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<p>I had a missed m/c discovered at my 8-week u/s. The baby only measured 6w3d and had no heartbeat. At subsequent scans, the baby measured around 5 weeks. I miscarried at 10 weeks (took Misoprostol) and had an u/s 4 days later to confirm it was complete. At that scan, my OB said to wait one cycle just to make it easier to date a pregnancy.</p>
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<p>I'm now 15 days post-miscarriage and still getting BFPs, but they're getting lighter and lighter. I plan to keep taking them until I get a BFN. But I do not feel like waiting out a cycle just to make it "easy" for my OB to date the next pregnancy. Part of me is kind of torn, because I'm scared that if I did m/c again, I might wonder if I should have waited the one cycle. But if the only reason is the dating issue, well, then I see no reason to grieve myself crazy for a month and knowingly avoid my fertile time, whenever that comes.</p>
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<p>I sort of feel that in TTC I'd be taking charge of the situation, and I really hate the helpless feeling post-m/c. TTC would help that--unless it unluckily ends in another loss.<span><img alt="dizzy.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/dizzy.gif"></span></p>
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<p>Help me decide! What would you (or did you) do in a similar situation?</p>
 

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<p>last may i had a mirena removed to ttc.  my gp told me to wait one cycle for dating reasons, and i didn't.  i lost the first pregnancy, conceived 4 weeks post removal (i had no af to speak of in between).  i lost it at 4+3, 2 days after my BFP.  i ttc again right away and got pregnant again (BFP 29 days after miscarriage).  i began spotting at 5+3 and lost that pregnancy at 7weeks.  i ttc right away again, and fell pregnant again, BFP 28days after placenta passed from miscarriage.  i'm twoh, nak the 5 month old from that 3rd pregnancy.  i had a dating scan but was very aware of when i'd O'd all 3 times, as it happened the scan agreed with my dates but had it not i would have ignored the scan.</p>
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<p>i personally wanted to let life happen as it would.  i'd already had 2 miscarriages before i had dd1 and for me i don't believe there's much i can do to avoid them.  if they're going to happen, then they're going to happen, i can't change it.  so i just decided to get on with my plans baby-making, and accept my control was limited.</p>
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<p>i don't think there's any right answer.  i agree that dating seems such an arbitrary reason to wait.</p>
 

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<p>GoBec, your story gives me hope.  I am sorry for your losses.</p>
 

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<p> I am so sorry for your loss, miscarriage is such a dark place. I have found alot of comfort here.I had a miscarriage September 24th at just under 8 weeks, my Dr. told me to wait 3 months before trying again which I knew i wasn't going to. I thought I would wait 1 cycle, and after alot of researching I felt confident about not waiting for 1 cycle. I got a bfp October 31st and started spotting the next day. I don't regret waiting a cycle  for me trying again right away was healing even though I lost this one too. I think it's a personal choice and you should do what you feel is right for you. Right now I am waiting to O so I can try again this cycle.</p>
 

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<p><span style="color:rgb(0,128,128);"> I don't think so.  I agree it's a personal choice.</span></p>
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<p><span style="color:rgb(0,128,128);"> With my first m/c at 5wks we didn't wait and got pregnant again but had a missed m/c that the baby stopped growing at 8wks but i didn't pass the baby til when i would had been 13wks along.  We did wait out a full cycle and then got pregnant with my son.</span></p>
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<p><span style="color:rgb(0,128,128);">I just had another missed m/c, i don't think we will wait a full cycle like the dr said to do. It took a little over 3 years to get pregnant with this baby only to loose it.</span></p>
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<p>Thanks for all your input and advice. I think this first cycle we might just NTNP. DH is going deer hunting for six days, so it might all be a moot point anyway. I just can't bring myself to prevent a pregnancy when I want one so badly, KWIM?</p>
 
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