My dh works out of town, M-R night. While he's gone each week, he calls around 7 to talk to Elliott each night, and then he calls later in the evening so we can chat for 15 minutes or so. This usually keeps us pretty well connected and things are fine.
Periodically, there will be an evening social function to attend. Dh still calls Elliott, and then as always, says he will call after the dinner, outing, etc. More than once, he's neglected to call until the next morning, which I think is inexcusable. I don't think he's cheating on me, but I do think he's drinking more than he should, and he doesn't always make the greatest choices while alcoholically-compromised. Coming back to your hotel, too drunk to call your wife seems like a bad idea on many levels. Despite the culture of inebriation that pervades this Fortune 500 company, I don't think it's a good idea to be the rising young star (ok, not so young
) who drinks too much (albeit in good company). I also think that not calling shows a serious lack of respect for my needs/wishes. It's not like I want to have a 20 minute conversation about the inefficiency of the dishwasher--I just want to catch up with my best friend--live vicariously, you know? It's been a long time since I've been to a schmancy French restaurant, or any other grownup venture. I do think too, that he my curb his drinking a little, if he knows he needs to be coherent enough to chat after his evening of fun.
Dh feels that since he has disappointed me twice within the last two months (2 outings in a row) , that we should change the plan, and he shouldn't plan to call after the event, but I'm not comfortable with this idea. Maybe if he followed through more consistently, I'd feel less unhappy with this suggestion, but as things stand, I really want him to call at the end of the night. Am I asking too much?
Thanks,
Periodically, there will be an evening social function to attend. Dh still calls Elliott, and then as always, says he will call after the dinner, outing, etc. More than once, he's neglected to call until the next morning, which I think is inexcusable. I don't think he's cheating on me, but I do think he's drinking more than he should, and he doesn't always make the greatest choices while alcoholically-compromised. Coming back to your hotel, too drunk to call your wife seems like a bad idea on many levels. Despite the culture of inebriation that pervades this Fortune 500 company, I don't think it's a good idea to be the rising young star (ok, not so young

Dh feels that since he has disappointed me twice within the last two months (2 outings in a row) , that we should change the plan, and he shouldn't plan to call after the event, but I'm not comfortable with this idea. Maybe if he followed through more consistently, I'd feel less unhappy with this suggestion, but as things stand, I really want him to call at the end of the night. Am I asking too much?
Thanks,