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i was the OP on the "do your neighbors hear you argue" post. i am still thinking abou this topic, but i feel sooooo much better in relation to my DH right now that i just pray i dont ever yell at him agian.<br><br>
we really do respect and love each other so much. and i dont understand why sometimes we just get so mad over dumb stuff, that our voices raise and i end up even yelling at him. i feel terrible about it, and i have to say that 2 days after my thread on this board, i got my AF. this is my third cycle since my son was born, 19 mos ago. AND even though we still had been fighting at times, the emotional pitch was never like it was the other day. except when i was PG , boy did we have some irrational crazy fights!!!! now that i am putting all that together i wonder what do i do if it is just my hormones???!!! that seems so unfair to me....<br><br>
i am still nursing and dont want to go on drugs. but i desparatly want to get along with DH! i am serioulsy looking at therapy for us, but if it is strictly hormonal, then what if the problem is mine and i just need to take a drug, thus we waste time and money on therapy?<br><br>
do any of you PMS and how does it affect your relationships???<br>
i probably cried more in the week before this period than i had since my c-section. i cant ignore the hormonal changes i was gong thru then and the hormonal changes i am going through now, with AF back. i hardly EVER cried over the last year, and i have always been a crier. i thought it was weird, but kinda nice, i felt so good not crying al the time over everything. now i feel like that emotional crap is back, and i fear for my family!!!!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/FIREdevil.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="devil">
 

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Traditional Chinese Medicine and Acupuncture can balance hormones.....I do Rescue Remedy when I start to feel the flair coming on.....Also increased calcium and magnesium is supposed to help with PMS......Nettles tea.....I keep track of my cycle on the calender and of my accompaning migraines (hormonally triggered). My dh pays attention too and knows when my period is coming on and then is more apt to let my rants roll off his shoulders without the heat! Keep breathing! Are you getting enough alone time, if any??????
 

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ah! malamamama! you were the one that was so helpful about my ds's teeth..right? and again there you are with great advice for me. i was wondering about rescue remedy. i shoud go get some. my problem is when i get in that messed up head space i have trouble nurturing myself, so it all compunds upon itself. but no, not so much me time ever really, and i know i should really ge that. I LOVE acupuncture, do really great with it, but no $$$ for it right now....but you are right. i wish there were an easy way out ! i dont want to do all this "taking care of myself " junk! just kidding,<br><br>
thanks agaibn, have monkey ds on me now! cant type! lol
 

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Yes! Just put the rescue remedy in your pocket and take it as needed during the day!!! I know.....alone time.....remind me what that's like again????<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes">: If you are in a big city, there might be an acupuncture school with reasonable rates when you get a little extra. Hang in there with your hormones, Mama!
 

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Sorry to barge in, but I have never heard of Rescue Remedy and am VERY VERY interested as I am a depressive angry person days before AF. And I always think I am going crazy until AF shows and then I say, "OH, yea! That happens every time!" PLease let me know more about it. Thanks!!
 

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you are not barging! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> rescue remedy is a homeopathic remedy . it is in tincture form (drops) and you can get it at health food stores, etc.<br><br>
i dont know what it is even made of, but like 5 years ago i carried a bottle around with me all the time. its intended for use for stress, trauma, etc. i have used it at work when things get high stress (in fact it was a co-op that i worked at that first turned me on to it, they kept a bottle in thier first aid kit) , i used it once when i got a pretty bad electric shock, and i have used it when i have gotten hurt, like cut my finger. i have also used it for panic attacks . for all of these things, it has provided me with calm and clarity. definatly worth a try, no side effects...doesnt make you high or anything like that (LOL).<br><br>
i always wondered if it was just psycho-sematic, but then i just decided, who cares if it is, it works! it calms me. i had forgotten about it till i posted here...
 

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ok, so, whats HIS excuse? it takes two to argue.<br><br><br>
and if it is mostly pms he should still be more understanding and tolerant.<br><br>
good luck with the rescue remedy! let us know how it works for you!
 

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Rescue Remedy is made of flower essences. It works energetically. I first tried it about 8 years ago when I was going thru an emotionally traumatic time and then just rediscovered it recently when dealing with dental trauma and my 2.5 dd. I gave it to her and myself. Check out this thread for more detail. <a href="http://216.92.20.151/discussions/showthread.php?s=&threadid=85118&highlight=rescue+remedy" target="_blank">http://216.92.20.151/discussions/sho...=rescue+remedy</a>
 

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he doesnt have an excuse, and neither do i.<br><br>
i was just noticing that things get worse around my time of the month.<br><br>
we are both accountable for our half of it. he gets cranky when he is under stress due to school etc. we both work on it. i posted here about my end of it, since i cant really speak for dh...<br><br><br>
i wasnt using hormones as an excuse though, i feel really strongly about that, that its not an excuse. but it DOES seem to be affecting me. so i am going to try to bring myself relief at that time next month and see if it helps. we will still argue , i am sure, but i want to do what i can to bring down my own emotional pitch when the arguments occur.<br><br>
thats all...its late, so i hope my blunt word choice doesnt offend, i feel rather matter-of- fact right now, but not directed at anyone personaly, just the topic itself
 

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I had a very similiar experience and it took a while for it to dawn on me that I was crazy because of hormones. For one I still have not bleed and my soon is almost 14 months (and still nursing). Wondering when other mamas started to bleed again...<br><br>
Also when I was in Abq, New Mexico I got some acupuncture done at a school for like $10. Maybe there's a place around your home town?<br><br>
"my problem is when i get in that messed up head space i have trouble nurturing myself, so it all compunds upon itself."<br><br>
I wish I had the insight to write this...this is my problem too. And then someone gives me some good advice and I remember that I know what I need to do but I need that nudge to get me out of my head space sometimes.<br><br>
I got some tea from a local herb shop that is for balancing hormones but safe for breastfeeding. I need to buy some more soon so I will get a list of the herbs and post 'em.<br><br>
Pillow fights are more fun than therapy and cheaper.<br><br>
or you can do the banana dance ----> <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/banana.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="banana">
 

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MamaNancy, I was 11 mo when I got my period again & I was going crazy! I think it gets worse towards the end...all those toxins u usually get rid of once a month...there for 14!<br><br>
I don't have any real advice because I am hormonally not balanced! I will try the rescue remedy too! I have tried it before, but was with my high-stress friend so I can't say whether it got any better (it was a long, long road trip)<br>
I just pray towards the end of my cycle to just get it over with so I can start anew! I love the feeling of getting out all the bad stuff, I'm kind of a menstruation junkie<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> Don't like the on-edge feeling leading up to it, but everything has it's cost...we should be really grateful we have these wonderful selfcleaning bodies that know exactly what to do--and are beautiful while they're doing it!<br><br>
That's the best positive thing I could find to say!!!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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my dd turned 2 at the beginning of the month and still no AF for me. i'm starting to think that the hormones are really getting to me because i completely broke down today. i sure hope she comes soon. as fun as it is to say that i haven't seen her since 2000, it will be such a relief at this point. dh and i got in a big fight today and we still haven't resolved things <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/mecry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="crying"> i hate feeling like this. i never used to be such an emotional wreck <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
i'm very interested in this rescue remedy...does anybody know if they have it at wild oats?
 

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I'm a beast the week before my period, and it's stretching into two weeks before - I find I actually say a lot of truth during that time but not in the most constructive of ways <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes">:<br><br>
I haven't tried rescue remedy but something that does have a calming effect is evening primrose oil. Also helps pre menstrual breast pain.<br><br>
good luck everyone (where's that pink smilie gone? I've been away too long)
 
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