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<p>Please, please, tell me I am not the only mama out there who hates extended family and in-laws kissing her kid on the lips.  Am I crazy?  My 2 year old was literally LICKING the in-laws mouths which was getting lots of laughs about "french kisses", encouragement, and photos from the whole family, until finally, I couldn't take it any more and picked him up.  I really thought it was DH's place to do this since it is his family.  He and I had a discussion about this a month ago when he suggested DS give his grandma a kiss despite the fact she was COVERED in cold sores. I asked him to please not encourage it at the very least.  ugh!</p>
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<p>So, am I the only one who doesn't like people kissing her kid on the lips?  If you don't like it, what do you do???  Honestly, from the cold sores to it just being cold and flu season, I want people's lips off my kid.  Just wondering if I am being super cranky and up tight....</p>
 

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<p>I would vote other if I could. It doesn't bug me if family kiss my kids on the lips... Unless my kids make it perfectly clear they are uncomfortable with it and said person still insists. I will get in there and put a stop to it when I know my DC don't want kisses or hugs.</p>
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>philomom</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1281798/am-i-the-only-one-who-hates-all-this-holiday-kissing#post_16073820"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p>I'm from the line of thought that mouth to mouth kissing is for lovers only. Face cheeks are okay for others.</p>
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This is how I feel too.</p>
 
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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>philomom</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1281798/am-i-the-only-one-who-hates-all-this-holiday-kissing#post_16073820"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border-bottom:0px solid;border-left:0px solid;border-top:0px solid;border-right:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p>I'm from the line of thought that mouth to mouth kissing is for lovers only. Face cheeks are okay for others.</p>
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yes, exactly!  So then, what do you do if someone is kissing your kids on the lips??</p>
 

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<p>It bugs me, too.  And the cold sores would thoroughly freak me out!  Those are extremely contagious, aren't they!?! </p>
<p>As to what I do about it . . . not much, unfortunately.  Luckily, it doesn't happen that much in the first place for us, but when it does, I'm usually too slow to catch it.  If it was ongoing like you describe, I'd probably jump in & distract DS - just get him out of there.  You could always tell the adult kisser that your LO has something contagious or "looked like he was coming down with a cold."  Idk, maybe that would work?</p>
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>blumooned</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1281798/am-i-the-only-one-who-hates-all-this-holiday-kissing#post_16073844"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border-bottom:0px solid;border-left:0px solid;border-top:0px solid;border-right:0px solid;"></a><br><p> You could always tell the adult kisser that your LO has something contagious or "looked like he was coming down with a cold."  Idk, maybe that would work?</p>
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He actually has bronchitis, was coughing up a storm, and they knew that and it didn't stop them!  ugh!  The truth is, with these particular people, the biggest issue is actually a complete and utter lack of boundaries, and not just in regards to kissing.  I am thankful Thanksgiving is over for this year!</p>
 

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<p>Kissing my kids on the mouth doesn't bother me at all, as long as it doesn't bother the kid in question. I'd be pretty annoyed at someone kissing any of them with cold sores, though!</p>
 
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<p>I don't like it. Family kissing babies/children is a common way for kids to get herpes. I know it is a common virus,but I prefer my kids not get it.Kiss on the head or cheek if you must kiss at all.</p>
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>APToddlerMama</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1281798/am-i-the-only-one-who-hates-all-this-holiday-kissing#post_16073753"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border-bottom:0px solid;border-left:0px solid;border-top:0px solid;border-right:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p>Please, please, tell me I am not the only mama out there who hates extended family and in-laws kissing her kid on the lips.  Am I crazy?  My 2 year old was literally LICKING the in-laws mouths which was getting lots of laughs about "french kisses", encouragement, and photos from the whole family, until finally, I couldn't take it any more and picked him up.  I really thought it was DH's place to do this since it is his family.  He and I had a discussion about this a month ago when he suggested DS give his grandma a kiss despite the fact she was COVERED in cold sores. I asked him to please not encourage it at the very least.  ugh!</p>
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<p>So, am I the only one who doesn't like people kissing her kid on the lips?  If you don't like it, what do you do???  Honestly, from the cold sores to it just being cold and flu season, I want people's lips off my kid.  Just wondering if I am being super cranky and up tight....</p>
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It sounds like your 2 year old enjoys lip kissing, since he was literally licking relatives' mouths. I guess you will either have to teach him otherwise if it bothers you, or accept the fact that you child feels differently than you do on this issue.</p>
 

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<p>I would put other if it was an options.</p>
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<p>The cold sore would freak me out. But other than that, I would have to accept this is some family tradition my DH is allowing. Well as long as my child is a willing participant.  </p>
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<p>I think the other boundary issues is the root of the problem (other than the cold sores).  </p>
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>philomom</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1281798/am-i-the-only-one-who-hates-all-this-holiday-kissing#post_16073820"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p>I'm from the line of thought that mouth to mouth kissing is for lovers only. Face cheeks are okay for others.</p>
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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>APToddlerMama</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1281798/am-i-the-only-one-who-hates-all-this-holiday-kissing#post_16073837"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a><br><br><br><br><div class="quote-container"><span>Quote:</span>
<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>philomom</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1281798/am-i-the-only-one-who-hates-all-this-holiday-kissing#post_16073820"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p>I'm from the line of thought that mouth to mouth kissing is for lovers only. Face cheeks are okay for others.</p>
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yes, exactly!  So then, what do you do if someone is kissing your kids on the lips??</p>
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Just tell them in no uncertain terms to not kiss your child on the lips.  You find it gross.</p>
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<p>Gross!!  I am SO glad our family doesn't ask for kisses.  Hugs are plenty, thank you very much.</p>
 

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<p>No one in our family kisses on the lips other than their spouse or SO.</p>
<p>Yes, it would bother me if someone was kissing my child on the lips.</p>
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>philomom</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1281798/am-i-the-only-one-who-hates-all-this-holiday-kissing#post_16073820"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p>I'm from the line of thought that mouth to mouth kissing is for lovers only. Face cheeks are okay for others.</p>
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Ugh. In 99% of cases, I'd rather not get a kiss than a face/cheek kiss. They wig me out. It's like "you're almost close enough to me that I want to kiss you, but not quite". (I'm sure that's partly because my incredibly plastic, drama-queen aunt has bestowed more of these kisses on me than anyone else, but I just really don't like them.)</p>
 

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<p>i dont think kissing on the lips is abnormal but i do HATE it when someone other than me or DH kisses my baby on her lips. seriously idk where you're mouth has been/what you might have/what germs you're throwing at her.</p>
 

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<p>haha, i find it gross when my baby tries to kiss me on the lips! she is so slobbery, and right now at least her nose is drippy and snotty, and i see what else she tries to put her mouth on (i.e EVERYTHING). i prefer NOT to get a mouthful of snot, drool, crumbs, cat hair and god knows what else....</p>
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<p>but yeah, i would find it bothersome. my mom is fairly anti-lovey (hmm... wonder where i get it from?) but my dad can get a bit carried away. i just told him nicely to stop it, mostly saying i didn't want her to get bad habits (like licking or kissing other people's mouths) and he did. distracting to another form of showing affection, "let's show grandpa we can wave!" or tickling or whatever also works.</p>
 

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My thoughts exactly!!</p>
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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>sosurreal09</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1281798/am-i-the-only-one-who-hates-all-this-holiday-kissing#post_16074426"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border-bottom:0px solid;border-left:0px solid;border-top:0px solid;border-right:0px solid;"></a><br><p>seriously idk where you're mouth has been/what you might have/what germs you're throwing at her.</p>
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<p>I am not a big fan of all the mandatory kissing and hugging.  It's just not my thing.  The mouth kissing gives me the creeps so I encourage my daughter to shake hands, fist bump, high five, or anything else that will stop a kiss in it's tracks.  I just don't like it.  And hell to the no on the cold sores and I don't mind saying it.  I'm not going to embarrass anyone, but I will get between my child and someone else if I see that might be even sort of about to happen.  As I understand it, they are highly contagious and once you have them, you're stuck dealing with them for life.  Thanks but no.</p>
 
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