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Dh's alarm clock is about to drive me crazy. He sets it, it goes off for what seems like 2 minutes (I usually nudge him to get him to turn it off) and then he hits the snooze...and this repeats every nine minutes for at least half an hour.<br><br>
I'm pg, I'm tired. I don't have to get up and I don't want to be awake. I don't want the kids awake either, and they are usually both in bed with us by that time.<br><br>
Of course this is a limited time problem b/c the summer starts in less than a week, then I'll be complaining b/c he won't get out of bed while I'm having to run around feeding and clothing kids and taking the dog out.<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:<br><br>
Nothing like being pg, cranky and miserable...except perhaps sharing the misery. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/innocent.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shy"> I should really try to be more tolerant.<br><br>
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You are not alone sister!!!!!! My dh drives me crazy with this as well... it will go off forever until i almost knock him out of bed then its the snooze routine for 1/2 hr <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: Like no one else is sleeping!!!!!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:<br>
Yep i hate it!
 

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I deal with it too. He has gotten better at getting up once I started getting up too because I couldn't go back to sleep. He did not like my company in the morning <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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Alarm clocks - almost forgot what they are now that we have children!!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
Here's a suggestion (may want to try out a back-up method in case it doesn't work for your dh): I used to have a travel alarm clock (about 4"x3"x1cm thick, think I got it at RadioShack) because I got up an hour earlier than dh. When it would go off, which is gentler than the horrible electric ones, I'd shove it under my pillow whilst hitting the snooze. Then only I would hear it when it went off again. Could this work for your dh?
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Alarm clocks - almost forgot what they are now that we have children!!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
Here's a suggestion (may want to try out a back-up method in case it doesn't work for your dh): I used to have a travel alarm clock (about 4"x3"x1cm thick, think I got it at RadioShack) because I got up an hour earlier than dh. When it would go off, which is gentler than the horrible electric ones, I'd shove it under my pillow whilst hitting the snooze. Then only I would hear it when it went off again. Could this work for your dh?</div>
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We have one of those. I'll have to get him to try it...I like the getting up with him idea, but that just ends up making him late for work. Actually, he might normally be late, I just don't know b/c I don't usually get up.<br><br>
Glad to know I'm not the only one...sorry some of you are getting woken up too though.<br><br>
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Fortunately I have avoided this particular problem cause dh sleeps downstairs on the couch to avoid particiapting in nighttime parenting. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">:<br><br>
I did have this problem with my ex though. I'd just grab him and shake him real fast and hiss "turn that damn thing off now before you wake ds up!" Then I'd keep nudging him and hissing until he got out of bed, and then I'd go back to sleep. It was annoying having to go through that, but I didn't have any problems falling back to sleep and it was better than letting the alarm wake ds.
 

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My Dh does the same thing. The first time, it goes off for a minute or two before he gets up and hits snooze. Then, he hits snooze 3-5 more times. Then, before I know it, its 10 minutes before he has to leave for work and hes not even up! He turns the flippin' alarm OFF and goes back to bed. This is an every night thing (he goes in at 10PM). Soooo annoying.
 

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Oh yeah, my dh does the same thing. Only first it's the alarm clock starting at 6:30am and going off every 9 minutes until 7-ish. If he's not up by 7:15 or so, he has his cell phone set to play "Reveille". Nothing like trumpets blaring to wake you up with a massive adrenaline rush! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: I'm also way pregnant and not sleeping well to begin with. Can I tell you how much I adore being woken up in this manner an hour before the kids are up? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">:<br><br>
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<div style="font-style:italic;">Oh yeah, my dh does the same thing. Only first it's the alarm clock starting at 6:30am and going off every 9 minutes until 7-ish. If he's not up by 7:15 or so, he has his cell phone set to play "Reveille". Nothing like trumpets blaring to wake you up with a massive adrenaline rush! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: I'm also way pregnant and not sleeping well to begin with. Can I tell you how much I adore being woken up in this manner an hour before the kids are up? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">:<br><br>
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Dh uses his cell phone as an alarm. He used to have the song "two mins. to midnight" or what ever as his alarm. It made me feel like hurting him every morning. He finally changed it after he realized that it would get him hurt.
 

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My DH did this. I'm a bad sleeper as it is and don't easily fall back asleep. Grrrr . . . What we ended up doing was putting the alarm clock on *my* side of the bed. I would wake up immediately, turn the [email protected]#$ thing off, then push, shove, and remove the covers from DH until he got out of bed. This was much more effective than leaving him in charge of it when the whole snooze thing would occur . . .
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I have the same problem. If he doesn't cut it out, he's going to wake up with an alarm clock shoved up his butt.</div>
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My SO is rotten about the alarm clock...sometimes he just turns it off and is late for work....boy is he mr. grouchy britches in the am...but I am worse....BWAHAHAHAHAHA <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/demon.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="demon">
 

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I dealt with this long before we had kids. I, in my sleep (mostly<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">: ) would wap him in the arm saying, "turnitoff, turnitoff, turnitoff..." It only took a couple of days before he realized it was easier to just get up the first time it went off.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">My DH did this. I'm a bad sleeper as it is and don't easily fall back asleep. Grrrr . . . What we ended up doing was putting the alarm clock on *my* side of the bed. I would wake up immediately, turn the [email protected]#$ thing off, then push, shove, and remove the covers from DH until he got out of bed. This was much more effective than leaving him in charge of it when the whole snooze thing would occur . . .</div>
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We have never used the snooze. What we do is similar to DariousMom.<br><br>
The alarm clock is on my side. I set it when we go to bed. It has 2 different times you can set. Now, one is set to 6:30 (the time when he wants to be woken up) and the second is set to 7:15 (the latest he could get up and still make it to work on time). When the first alarm goes off, I turn it off and tell him it's 6:30. I used to have to push and shove him out of the bed, but now he usually gets up on his own a few minutes later (then he walks around and disables the second alarm so I won't be woken later). But when he is very tired from a bad night, he will sometimes go back to sleep until his second alarm.<br><br>
He likes to have a peaceful and leisurely morning. When he gets up at the earlier time, he usually lounges on the couch a while in front of the big picture window. One of the cats lays on his chest and they cuddle. Then he takes a non-rushed shower (the cat accompanies him -- he is fascinated with the whole shower/bath idea and watches excitedly). Then he gets himself some breakfast (usually bread spread with something, but if I am up I will often offer to make some eggs or hot cereal) and a cup of tea.<br><br>
But if he gets up at the later time, he just has time to hit the bad spots with a wet washcloth, brush his teeth, wash his face, comb his hair, and go.<br><br>
So, since a peaceful morning is a priority, we try to wind down and relax as much as possible in the evening (such as listen to the contemporary classical radio station by the light of just some tea lights while cuddling together on the couch), go to bed at a decent hour, etc.<br><br>
I think there are basically 2 causes for needing the snooze button. One is that you haven't had enough sleep. The other is that you don't have much motivation to attend to your responsibilities. Some people are just not good at motivating themselves to attend to business. It becomes especially noticeable when they are sleepy, because they need to make a CONSCIOUS effort to generate in themselves a sense of urgency to drive them to get up.
 

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Lady Lilya;8188767<br> I think there are basically 2 causes for needing the snooze button. One is that you haven't had enough sleep. The other is that you don't have much motivation to attend to your responsibilities. Some people are just not good at motivating themselves to attend to business. It becomes especially noticeable when they are sleepy said:
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You've hit the nail on the head...that is exactly what's going on and why I will be just as annoyed next week when he's no longer teaching b/c he will still struggle to get out of bed in the morning. At least it will be sans alarm clock, but I will find it just as annoying. I realize that I'm annoyed b/c he *is* totally unable to motivate himself and I resent it greatly.<br><br>
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Christa, he needs to feel the pain of consequences a bit. What happens if he fails to motivate himself? Do you motivate him? Do you take care of the responsibilities he lets slide?<br><br>
I would say that minus the things where his failure would severely hurt you (like getting fired for not getting himself to work on time) you should let him feel the pain that results from his actions. Just warn him that it will be like that from now on.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Christa, he needs to feel the pain of consequences a bit. What happens if he fails to motivate himself? Do you motivate him? Do you take care of the responsibilities he lets slide?</div>
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Failure apparently doesn't motivate him (see my supporting dh in grad school thread). He's failed one particular seminary class twice, and got an incomplete this term b/c he hasn't finished the work and turned it in. He just manages to scrape by on stuff. He misses all deadlines, forgets to go to meetings, is late to work. I pay the bills or they would always be late. I try to stay out of his "personal" responsibilities so that he can be fully responsible for them and deal with the consequences of them, but there are some things I have to do to make sure my kids are taken care of.<br><br>
I'm frustrated with the whole thing. I think he made need counseling and/or meds for ADD and while he's agreed that he will go, he's not likely to make an appt.<br><br>
I truly don't know what motivates him.<br><br>
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I used to be the queen of the snooze button, until my dh introduced me to a plain old ringing alarm clock that, once it's off, it's off. It's much more motivational.<br><br>
And, um, I'm the work outside the home partner in our family, the alarm usually rings at 5:30, I have trouble waking up, and...<br><br><br><br><br><br><br><br><br><br><br><br>
my dh gets up and makes me coffee and brings it to me in bed. With foam on top. I can't imagine starting my day with him all mad at me about being a sloth in the morning....
 

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The alarm clock is on my side of the bed, even though DH is usually the one who needs it. It is pretty obnoxious, so it does rouse us both. Generally how it works is I poke him, hit the snooze, poke him again when the alarm goes off again, and then turn off the alarm. He's a big boy, so after that, it's his problem.<br><br>
Another option is to put the alarm clock somewhere across the room so that he has to get out of bed to turn it off. I know my challenge is usually getting out of the bed - who wants to get out of a cozy warm bed on a cold morning? - but once I'm out, I'm out and up. It's what I did when I was in college, and it works quite well.
 

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I think we have lost 2 alarm clocks to the wars... I too hate alarms in the morning. There were many times that I slept on the couch while I was pregnant to avoid hearing it...of course it helps that the couch is more comfortable to me than the bed.<br><br>
I tend to wake before he does, but did set my tiny watch to wake me first more than a few times and would *hide* in another room while the noise repeated OVER and OVER.<br><br>
DS is an early riser (like his mom <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> ) and a cheerful one at that (see prev comment <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> ). He has been waking DH up before the alarm now <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br>
I have only heard it once in the last 3 months <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 
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