I would appreciate advice:
My 11 yr old dd's dad and I never married. He's gay and HIV pos. He and I are wondering if it's time to tell her these things. He would like me to because he and she are not close. He hasn't been consistantly in her life but has been making an effort lately. How do I tell her? How much do I tell her? She's mature but very sensitive. I've always emphasized embracing all kinds of people but now she's in middle school and hears mean things said against gays by kids who aren't even clear on what they are talking about. I've addressed this- told her what it means to be gay and that it's just how some people are etc. but I haven't related it to her father yet. Also, he's pretty healthy now, but when he does get sick, he gets very sick and I am scared to worry her. Advice please
~Amanda B.
My 11 yr old dd's dad and I never married. He's gay and HIV pos. He and I are wondering if it's time to tell her these things. He would like me to because he and she are not close. He hasn't been consistantly in her life but has been making an effort lately. How do I tell her? How much do I tell her? She's mature but very sensitive. I've always emphasized embracing all kinds of people but now she's in middle school and hears mean things said against gays by kids who aren't even clear on what they are talking about. I've addressed this- told her what it means to be gay and that it's just how some people are etc. but I haven't related it to her father yet. Also, he's pretty healthy now, but when he does get sick, he gets very sick and I am scared to worry her. Advice please
~Amanda B.