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My dd is 2.5 yr old. Isn't it time that she potty trains? She has no interest in it at all. I thought we were makeing progress, but after I had baby ds almost 4 months ago, she is now totally into diapers again. I have tried to bribe her with treats to go on the potty (yeah pathetic I know). That doesn't work. She just make peeing sounds and says she pees just to get treats. And I have tried putting underwear on her and she just pees (or poos which is a mess<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">) in them every time. How do I get her potty trained?
 

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No BTDT advice, as DS is only 15 mo....<br><br>
But I would just follow her lead. A lot of kids aren't potty trained at 2.5. And especially with a new baby in the house, it is going to make it that much more difficult. My mom had me potty trained at 18 months, then my brother was born and I went right back to diapers for the next 18 months. She then potty trained us both at 2.5 and 18 mo.<br><br>
My MIL potty-trained all 3 of her boys in one day just before their 3rd birthday. She asked them all what they wanted for their birthday, and when they told her she said "oh, I'm sorry.. only big boys who use the potty can have those toys" and they all were potty trained after that.<br><br>
I would back off for a little while to release the stress around the potty. Then when she seems more ready, try again.<br><br>
Good luck!
 

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My DD is 2.5, as well, and I've also started wondering when she might be potty trained. But it just doesn't seem like she's ready. She doesn't seem to have the sensation yet that she's about to pee/poop -- there's been a couple of cases where that's been apparent.<br><br>
We're still just waiting it out. I'd rather wait a little longer and have the process go more easily, than try to press for it early and have it be a struggle.
 

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Agreed. My DD1 is just over 2 years and I have thought about it but she doesnt seem interested at all. It doesnt help that DD2 came so quickly after her so she sees all the baby stuff and wants to stick with it. We have a potty and offer it but she just sits on it and says she went potty but doesn't actually do anything. So we are just waiting it out. I think some people may think it is a competition or there is a certain deadline but she will let me know when she is ready and we will go from there. There is no rush as far as I am concerned.<br>
But at this time she doesn't seem to recognize the sensations just yet and I am ok with that.<br><br>
On a side note, having 2 DD's in diapers is EXPENSIVE! So I would like her to potty train sooner just for the lessened expense. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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Imo - by starting before they are ready we risk stretching out the process & making it much more frustrating for everyone.
 

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So true. I have cloth and have done that alot but since I have a second baby, those arent used as much and disposables are so pricey. But even cloth diapering 2 instead of 1 is so much extra work. Just think how much money will be saved when my dd potty trains!
 

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If she's not ready, she's not ready. My son wasn't potty trained until just after his 4th birthday. It was frustrating as all get-out, but prior to that, while I was going through a complicated pregnancy and he saw how sick I was, he just wasn't interested or ready.<br><br>
She'll get there, and it will be far easier when she is willing and excited about it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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For what it's worth, depending on the child, having her be potty trained might be MORE annoying than having her still in diapers.<br><br>
When my daughter potty trained (a bit after 2 1/2), it was so annoying. She always seemed to need to pee at the most inopportune moment, totally refused to use the toilet before leaving the house to go somewhere, had lots of "almost made it" accidents because she would experiment with seeing just how long she could wait before using the toilet... it goes on.<br><br>
My son potty trained at about the same age, and it's been fairly smooth sailing.<br><br>
I agree that backing off for a while is probably best at this point, since it sounds like she knows what you want her to do and is resisting it. Try again in six or eight weeks, you may get totally different results.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">My dd is 2.5 yr old. Isn't it time that she potty trains? <b>She has no interest in it at all.</b> I thought we were makeing progress, but after I had baby ds almost 4 months ago, she is now totally into diapers again. I have tried to bribe her with treats to go on the potty (yeah pathetic I know). That doesn't work. <b>She just make peeing sounds and says she pees just to get treats. And I have tried putting underwear on her and she just pees (or poos which is a mess<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">) in them every time.</b> How do I get her potty trained?</div>
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She is telling you loud and clear that she is NOT ready!</b> I caved to pressure from my mother about potty learning with DD earlier than she was ready. I really wish I'd trusted DD and myself about her not being ready.<br><br>
My DD is 6 years old now and still has a lot of accidents (pee only). I think part of the reason is that we pushed her before she was really ready. Her personality is such that she only does things when she is ready. Pushing her just makes her not want to do it. And DD often seems confused about if she has to go or not. (Yes we've been to docs - she's fine and should gain more control within a year or so. Until then, I still do tons of laundry and have to have extra pants available at all times.)<br><br>
I would highly suggest you help your child with potty learning on her own schedule. It may be inconvenient for now while you have a new baby, but regression is normal with the addition of a sibling. If your DD is pretending to pee to get a treat, she doesn't care about peeing in the toilet. It sounds like this method is already creating more work for you than you want right now. It will be much easier if she is ready. I hope you decide to wait.
 
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