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Okay, AF is due tomorrow!!!!! I"m so darn nervous, and I want to test so badly. Its killing me!!! I dont' feel pregnant though, but I talk as though I could be. Its really frustrating. I wish I was taking my temps!!!!! I would know right now!!!! I make myself so angry over this. I feel like I could be getting a vaginal yeast infection or something. Not sure. I have extra CM down there, not itchy or anything. I'm so confused right now. I have to pee constantly, and my breasts are sore, and I felt crampy yesterday. I get that with my regular period though. My dh doesn't want me to test until I am a week late, can you believe that????? I CAN"T wait, but I know if I test tomorrow, my AF will follow just hours later like it always does.<br>
How do some of you deal with this dissappointment? I'm too scared to find out, but I want to!!! I feel like running out and getting a test right now!!! Please stop me!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/mecry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="crying"><br>
Sarah<---who wishes she was taking her temps right now.
 

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Well, I tend to pout for a few days and fall into a sort of several day long melancholoy. After the first month ttc, when AF came, I was heartbroken. I have an extrememly healthy record, have never used any hormones, creams, anything, my husband is healthy....but no baby. For me, hearing about statistics on how long it takes made no difference, I was just sad. Thankfully, my dh gave me room to work through my emotions. In the long run, I do think it's a healthier approach than bottling them all up inside; however, my best advice is to distract yourself as much as possible. When I am feeling really terrible, I give myself some extra time at the gym, kick up my volunteer efforts, or call up a friend i haven't seen in a while. If I don't look outside myself during these difficult times (well all times actually, <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> ), then I am apt to become toooo self focused.<br><br>
As for testing, maybe it helps to remember that testing tomorrow will not change whether you are pregnant or not, though of course, testing early may return a false negative. If your dh feels strongly about you waiting, maybe y'all could go on a improv date night to take your mind of it? i don't know, maybe it'll work. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> I am taking my temps (have been using NFP for over 4 years), sometimes the signs are just plain confusing.<br><br>
hang in there,<br>
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<div style="font-style:italic;">Well, I tend to pout for a few days and fall into a sort of several day long melancholoy. After the first month ttc, when AF came, I was heartbroken. I have an extrememly healthy record, have never used any hormones, creams, anything, my husband is healthy....but no baby. For me, hearing about statistics on how long it takes made no difference, I was just sad. Thankfully, my dh gave me room to work through my emotions. In the long run, I do think it's a healthier approach than bottling them all up inside; however, my best advice is to distract yourself as much as possible. When I am feeling really terrible, I give myself some extra time at the gym, kick up my volunteer efforts, or call up a friend i haven't seen in a while. If I don't look outside myself during these difficult times (well all times actually, <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> ), then I am apt to become toooo self focused.<br><br>
As for testing, maybe it helps to remember that testing tomorrow will not change whether you are pregnant or not, though of course, testing early may return a false negative. If your dh feels strongly about you waiting, maybe y'all could go on a improv date night to take your mind of it? i don't know, maybe it'll work. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> I am taking my temps (have been using NFP for over 4 years), sometimes the signs are just plain confusing.<br><br>
hang in there,<br>
palmetto</div>
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Thank you so much for your reply! I got the message in my email box early this morning, and your words have helped me today!! I've kept busy ALL day, and the day is half way through. Still no AF, but I feel so crampy, like its coming. I spent the day taking the kids to their speech appointments, crocheting, went to the gym, paid some bills, brought the kiddos to school, and here I am. Eating something totally horrible, but I deserve it. LOL I might ask my friend if she will go out with me if I do get it. We'll have some fun, and maybe a date with dh as well. Then I'll buy myself something. LOL<br>
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It's going to be okay either way. It always is. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Thanks!!! I did test, and it came back negative. I caved in yesterday. BUT I still don't have my period yet!!! SO, maybe there is still a chance. I may test again tomorrow if its still a no show!<br>
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When I get my period, I reward myself with chocolate and a nice new cloth pad.
 

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lately ive been really sad when i get my AF<br>
this month i was 100% sure i was pregnant but didnt want to test, but alas AF came. i cried for a few days but i also snuggled with my son and my partner and thanked the earth for what i have already!<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br>
good luck momma!
 

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Did you test with concentrated urine (like the first or second one of the day or after 4-5 hours in the afternoon?) What was the sensitivity of the test? Are you sure you ovulated when you think you did?<br><br>
All those things could give you a negative when you might actually be pg.<br><br>
Wait a few days, test again in the a.m. with a sensitive test like CVS Pharmacy brand or something and let us know!! Good Luck!!
 

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i just wanted to say that i said a prayer for you after reading your post. just to let you know there is hope: i had to be disappointed twice before my test came back positive!! i took an at home test and it said negative, then i went to a lab the next day and took a BLOOD test and it came back negative, then after 2 wks of being late i took another one and it came back positive!! good luck and i just wanted to let you know not to give up hope, just yet!! and i will continue to keep you in my prayers. please let us know if you test again!!!
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br>
how are you doing momma?
 

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Just wanted to throw out my arms and <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"> all of you.<br>
I am 14dpo myself, AF due tommorow. Last month I had cramps by now, this time no... but upon doing a "digital" (heh) cm/cervix check, I know she is on her way. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"><br>
I'm glad I am not the only one who feels down and in a melancholy funk when you know for sure it didn't happen this go round.<br><br>
- Edit to say I'm not GLAD that other people get a funk.. just glad its not a "me thing." <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I'm very familiar with the melancholy funk. I'm on day 60 of my cycle...neg preg test...but still no AF. I'm sure it'll start...I loathe taking those darn things. I want them to be positive for everyone who wants them to be <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 
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