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Everyone around me keeps saying not to even think about trying the potty till ds is almost 3. Which to me seems old.....he seems to be interested in everyone else going potty...not to mention when naked he looks down and then he pees. He can also poop on demand...he thinks it is funny to poop on the floor.<br><br>
So, I thought I could go ahead and buy him a potty and training pants...not really forcing him to do anything but if he wants to let him.<br><br>
I want to be encouraging and I think this is the best way.....<br><br>
Am I nuts for wanting to buy him a potty at only 16 months??
 

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I'd say you are totally not nuts. Personally, I think that those who say to 'not even think about it till 3' are nuts - it is, after all, about when the child is ready. If you think there is a chance that this will help your child, by all means, go for it. Of course, if he starts screaming and throwing things at it whenever he sees it, you may need to hide it and strategically reinstate it later, but I suspect he'll do as my daughter did when we bought her a potty at that age - absolutely nothing, until she was 2 and suddenly decided it was a good idea to use it. Her decision came out of the blue and I was glad we had it on hand :)
 

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No not silly, smart! We got our ds his potty when he was 15 months (because he was communictaing to us that he was going potty in his diaper) and it sat and gathered dust for months, but we talked about it from time to time. Then, at 19 months he got up form his nap one afternoon and used the potty (though his diaper was still on!!). You could've knocked me over with a feather! He used it pretty well for a few days, then the novelty wore off and he went back to diapers. But by 23 months he was completely trained and though we supported him, he took the lead and it was effortless for us. Surely not the "typical" pattern, and who knows why he trained himself so early, but it wouldn't likely have happened if we didn't have that potty gathering dust in the bathroom!<br>
Of course, this is the same love who announced today (at 32 months!) that he was being "silly" and he peed in his carseat on our way to Trader Joes! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes">: I guess he's figured out that that's not the best way to get a laugh!
 

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I always thought about it kind of like using a spoon. Sure I don't expect my 15 month old to use his spoon, but I usually put it out there for him to look at and play with. And if he uses it once pretty well I don't expect that thats the end of fingers- everytime he eat from now on has to be with a utensil. It is a very gradual learning experience. Of course my oldest didn't get it until more like 3 1/2 (actually when my youngest did it all himself at barely 2).
 

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No, you are not silly. Kids are individuals and like in all things, they learn at different ages. This definitely includes potty learning/training. I almost missed a great chance to have my daughter out of diapers because I was so “well read” about the normal ages for readiness and how “pushing” could damage a child. We had a potty for a while and my daughter started using it at 19 months. I thought it must have been a fluke but then I realized that she was completely “trained” from the day she used the potty the first time. Yea, get a potty and go with it! I would also recommend trying outings and bedtime diaper free earlier than you may have because it worked for us. I think we were lucky to have all the physical readiness so early because she is still too young to know that there are any power issues with using diapers…and they’re long gone!
 

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I would go ahead and get it but not really do anything with it, unless he's the one really pushing it. With a new baby due so soon, your ds will likely regress if he starts on the potty now. My kids are 23 mos apart and I didn't even try w/dd until a few months after ds was born. Of course, all children are different, and your son may be perfectly well ready. Only you and he can know that.
 

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Personally, I think everyone should register for a baby potty and get one at their baby showers! Children are very individual about when they start using the potty, but if your child is pooping on demand - why not poop in the potty? If it's around and part of your normal routine - mommy goes to the potty - ds does too - then what could that hurt? Yes - get the potty!<br><br>
Also remember that 20 years ago, you were very unusual if your child was not potty trained by 18 months! The ages change with the generations so it's very possible your DS is ready.
 

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I bought Kay one at 18 months.. I figured she might not use it then.. but would get comfortable seeing it around<br>
I sat it right by our potty & sit her on it a few times a day.. she thinks its a toy though & still has no interest in using it <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes">:
 

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Yeha, I have no intention of "forcing" him to use it. But I figure it would be nice to sit him on it before our shower...when he likes to poop on the foor.<br><br>
I was talking to a gal pal and she said that her son isn't ready yet so she isn't even trying....her son turned 3 a month ago....<br><br>
I would love it if he could figure it out but I'm not going to push it or he'll NEVER use it <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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My 15 month old dd has been showing some of the telltale signs of potty readiness:<br><br>
saying poo poo, bringing diaper for changing after pooping, trying to sit on dd2 potty (so cute)...HOWEVER...<br><br>
I am not going to really try and have her use it now. I am not ready, lol...plus I don't think she's quite really ready yet.Her trying to sit on the potty is really her just imitating my and her two older sisters. I won't actively try and train her though. Not before 19 or 20 months at least.<br><br>
sniff, sniff...my diapering days are numbered...<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/mecry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="crying">
 
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