I’m really trying to GD, but I feel like I’m closer to no discipline. Today, for example, DD and I (who is a month shy of 2 years old), were having a snack in the living room, picnic-style. I had a small bowl of cheddar bunnies out, and went to the kitchen to get a drink for myself (like 10 seconds), and when I came back, she’d dumped the bowl on the carpet and was proceeding to grind them into the floor with her feet.<br><br>
I don’t know if she dumped the bowl on purpose or she was trying to carry it somewhere else (off the of the picnic blanket for sure!). So I tell her, “Stop! I’m disappointed that we can’t have any more crackers since they’re on the floor. Please help Mommy pick them up.” She ran off into her play tent (to play, not in the least bit caring about what I’d said). I asked her to come help me clean up the crackers. She didn’t want to come out of the tent and was asking me to come in, so I put away the tent, took her by the hand back to the cracker mess, and started to pick them up asking her to help. She just started to smoosh them into the carpet with her fingers. I told her to stop, and physically took her hands to stop her from making more mess. Then I finished cleaning, but told her I was angry and didn’t feel like playing when I was angry, and went to fold laundry instead. She whined a bit and was off playing, seemingly completely unaffected by anything.<br><br>
DH would have told me this is a failure on my part to discipline her. That I’m doing nothing. He’s on board with AP, but he’s pretty skeptical of GD. I’m not sure what to do in these situations. I would’ve been swatted by my parents.<br><br>
Anyway, DD did just fall asleep, so maybe she was just tired. Usually, she’ll help me clean up when she makes a mess. Sorry, this is so long. I just felt so angry since it seemed DD just didn’t care, and all my rambling is therpeutic.<br><br>
Is this GD? Have I crossed into no discipline? What do you do in these situations?<br><br>
Thanks!!
I don’t know if she dumped the bowl on purpose or she was trying to carry it somewhere else (off the of the picnic blanket for sure!). So I tell her, “Stop! I’m disappointed that we can’t have any more crackers since they’re on the floor. Please help Mommy pick them up.” She ran off into her play tent (to play, not in the least bit caring about what I’d said). I asked her to come help me clean up the crackers. She didn’t want to come out of the tent and was asking me to come in, so I put away the tent, took her by the hand back to the cracker mess, and started to pick them up asking her to help. She just started to smoosh them into the carpet with her fingers. I told her to stop, and physically took her hands to stop her from making more mess. Then I finished cleaning, but told her I was angry and didn’t feel like playing when I was angry, and went to fold laundry instead. She whined a bit and was off playing, seemingly completely unaffected by anything.<br><br>
DH would have told me this is a failure on my part to discipline her. That I’m doing nothing. He’s on board with AP, but he’s pretty skeptical of GD. I’m not sure what to do in these situations. I would’ve been swatted by my parents.<br><br>
Anyway, DD did just fall asleep, so maybe she was just tired. Usually, she’ll help me clean up when she makes a mess. Sorry, this is so long. I just felt so angry since it seemed DD just didn’t care, and all my rambling is therpeutic.<br><br>
Is this GD? Have I crossed into no discipline? What do you do in these situations?<br><br>
Thanks!!