[amethystrse]

I wrote on here a while ago about thinking that ds has asbergers. Every day I put off calling the school psychologist to set up an appointment for an evaluation. I don't know why. I think it's because I'm afraid of the dx.<br><br>
It's weird. DD has PDD and I've learned to be fine with that. She's a beautiful little girl who brightens my life. DS is also beautiful and he is a wonderful little boy who is my angel. Sure they're both difficult children but I wouldn't change either for all the world. They are who they are and I love them.<br><br>
So why am I so afraid? I think part of it is that I don't want the school to think I'm one of those overbearing moms who sees problems where there aren't any. But that's only a small part. A larger part of me doesn't want my son labeled. It's bad enough he's labeled as ADHD.<br><br>
Still, perhaps the dx could get him some help in areas that I personally don't seem to be able to help him with. He's already getting speech and seeing the school psychologist for social skills. He's in a social skills group once a week. He just started seeing a psychologist once a week as well. I don't know what more to do and need help.<br><br>
*sigh* I think I just needed to get that off of my chest and to see if anyone else could relate. Thanks for reading.

 

[2boyzmama]

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Hang in there...when you make a decision, it will be the right decision at the right time. Only you can decide when the right time is...<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">

 

[amethystrse]

Thanks hon.

 

[sbgrace]

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I knew my son was on the spectrum before we got our official diagnosis (we had been told prior but unofficially). It was still hard to hear it officially. And, in fact, the first few times someone said it made it more real and that was hard for me. I think suspicion and having that suspicion confirmed feel different. Maybe that isn't what is going on with you but certainly for me it played a part.

 

[thebarkingbird]

are you afraid of how a label might make others feel they are invited to treat him? is it different because the most accurate label is asbergers rather than something that's less of a buzz word?<br><br>
i think i was sometimes afraid at first because i was thinking people would assume i was a bad mom. or that i should just stop having kids 'cause i obviously couldn't make them right. i'm not sure how i got over that but i know i did. now when people say horrible things about me i just think they're asses. of course it'll never stop hurting when people say he shouldn't have the same opportunities and respect other kids do. it took a long time. i understand where you're coming from.

 

[amethystrse]

It's not so much that I'm afraid how people will view me. I really don't care. I've already been told I'm a bad mom because of the ADHD (like I can change that). No, it's more that I'm afraid that people will treat him differently. I've already had people refer to the ADHD as a disability and it grates my nerves.<br><br>
It's also as if getting the dx will make it more real. For now it's only an assumption. When my dd was diagnosed with PDD I cried three days later. It broke my heart even though I had known for months she was autistic. Even now the word "autistic" pulls at me.<br><br>
I'm going to try to remember to call tomorrow. I have a full day ahead of me but I can't run from the truth. If he does have asbergers then I'll use the dx to help ds. If not then at least my fears will be calmed.

 

[spookyblue]

oops, late post. I sorry.