|Originally Posted by junomama View Post|
On a side note, I have wondered if/how/when babies who are AP'd learn how to put themselves to sleep. (The only advice I hear from well-meaning friends involves CIO.) I am glad to hear that your 2-year-old managed to do it on her own, eventually. I am sure my son will figure it out in time, too. (Any tips?)
with dd, we moved and she got her own bedroom. for a while i'd ask "do you want to sleep in your bed, or mommy & daddy's?" she usually said ours, but during naps i didn't really give an option b/c i had to put ds down in our bed. so i cracked the door of her room and told her "you don't have to go to sleep, but if you get sleepy you can. you can just play quietly. it's quiet time. and if you need us, you can come get us." this eventually went into night time. the "if you need us, you can come get us" thing worked really well b/c dd didn't have as much anxiety about being all alone. most nights she came out 4 to 7 times and we just picked her up, got her some water or whatever, went back into her room, maybe sang a song or something, then went over the whole "it's bed time. if you need us..." also, she had a record player that had little blinking lights on it, and for a while she really enjoyed laying in her bed and watching the lights while listening to songs or stories.
still, this was amazing for dd. she's a very spirited child and always had a tough time getting to sleep w/o lots of dancing and singing and rocking, sometimes crying. ... haha. once, for about a week and a half i had to sit in the rocking chair w/her every night saying "grandma goes night night, and ryan goes night night, and the cat goes night night, and lyla goes night night, and it's okay to be sleepy, and the moon goes night night...." on and on for about an hour. . . i think i totally earned ds's sleep habits w/her!