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I am 4 months PP with my second child. I have a wonderful homebirth experience and LOVE being pregnant. My two keep me busy enough so I don't want another baby yet, but I WANT TO BE PREGNANT. When will these feelings go away? Is this just hormones? I've been wanting to get pregnant and give birth again since my new baby was like a month old
. Anyone else have these feelings right after having a baby?
 

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I have no desire to be pregnant again, but really enjoyed giving birth. I can't say that I enjoy pregnancy that much. I mentioned this in the ecstatic birth thread that one of the first thought in my head after giving birth the first time was "I have to go through nine months of pregnancy in order to get to do that again."
 

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I was the same way - I LOVE being pregnant and my last two labor/deliveries were as close to perfect as you can get!

I soooo missed that babe inside of me, the kicking, the movement, the hiccups.....but I did NOT want the babe. I would love to be a surrogate Mum!

Alas, God had different plans for me and now I AM pregnant again with my OWN babe
and I honestly can't say I wish anything different right now!
 

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I didn't think I enjoyed pregnancy all that much, but right after my baby was born, I wanted to get pregnant again SO BADLY. That lasted about six months. Now I'm happy to wait a while longer. So, I'm guessing there's some hormonal nudging going on.
 

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I felt that way after my first few. Slowly the feelings have gone away. I am a miserable pg women now. I hate labor and birth worse than pg. But I would love to have the kids. But yea after my first I couldn't wait to do it again. Even with the terrible birth experience with my 2nd I couldn't wait to do it again. After my 4th though I wasn't too keen on birth anymore. #7 and #8 pgs have done me in and I officially hate being pg too. It might be a combination of experiences, age, and hormones.
 

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I feel that way all the time. I see pregnant moms and I think I want to be there. If it was not for the breast milk drying up thing, I would get pregnant again... (although, I do want another baby too!)
 

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I'm the opposite. This pregnancy has been miserable (I'm 30 weeks) but I really want more children. If I could just have the baby (even giving birth is fine), without the pregnancy...
 

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Yes, I feel the same way. I have 2 kids and my husband doesn't want any more. I feel like I'd not cope too well raising 3 kids but I'd love to have a third pregnancy (and birth, even though just after my 2nd I said "no way am I ever doing that again!
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DS is extremely high needs, doesn't sleep, BF's all the time...... I'm exhausted and can barely function.... yet when I see/talk to another pg woman/mom with new baby... I WANT TO DO IT AGAIN!
I didn't "love" being pregnant at the beginning (sick) or end (huge belly, uncomfortable), but the middle was really fun and I loved giving birth. If only there was a way to just go back and do it all over again and have DS all over again, rather than a new baby.. cuz I could NOT handle that right now!

I am hoping these feelings go away soon though.. cuz I do want to wait at least another year before getting pg again!
 

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Exactly! For a while after my birth, I half seriously discussed with my DH having another baby (or twins if I was lucky) and giving the babe to some great friends of ours who are looking into adoption. Nice idea, but I realized it was totally selfish.

We know how hard more children would be, but you remember what a great pregnancy and birth you had, and think "why not do that again a few more times."

It's biology, the "Selfish Gene" and all!
 

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Just an idea, you could be a surrogate...
This was my suggestion, too.. I was just looking at a surrogate site the other day (purely out of curiosity), it pays $22,000+ to surrogate (that's about what I make in two years!) My only issue would be, your LO is so young that getting pregnant now would dry up your supply before your LO was able to benefit from at least a full year of breastfeeding.
 

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Just an idea, you could be a surrogate...
I've actually thought about it, but I don't think it would work out for me. I love being pregnant and giving birth to MY baby and doing it MY way... I just don't know how I'd feel about going it through it for someone else, doing it how they want (I assume I wouldn't be able to home birth). Or I'd be afraid I'd get attached to the baby in me. In other words, I don't think it's for me
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Not to mention, the idea of all those hormone injections doesn't sit well with me.
 

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That's how I knew my impulse was totally selfish and biological. I'd consider having my own baby if someone else would raise them lovingly. But I'm not really interested in being a surrogate. Just not my thing. And I'd want a homebirth too.
 

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Yes. Only 2 months PP here and yes, having pregnancy fantasies a bit.

A wonderful wise women warned me about the before birth. She UCed her kids on a homesteading commune in Oregon in the seventies and is very wise about the portals of life and death. She was concerned about the posibility of PPD for me, due to climate and my history of depression, and told me that the placenta gives you alot of "juice", life force energy so be prepared for that to go away.
You have an extra organ whose job is to nurture life force energy in you when you are pregnant.

I felt that this was really accurate, I felt lusciously alive, w/ thick hair and glowing skin, heightened sensory powers and I have never been so warm in winter as when I was PG.
 

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I'm the opposite. This pregnancy has been miserable (I'm 30 weeks) but I really want more children. If I could just have the baby (even giving birth is fine), without the pregnancy...
This is me. I hate being pregnant, but love giving birth and the newborn period... after that they start thinking for themselves and smelling bad.
 

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I felt that way about the first three years of my DS's life! hehe
It is one reason why I would love to be a surrogate one day! - I can experience the joys of it all without the baby at the end of the day - instead experiencing giving someone else the joy of a family!
 

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I've felt this way pretty much since I gave birth 8 weeks ago! Okay, maybe it was after that first week PP... I can't wait to do it all again. The anticipation throughout pregnancy and the excitement of giving birth. It was quite a rush and one very exciting year! I'm still going back and forth with myself with whether or not I want my babies close together or if I'd like to spread them out a little... I would love to be pregnant and give birth again, but not sure if I want another baby right now.
 
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