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Hi...I'm Erin, new to these boards though I'm an old fan of Mothering magazine.<br><br>
My husband and I have always talked about trying to have another baby before my ds is 18 months, which would put the kids somewhere between 22 and 28 months apart. We determined that we ovulated yesterday for the first time since I conceived Connor and we had bd yesterday before we knew that. I am so torn! I would love to be pregnant again, but I am so worried that it will threaten a very strong bf relationship with my son. He is a boob baby all the way. I have read about so many supply issues, how much it can hurt, etc and I wonder if it would end up hurting him. That's the absolute last thing I want to do!<br><br>
Another issue...my mom caught the first egg after me, and she ended up having a stillbirth at almost 23 weeks. I don't think I could handle that if it happened to me, and I know the chances of the same thing happening to me is slight, but I am still a little superstitious for lack of a better word.
 

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hopefully a word of encouragement...<br>
I conceived dd2 when dd1 was 14 months old and successfully breastfed throughout my pregnancy and am currently tandem nursing.<br>
I don't know if my milk supply dropped off or not, a bit I am sure but don't think it ever completely went away....<br>
I did have a period of time when I had a strong aversion to nursing but I just figured out how to grin and bear it... we weathered through it and our nursing bond strengthened and continued....<br>
I firmly believe dd1 had a much better time adjusting to the new baby and her new role because of our continued breastfeeding. You <i>can</i> do it <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I've nursed through two pregnancies. And, then tandemed after that! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><br><br>
If you are, you can do it! If you're not, perhaps you should wait a bit so you feel less anxious about it all. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I conceived my ds when dd was 15 monthes old and was very concerned about our nursing relationship. I made sure to drink a ton of water and eat oatmeal everyday, however my milk did still dry up around 20 weeks and nursing was painful until the colstrum came in around 32 weeks. Even with those challenges our nursing relationship has only grown stronger, plus now she gets to share her nur-nur with her baby brother! I heard a quote once by Pope John Paul II, he said "the best gift you can give your child is a sibling". As I expand my family I can see how true that statement is. Good luck to you, I hope everthing works out for the best.
 

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Thanks...I guess it's a little late to worry about it this month. Oops! I am determined I'm going to do it, but I can't help worrying. Thanks for putting up with me!
 

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No sense fretting about it this month- if it was meant to be, it was meant to be. But if you're not pregnant, I would wait. We waited until dd was over 2 and I'm SO glad we did. She really needed to nurse a lot in that time and there has been a big drop in my supply now that I'm pregnant (even though she still nurses tons)<br><br>
-Angela
 

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DS1 nursed all the way through my pregnancy with DD (they are 29 months apart) and continued to nurse through the beginning of my [regnancy with DS2, when he weaned a few weeks after his 4th bday. DD nursed through most of my pregnancy with DS2, but weaned a month or two before he was born (they are 27 months apart).
 

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Hello!<br>
I got pregnant when dd was 9 months old. I nursed her through my pregnancy and am tandeming the girls now (23 months and 3 months). It was not without challenges (milk supply dropping, nursing aversions) but BF always comes with a few snags now and then. I wouldn't worry too much...HTH! Off to nurse speaking of nursing babes!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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well, if you're pregnant, you're pregnant, and a nursing relationship can definitely survive a pregnancy if you're determined. so don't sweat it if you are - you'll work it out for sure!<br><br>
but having said that, i thought we were ready and got pg when DD was 17 months (they're 26 months apart in age) and we had a really rough time the first half of my pregnancy. my milk totally dried up, and did so quickly. and i tried *everything* to keep it going, it was just impossible for me. DD was extremely upset by the lack of milkie, and it was extremely difficult for me to see her so distraught. life was pretty miserable for her, and me (and DH too for that matter) for several months.<br><br>
she ultimately did adjust, nursed through pregnancy, and ten months beyond, at which point i gently encouraged her to wean at age 3. I don't regret the way things happened, but we do intend to have another baby, and I hope to allow DS to wean (or at least to be much closer to being ready - over age 2 certainly, if not 3) before we TTC again, because i don't want him to go through what his sister did if i can help it. and i think it would've been much easier for her if she were older - she would've understood better what was happening, she would've been nursing less often anyway, and i think it would've been significantly easier for all of us had we waited.
 
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