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OK, I've been thinking about how i handle certain "battles". I look back and think, "hmmmmm...that was coercive" and I don't feel good about it. We are a very gentle family and we definitely are always trying to provide choices, but... Let me give an example:<br>
ds didn't want to leave greenway (walking area). daddy, who'd been away from home for 3 days, was waiting for us at home. ds is kicking and screaming as i try to fasten him in carseat. i say, "daddy is waiting at home. don't you want to go see him?" ds replies "yes". i say, "well, then we have to get buckled in the car and drive home."<br>
another example might be ds pulling the dog's tail (i'm going nutso over this one). distraction doesn't work. trying to instill empathy isn't working yet (is 28 months too young to understand tail-pulling = pain?). saying no and removing him doesn't work. so, i then resort to, "if you pull cheyenne's tail, she's going to have to go upstairs and be away from you for awhile."<br>
is this coercive disclipline? if so, what could i do differently?<br>
thanks!
ds didn't want to leave greenway (walking area). daddy, who'd been away from home for 3 days, was waiting for us at home. ds is kicking and screaming as i try to fasten him in carseat. i say, "daddy is waiting at home. don't you want to go see him?" ds replies "yes". i say, "well, then we have to get buckled in the car and drive home."<br>
another example might be ds pulling the dog's tail (i'm going nutso over this one). distraction doesn't work. trying to instill empathy isn't working yet (is 28 months too young to understand tail-pulling = pain?). saying no and removing him doesn't work. so, i then resort to, "if you pull cheyenne's tail, she's going to have to go upstairs and be away from you for awhile."<br>
is this coercive disclipline? if so, what could i do differently?<br>
thanks!