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I'm only at about 37 weeks, and they're already starting with the induction talk! I didn't want to crash the "overdue" thread with this because I'm nowhere near my EDD yet, but what do I SAY to these people?<br><br>
Walked into work today and the lady answering the phone asked when the baby was coming. I smiled through clenched teeth and said I didn't know, that the baby will come when it's ready. She said, well aren't you getting induced? I said, whyever would I get induced? Well, so you don't have a gigantic baby! Did they tell you how big it is? I scratched my head and said, they have no way of knowing how big it is, they could only guess. She told me the doctors were spot on with their estimates of her two kids' sizes. Then she shook her head and said, I just hope you don't have a huge baby.<br><br>
Seriously! WTF!!!! I could do nothing but walk away...<br><br>
Into the break room, where someone else asked me straight up if I'm dilated yet. Am I WHAT? Do you realize you're asking me for a measurement of my cervix? Out loud, in the workplace?! I told her no, actually, my midwife's never even seen my vagina. That shut her up.<br><br>
I'm all out of gracious nods and tongue-biting. Two more weeks of working and then I'm done with this place! Light at the end of the tunnel, light at the end of the tunnel, I think I can I think I can...<br><br>
On the positive side, baby dropped yesterday! One step closer. Come out, baby, I'm ready for you -- and these people are driving me nuts!
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">s I am glad you are almost done with the place./
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Into the break room, where someone else asked me straight up if I'm dilated yet. Am I WHAT? Do you realize you're asking me for a measurement of my cervix? Out loud, in the workplace?! I told her no, actually, my midwife's never even seen my vagina. That shut her up.</div>
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People are ridiculous, I am glad you said that to her - she obviously needed to be set straight. It is like as we get bigger, our bodies become less of our own and people think that they become public property - it is really bizarre.
 

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think of this as good practice for when coworkers give you unsolicited parenting advice?<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"><br><br>
hang in there. try not to kill them.
 

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I'm sorry you have to go through that! People are just really stupid! But remember 2 more weeks, 2 more weeks!<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">think of this as good practice for when coworkers give you unsolicited parenting advice?<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"><br><br>
hang in there. try not to kill them.</div>
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Luckily, I'm ditching this job once I have the baby, so they won't get any good chances to dole out the parenting advice! I'll try to remember that for the next 9.5 business days.
 

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Oh, god, Hannah, I think I would have had trouble maintaining my composure with the receptionist. People are just ignorant sometimes, and I'm really not sure why our vaginas and perineums are suddenly appropriate topics of conversation.<br>
Whenever somebody there says something inane, just remember that you're taking the maternity leave pay and not coming back. You win.<br>
Whenever somebody starts on the "isn't that baby out yet?" I just say my due date isn't until the end of the month. I think if anybody told me I should induce, they'd get a long, boring and factual lecture on the technicalities of childbirth--and they probably know it, which is most likely exactly why nobody has told me I should induce.
 

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I've been getting the induction talk from my in-laws.
 

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Oh, gosh! I had a random clerk in Walmart ask me if I was dilated yet! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/yikes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="EEK!"> I just stood there gaping. I swear, I almost hope someone else does that so I can go off on them! "Excuse me?? Did you just ask me if I'm dilated?? Are you seriously asking me about the state of my vagina?? What corner of your brain thinks that it is actually okay to ask such a personal question??<br><br>
Lemme ask you--is your a**hole dilated?? I hope so, because it will be a lot easier to fit your head up there if it is...."<br><br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br><br>
Okay, so maybe not. But just imagining it is a bit cathartic! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><br><br>
I could only dream of saying that to an absolute stranger though.....I need a toned-down, icy but polite response for people I'll have to encounter again--like the receptionist at the chiro's office. I can totally hear her asking that. She's already all over me about "when's it gonna be?" every time I walk in. But I adore everyone else in the office, so I have to be polite, LOL!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Lemme ask you--is your a**hole dilated?? I hope so, because it will be a lot easier to fit your head up there if it is...."</div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/ROTFLMAO.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rotflmao">laughup<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/biglaugh.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="laugh">:<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Oh, gosh! I had a random clerk in Walmart ask me if I was dilated yet! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/yikes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="EEK!"> I just stood there gaping. I swear, I almost hope someone else does that so I can go off on them! "Excuse me?? Did you just ask me if I'm dilated?? Are you seriously asking me about the state of my vagina?? What corner of your brain thinks that it is actually okay to ask such a personal question??<br><br>
Lemme ask you--is your a**hole dilated?? I hope so, because it will be a lot easier to fit your head up there if it is...."<br><br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"></div>
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you funny, SheBear!<br><br>
i, too, love it when strangers ask me about my vagina!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I think if anybody told me I should induce, they'd get a long, boring and factual lecture on the technicalities of childbirth--and they probably know it, which is most likely exactly why nobody has told me I should induce.</div>
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I think that's why nobody has here has said the word induce to me yet. They know me-I can spout out technical talk like it's nobody's business!
 

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Well, Wake-up, FWIW, your post made me laugh out loud. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"> People can say the dumbest things!!!! OMG, I too would have SUCH a hard time with comments like those. And can I just say how absolutely NOT EXCITED I am by how induction-happy our society has become???!!!!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/banghead.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="banghead"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/soapbox.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="soapbox"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/soapbox.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="soapbox"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/banghead.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="banghead"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/soapbox.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="soapbox"><br><br>
I mean seriously! WHY, people, WHY? What's with the fear of the "giant baby" we all seem to have these days?? Women's vaginas have been delivering babies of all sizes just fine for millenia!! And when did an 8 or 9 pound baby become "HUGE"??<br><br>
OY. I can only roll my eyes & force myself to go back to my happy place.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Lemme ask you--is your a**hole dilated?? I hope so, because it will be a lot easier to fit your head up there if it is...."</div>
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I am so going to steal this and use it in real life. Do you want me to credit you in the process, or just report back on the aftermath?
 

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Umm, better just report the aftermath....what <i>would</i> the church ladies think of me?? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/Sheepish.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Sheepish">:
 

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I LOVE that SheBear- I think I'll be a-stealing it, too!
 

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I had the perfect opportunity to use that this evening at church. But instead, I bit my tongue and just acted grumpy and peevish. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:<br><br>
One of the women came up to me after church, right in the middle of a group of people--men AND women--and asked how I was feeling, made some crack about how I must not be cold (the weather was a bit cool), then was <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/blahblah.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="blah blah"> about how close I'm getting, am I "feeling" anything yet, you know the drill.<br><br>
I really tried to just be polite, but then she came at me with--I kid you not--"So you haven't lost your mucous plug or anything yet?" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/yikes2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="yikes">: And I thought the dilation question was as bad as it could get!! Right there in the group of church people, and she's ASKING ME ABOUT MY MUCOUS PLUG!?!?? She really thinks that it's appropriate for her to ask--and for me to tell her--about any goo that might be coming from my vagina???<br><br>
WTH???<br><br>
Oh, and to make it even worse, this is a woman who has given birth to 12 children! Several of them were homebirths--unassisted! You would just think that if ANYONE would understand how annoying (not to mention inappropriate and nosy!) such a question is, it would be she! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/yikes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="EEK!"><br><br>
I'm still reeling, and of course, now I'm replaying it, wishing that I'd said *something* to her!
 

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UGH. I am so done with people asking horrifically graphic questions about the status of my vagina, cervix, pelvic floor in general, and lord knows what else. I think I am not gonna leave home until it's baby-time.<br><br>
And WTF? How is it appropriate to ask about someone's mucus plug? People are so weird.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Oh, and to make it even worse, this is a woman who has given birth to 12 children!</div>
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...<br><br>
WHOA.
 
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