Appalled is a strong word. And I can understand the hub-bub. A planned home birth is one thing. An unplanned homebirth is scary and rather shocking, particulary to the people involved.
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Oh yes,and unplanned X location birth is always scary. My dh works an hour and a half away from my house and in my last weeks of pregnancy I was having bad dreams about having my baby alone, in a taxi! and with a driver who wouldn't know what to do!
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So, Odessa, will she planning her next baby at home?
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How true. I know that that particular case was unusual, but this is what is expected of women and men during labor.
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Odessa, I understand why you are frustrated. I take everything to heart when it comes to birth and the whole "birth is scary" idea our society has just drives me nuts. I am glad to be, hopefully, breaking the cycle with my children. I don't want my girls to grow up with that same old fear of childbirth we were all given.
| If she had been screaming and thrashing about so some man could have rescued her and been a hero, maybe she wouldn't have been threatened with CPS. |
Odessa, I understand why you are frustrated. I take everything to heart when it comes to birth and the whole "birth is scary" idea our society has just drives me nuts. I am glad to be, hopefully, breaking the cycle with my children. I don't want my girls to grow up with that same old fear of childbirth we were all given.
when veronica was a lil baby (as opposed to a big baby now, lol) some guy in the tire store was cooing at her and then told me about the AMAZING story of his 3rd child who was born at home, on the couch, because his wife didnt make it into the hospital in time....the paramedics caught the baby i guess....i dont remember. well, he was none too pleased about my lack of shock and awe. then i asked him what they did with the couch, he looked confused and said, 'I dont know, we used it for a few more years, then treelawned it'
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Until I began going to LLL I had never met a woman who had had a baby at home (IRL
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). Institutionalized births are MUCH more common than homebirths (unfortunatly). If I had a birth at home (planned or unplanned), my entire family would think it was a strange thing and it would get alot of hoopla. It's our society in general.
On the whole "giving the man credit"...I hate that. My hubby says (trying...oh trying to convince him of homebirth for our next baby) that we NEED a doctor there to deliver our baby. I told him that the doctor doesn't deliver the baby......I DO .
On the whole "giving the man credit"...I hate that. My hubby says (trying...oh trying to convince him of homebirth for our next baby) that we NEED a doctor there to deliver our baby. I told him that the doctor doesn't deliver the baby......I DO .
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It cracks me up when I see this... just last week a female sheriff's deputy delivered a woman in the back of her minivan, and it was a big deal in the papers. Like women haven't been delivering in fields and rice paddies for centuries.
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My DH has been a police officer for 13 years. He'd been working as a cop for about a year when he was the first officer on-scene and delivered a woman in the back seat of his squad car. I asked him, did he feel heroic? "No -- I was scared s---less. I'm just glad that she didn't scream too much."
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He refused to grant interviews to the press, even though his chief wanted him to (it was "good P.R."
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: ) and said that he's glad he knows he can do it, but he'd rather not have to ever again.
My DH... my hero.
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| You see the sherriff/cop/etc interviewed on the news like he performed this heroic, lifesaving act. C'mon. |
My DH has been a police officer for 13 years. He'd been working as a cop for about a year when he was the first officer on-scene and delivered a woman in the back seat of his squad car. I asked him, did he feel heroic? "No -- I was scared s---less. I'm just glad that she didn't scream too much."
He refused to grant interviews to the press, even though his chief wanted him to (it was "good P.R."
My DH... my hero.
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Okay, not to be off topic, too, but Tracy, your signature is too too funny!!!!
Thanks for the giggle!
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Thanks for the giggle!
OK, I've been trying to ignore this thread, but I just can't seem to keep my big mouth shut.
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I am one of those women that had an unplanned, unassisted birth. My little girl was born in the front seat of our minivan, on the side of the freeway. My husband caught her as she came shooting out (literally!) and the paramedics came a few minutes later. I think the reason people makes such a big deal out of it is because it's a dramatic, and to most people, a scary thing. As I think about her birth experience now, I realize how lucky we were that nothing went wrong. I think that people whog o into a homebirth prepared for a homebirth are a lot more prepared for different situations that may arise than someone who is "forced" into a homebirth (or carbirth!) and wasn't planning on it. I was so pumped up on adrenaline that I didn't have time to be scared- it was only afterwards that I realized how scary that situation was and how many things could have gone wrong.
I think in general, that people are attracted to dramatic stories. I don't know about you, but it seems like every I get in a group of women for more than a few minutes, we're sharing birth stories and other dramatic exeriences, and having a baby in such a dramatic fashion will automatically attract some attention.
And just for the record, when people start congratualting my husband for doing such an incredible job (which he did!) I always remind them, sometimes not so gently, that I was the one who did the work. And, I am completly in awe of people who have homebirths. I think that is truly amazing. And although I don't think that my dh and I would ever choose that, I have a lot of respect and admiration for those that do. (Although if my next labor is any shorter than my last, I may not have a choice!)
I am one of those women that had an unplanned, unassisted birth. My little girl was born in the front seat of our minivan, on the side of the freeway. My husband caught her as she came shooting out (literally!) and the paramedics came a few minutes later. I think the reason people makes such a big deal out of it is because it's a dramatic, and to most people, a scary thing. As I think about her birth experience now, I realize how lucky we were that nothing went wrong. I think that people whog o into a homebirth prepared for a homebirth are a lot more prepared for different situations that may arise than someone who is "forced" into a homebirth (or carbirth!) and wasn't planning on it. I was so pumped up on adrenaline that I didn't have time to be scared- it was only afterwards that I realized how scary that situation was and how many things could have gone wrong.
I think in general, that people are attracted to dramatic stories. I don't know about you, but it seems like every I get in a group of women for more than a few minutes, we're sharing birth stories and other dramatic exeriences, and having a baby in such a dramatic fashion will automatically attract some attention.
And just for the record, when people start congratualting my husband for doing such an incredible job (which he did!) I always remind them, sometimes not so gently, that I was the one who did the work. And, I am completly in awe of people who have homebirths. I think that is truly amazing. And although I don't think that my dh and I would ever choose that, I have a lot of respect and admiration for those that do. (Although if my next labor is any shorter than my last, I may not have a choice!)
the nice thing is, though, that those fast births rarely have any complications at all!
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Driving (or just being in a car) during transition, though, sounds more painful than transition itself!
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