[The4OfUs]

I am very interested in finding some resources about age appropriate behavior and development, as it has become a great way to help my DH understand what is reasonable and what is unreasonable to expect from our 18-month-old. He is very open to the discussions we have about what we can expect and how to handle issues, and it is making a huge difference in him parenting more GD than he was raised <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"> , so I just want to be able to keep it up as our child(ren) grow(s). I have found a few websites, but was wondering if anyone else had any good links or favorite books that I could have on hand. Basically, I'm looking for resources for things like:<br><br>
Development of impulse control<br><br>
Development of empathy<br><br>
Development of socialization skills<br><br>
Development of verbal instruction comprehension and follow through (though at 31 I still sometimes lack this! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> )<br><br>
Hitting, tantruming, etc. and what they mean, and why they're important developmentally<br><br>
Helping express emotions without squashing them, but giving appropriate direction for outlets...<br><br><br><br>
...and things along those lines. Thanks much for any help anyone can give!

 

[UnschoolnMa]

Good info to have! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Here are some links, some I have experience with, but some I don't so I can't vouch for all the info.<br><br><a href="http://www.childdevelopmentinfo.com/development/piaget.shtml" target="_blank">http://www.childdevelopmentinfo.com/...t/piaget.shtml</a><br><br><a href="http://www.advocatehealth.com/system/services/babies/connection/18month/18-a.html" target="_blank">http://www.advocatehealth.com/system...onth/18-a.html</a><br><br><a href="http://www.cwla.org/positiveparenting/stages.htm" target="_blank">http://www.cwla.org/positiveparenting/stages.htm</a>

 

[The4OfUs]

Thanks very much, UnschoolnMa; good stuff to add to my growing collection - The Piaget one with the shootoff links was very interesting!<br><br>
Anyone else? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">

 

[canadiyank]

There's also some good books by Ames and Ilg called "Your X Year Old." Cheap used on amazon.

 

[chicagomom]

This is a neat overview of preschooler behavior: <a href="http://gordonneufeld.com/preschool.html" target="_blank">http://gordonneufeld.com/preschool.html</a><br>
Lots of articles on development: <a href="http://www.naturalchild.org/home/" target="_blank">http://www.naturalchild.org/home/</a><br><br>
A very good 'stages of development and what parents can do during this stage' book: Building Healthy Minds, Dr. Stanley Greenspan

 

[annab]

I use Becoming The Parent You Want to Be all the time for this very reason. It explains what they are doing a why. When I understand why, I can empathize so much more!

 

[Fuamami]

I like<br><a href="http://www.zerotothree.org" target="_blank">www.zerotothree.org</a> too.