Hi,
I have a couple of thoughts. My second son's birth was traumatic and he died 12 hours after. I lost a lot of blood and my family was scared for my safety as well. I'm sure my parents were worried all through my third pregnancy but they did a good job of not letting it show too much. DH and I had enough worries of our own to get through and went to counseling to help.
As you say, it's not her decision and also know that you aren't responsible for her feelings (I'm sure you know that, too, but keep reminding yourself). You might try suggesting to her that she has PTSD from the experience and should seek counseling to work through it. You can try to soften it for her if you do have another but you can't make it easy for her unless she is willing to deal with her own fears.
Best of luck and glad to know you're feeling better.
I have a couple of thoughts. My second son's birth was traumatic and he died 12 hours after. I lost a lot of blood and my family was scared for my safety as well. I'm sure my parents were worried all through my third pregnancy but they did a good job of not letting it show too much. DH and I had enough worries of our own to get through and went to counseling to help.
As you say, it's not her decision and also know that you aren't responsible for her feelings (I'm sure you know that, too, but keep reminding yourself). You might try suggesting to her that she has PTSD from the experience and should seek counseling to work through it. You can try to soften it for her if you do have another but you can't make it easy for her unless she is willing to deal with her own fears.
Best of luck and glad to know you're feeling better.