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While I was out to eat today with my babe there was a woman with a 2 year old sitting next to me. I assumed it was the mom but after speaking to her I learned she was the sitter. After some conversation I found out that the mother is 6 months pregnant and the sitter is watching the 2 year old while she was at a prenatal appt. I asked the sitter if the mom is still nursing and she said "she was and then I convinced her to stop. She didnt realize that she could kill her baby by nursing her toddler"<br>
What the arf?
 

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yeah that's a myth. Of course some OB's will tell you that you'll cause a miscarriage because of contractions<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<table border="0" cellpadding="6" cellspacing="0" width="99%"><tr><td class="alt2" style="border:1px inset;">according to La Leche League's BREASTFEEDING ANSWER BOOK, 3rd Edition 2003, page 407. "Although uterine contractions are experienced during breastfeeding, they are a normal part of pregnancy. .. Uterine contractions also occur during sexual activity, which most couples continue during pregnancy."</td>
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This lady stopped nursing because her *sitter* convinced her to stop? Something tells me she wanted to stop anyhow...otherwise she probably could have asked a LC, OB, or someone...
 

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Gee, AllyRae, compassion much?<br><br>
Could it not be that maybe she is pregnant, full of hormones, feeling vulnerable.. nursing a toddler while pregnant in a culture that frowns on it...<br>
and not in the shape to deal with it when someone she trusts tells her something horrifying?<br><br>
Why oh why oh why do so many people have to assume the WORST of other mothers... without ANY real information or reason for it? I will never understand it, this rush to condemn. It is so sad and so counterproductive.<br><br>
Yes, misinformation like this is why a lot of women don't persist in breastfeeding and that is sad. I feel very bad for this mama, that she got such scary and wrong information from someone she trusts.
 

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Hey, ease up. All I'm saying is there is probably more to the story. I don't know too many people who trust their sitters to give them medical advice, and someone who nursed a toddler probably has had many many people offer bad advice. There aren't a lot of people who nurse that long and give it up just like that when someone says something like that. Perhaps this lady needed a better support system or something...but just trusting the sitter's word doesn't sound like the entire story to me...nursing mothers hear a zillion lies, and this lady was probably no exception. All I'm saying is that if it really was like it sounded and she accepted the sitter's word without checking it with a more knowledgable source, she may have been ready to stop nursing anyhow and just needed that final push to do so. I never said there was anything wrong with it...for all we know, the sitter had nothing to do with it but she liked to think she did.
 

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Did you tell this sitter she was a moron--er, excuse me, wrong? I've known at least half a dozen women personally who tandem nursed and nursed thru pregnancy, without killing their babies.
 

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I was going to ask the same thing Ravin. Did you set this misinformed busybody straight on the facts?
 

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yeah, I second telling the sitter she's a moron <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> and please tell her not to quit her day job, as anything else she would probably starve. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/angry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="angry">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">She should be getting kudos for bf a two year old in the first place.</div>
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I hope you set her straight. What the heck is a mom doing listening to her babysitter over something so important anyway? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/headscratch.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="headscratch">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">She should be getting kudos for bf a two year old in the first place.</div>
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I told her that it was a myth and I have known many moms who have nursed throughout their pregnancies. And I told her that the mom should contact LLL if she wants reliable answers to her questions. The sitter just rolled her eyes at me and stopped talking.<br>
(no she wasnt a doctor, she was only 20 as was the mom)
 

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You did your part, now the rest is up to the babysitter. I doubt she'll say anything to the mother though. I don't understand why people listen to others instead of doing the research on their own. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/headscratch.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="headscratch">
 

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Total myth. I breastfed throughout my entire pregnancy. Breastfeeding does not deprive the fetus of a single nutrient. The body puts the fetus on priority over the toddler. If there weren't enough nutrients/calories to feed both, it is the milk that would decrease. The fetus would not be deprived. What a disservice that babysitter did! I wish people would get the facts before they opened their mouths.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I told her that it was a myth and I have known many moms who have nursed throughout their pregnancies. And I told her that the mom should contact LLL if she wants reliable answers to her questions. The sitter just rolled her eyes at me and stopped talking.<br>
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That's the kind of answer I wish I could come up with on the spot! Well said!! And what an irritating response from the babysitter.<br><br>
It's too bad that the "pregnant mothers should never breastfeed" myth is still out there. I nursed through my second pregnancy. But I can absolutely understand wanting to quit! Dry nursing is just the pits - my milk was gone, gone, gone by 20 weeks.
 

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My freaking goodness, I thought my family were the only idiots that thouht that!!<br>
I recievced a call from my aunt at 8:00 on a saturday morning one time because she was convinced that I was poisioning yana and killing the baby by breastfeeding while Iw as pregnant. Her, her MIL, and my grandmother were all up in arms that I was going to kill teh baby. I told themw what my midwife said about it but they didn't care because she was a "real" docter or nurse anyway. Total myth, I didn;t listen to them caus eI had already sone my research and my milk dried up by month 7 anyway. Well both morisa(baby) and yana are here and perfectly fine.
 

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Just wanted to comment on the many people who mentioned consulting a doctor for good advice. I am a little schocked by this since most Doctor's have very little knowledge of any about breastfeeding. I would not consult a Doctor, I would consult LLL all the way!!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Just wanted to comment on the many people who mentioned consulting a doctor for good advice. I am a little schocked by this since most Doctor's have very little knowledge of any about breastfeeding. I would not consult a Doctor, I would consult LLL all the way!!</div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/nod.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="nod"> I have to agree here. When I was at that "yearly exam", my OBGYN asked if I was planning on becoming pg soon. I told him that if it happened it happened, I wasn't planning anything. He then told me that I would have to wean DS (who was only 6mo at the time) during my first month of pg<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:. B/c I wasn't pg, I didn't argue it out w/ him then, but I have no intetnions of weaning IF I do become pg. Most OBs are misinformed, OR they will stick w/ the "you should wean if pg" line b/c they want to cover their tushies <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll">
 
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