so it is hard for me to get anywhere with a kid in PM kindergarten and one in first b y the time I get anywhere I have to turn around and go back to get the kids off the bus. BUT I do try and host at my house. Especially during the winter keeps my sanity well!</span>
 

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we moved to Europe just before giving birth to my first... I thought I'd have lots of time after he was born to learn the language (hahaha) we don't have a car... seriously, with 2 babies my adult interaction is my instant messenger! I can't wait to start night language course to actually talk to someone again.
 

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For me, adult interaction is essential. I love spending time with my child, but I need to have conversations with adults. Even if that just means a conversation on the phone with a fellow mom.
 

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I take it you're a one-car family? Could you coax DH into tranporting you to some weekly, adults-only activity? For me, it's a class that I'm auditing at the university. If I don't keep my wits sharp, "baby culture" (e.g. Barney and Elmo and the gang), is going to turn my brain to mush! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Oh I wish. I moved out of this area a while back and just moved back here three years ago. All my old friends are gone now. I go out to my AP group, but that only meets once a month...<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br>
I actually contemplated going back to bartending once or twice a week just to get out of the house. I am good at it so I figured what the heck yk?<br>
Its only a nite and like 6-10hrs a week, but its fun.<br>
I figured since DD isnt really nursing much anymore it would be ok. Just somethin to do. Seeing as how I dont really have a "girls/mommies" thing I can go to...</div>
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If you enjoy bartending, then I would definitely consider doing this! Another thing would be to maybe invite one or more of the moms from your AP group over for an afternoon/evening. It could be something really casual, or something more along the lines of a "mom's night in" (like have a pitch-in meal, or pitch-in dessert party, or whatever).<br><br>
If I'm not involved in something (and frankly, usually many somethings), I go insane. And I'm a person who needs lots of time alone, so I know that if *I* need time out and about with peers, then the vast majority of other people need it, too.
 
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