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I feel so bad for him. He's been an observer since day 1. He never has been into other kids...at all. He's a maniac at home and has lots of fun. He has lots of fun with adults but not kids...especially boys. Other kids will be standing around playing something together and he just stands and watches. If one of them comes and tries to play with him he pushes them away and says "no no no!" and has now started clinging to my leg. I will see him looking at the kids playing and smiling at what they are doing but he wants nothing to do with joining in. Not even if I join in too. It makes me so sad for him. He likes to stay home indoors alot too which drives me nuts.<br><br>
I know there isn't much I can do to change his personality (not that i really want to change that) but can some one help me see the positive about this. I don't want him to be lonely. I want him to have friends. He really doesn't have any friends. He's only almost 3 so I'm not sure if 3 year olds really have friends anyway. I feel so bad for him.
 

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I think its pretty normal. DD is only 25 mths, but we go to alot of playgroups with kids around 3 years and none of them seem to actually play with each other. They seem most interested in protecting their space and making sure no one else gets the toys they want. They will sometimes follow the older kids (5+) around and imitate them, but not each other.
 

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Hmmm....a couple of thoughts. First, my typical kiddo was really shy like that around other kids at maybe age two. He just needed exposure and he became more comfortable. He'll never be outgoing but he likes to interact and responds when other kiddos approach him. He's really interactive with those he is around a lot. He turned three today.<br><br>
Three year olds don't exactly have friends. But in my observations they do interact (just watch how the other three year olds interact). Often it is bossy or silly but they are interacting. My typical son will come home and tell me about his friend Jack or whatever. So he calls them friends but, ya, the term is loosely applied!<br><br>
I have another three year old who is on the autism spectrum and is more unaware of other kids (though he interacts with his brother). He does join in if other children are being silly or running around and likes to imitate but doesn't really know how to respond to others initiation. He's good with adult interaction but lots of aspergers kids are.<br><br>
You didn't say anything at all that made me think your son was on the spectrum except mentioning how different he was with adults vs. kids. Like my typical son, your son may just need a bit more exposure. Can you join a small play group or get together weekly with another child? I think for the more reserved or slow to warm up kids (as my sons are) small groups are best-even just one other child.
 

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It sounds like our DCs had a lot in common. A year or so ago, we'd be at the park and some kids would try to play with DD and she'd just stare at them and be too timid to talk to them. When we would go to playgroups she would just do her thing and not really play with the other kids.<br><br>
Now that she is 4, she has just opened up a lot. She is now able to engage in imaginative play with other kids. And actually requests to get together with other kids. Perhaps with time your dc will outrow it. If not, than there is certainly nothing wrong with having just 1 or 2 casual friends. I remember that my friends' little boy went through this when He was 2.5 ish. Perhaps it is a normal developmental phase.<br><br>
Has He expressed an interest in wanting to play/talk with other kids? Maybe He doesn't quite know how to do it yet. I think that this was part of DD's shyness. Perhaps you could help him start up conversations and or play with him and another kid so that He can model the way that you play?<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">s to you
 
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