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Hi everyone-
I am looking for advice and some shoulders to lean one. To give you a little background, I am 41, married, work full time and have a wonderful 2-year-old son. He is my miracle baby. After over 7 years of infertility, a successful IVF cycle that then ended in miscarriage I found myself pregnant spontaneously. Numerous Dr's had told me that I would never conceive "naturally" lo and behold I did. We were thrilled beyond belief and we very content with our little family.
That said my husband and I have been discussing the possibility if having another child. My father died recently and I have been feeling the anguish of not having a sibling for my son. My brothers and sisters we amazing to me and such a support to my mom. All the repressed urges I had to have another child came full force to the surface. (My apologies to anyone out there that I may offend by saying that, I know we should just be happy we our son and trust me we are!!) We have been trying for over a year now to no avail. After much soul searching we have decided to go back and try IVF again. My app't with the Dr is October 20th.
I am having multiple thoughts that range from elation to terror. My concerns are:
I am 41 years old. Fertility is all ready greatly diminished never mind my past history. Also I will be in my 50's when this child is in his/her teens.
I am currently very overweight (5'6" and 200 lbs). I know this also effects fertility and increases my risks of gestational diabetes. However I don't know if I should put off IVF to lose weight and get in shape.
Risk of birth defects. No so much an issue for me but a great one to my husband. I know I could never abort, he doesn't think he has the strength to support a severely disabled child. Could our marriage survive this kind of challenge?
How far am I (and he) willing to go? Will we just do one attempt? Multiple? Do I implant every possible egg available? Do I save some in case the first attempt doesn't take?
So am I crazy for trying IVF again?? I would love any advice, words of encouragement, prayers that you wonderful women out there have. Thanks for reading!
Peace
I am looking for advice and some shoulders to lean one. To give you a little background, I am 41, married, work full time and have a wonderful 2-year-old son. He is my miracle baby. After over 7 years of infertility, a successful IVF cycle that then ended in miscarriage I found myself pregnant spontaneously. Numerous Dr's had told me that I would never conceive "naturally" lo and behold I did. We were thrilled beyond belief and we very content with our little family.
That said my husband and I have been discussing the possibility if having another child. My father died recently and I have been feeling the anguish of not having a sibling for my son. My brothers and sisters we amazing to me and such a support to my mom. All the repressed urges I had to have another child came full force to the surface. (My apologies to anyone out there that I may offend by saying that, I know we should just be happy we our son and trust me we are!!) We have been trying for over a year now to no avail. After much soul searching we have decided to go back and try IVF again. My app't with the Dr is October 20th.
I am having multiple thoughts that range from elation to terror. My concerns are:
I am 41 years old. Fertility is all ready greatly diminished never mind my past history. Also I will be in my 50's when this child is in his/her teens.
I am currently very overweight (5'6" and 200 lbs). I know this also effects fertility and increases my risks of gestational diabetes. However I don't know if I should put off IVF to lose weight and get in shape.
Risk of birth defects. No so much an issue for me but a great one to my husband. I know I could never abort, he doesn't think he has the strength to support a severely disabled child. Could our marriage survive this kind of challenge?
How far am I (and he) willing to go? Will we just do one attempt? Multiple? Do I implant every possible egg available? Do I save some in case the first attempt doesn't take?
So am I crazy for trying IVF again?? I would love any advice, words of encouragement, prayers that you wonderful women out there have. Thanks for reading!
Peace