[YankeeMomInVA]

I had an almost great experience today while I was out with my son... There were two moms and two about 2.5 y/o girls at the sandbox with their moms.... Girl1 took a toy from Girl2 and Girl2 started to freak out and run away screaming at the top of her lungs. Girl1's mama came over to Girl1 and asked her to look at Girl2's face and to tell her what she thought that meant. Girl1 said "She's sad." Girl1's mama said, "that's right. She's sad because she wasn't finished playing with that toy and it was taken from her. " Girl1's mama calls over to Girl2 and says, "Girl2, can you use your words and tell Girl1 that you were not finished playing with that toy? Would you use your words and ask her if you can have it back?" Girl2 asked Girl1 if she could have it back. Girl1 said, "sure!" and handeded it to her. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><br><br>
I smiled at Girl1's mama and told her that it was so refreshing to see a mom not hit or yell in a situation like that and that I really was impressed with how she handled it.<br><br>
"Thanks!" she said... and THEN...she added : "but don't get me wrong... I do smack her on her bottom when she's bad, too...just not in front of other people" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:<br><br>
I ALMOST had a lasting good feeling!

 

[nonconformnmom]

Oh my gosh! That stinks! I was feeling so warm and fuzzy while reading your post and then .... WHAMMY! I can't believe she said that. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/angry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="angry"> The spanking is bad enough but also the "when she's bad ..." Grrrrrr! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">

 

[Vermillion]

<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:

 

[annakiss]

<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> That's really too bad. What a confusing situation for the child!

 

[Yin Yang]

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Oh my gosh! That stinks! I was feeling so warm and fuzzy while reading your post and then .... WHAMMY! I can't believe she said that. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/angry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="angry"> The spanking is bad enough but also the "when she's bad ..." Grrrrrr! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"></div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/yeahthat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="yeah that">:

 

[AntoninBeGonin]

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I had an almost great experience today while I was out with my son... There were two moms and two about 2.5 y/o girls at the sandbox with their moms.... Girl1 took a toy from Girl2 and Girl2 started to freak out and run away screaming at the top of her lungs. Girl1's mama came over to Girl1 and asked her to look at Girl2's face and to tell her what she thought that meant. Girl1 said "She's sad." Girl1's mama said, "that's right. She's sad because she wasn't finished playing with that toy and it was taken from her. " Girl1's mama calls over to Girl2 and says, "Girl2, can you use your words and tell Girl1 that you were not finished playing with that toy? Would you use your words and ask her if you can have it back?" Girl2 asked Girl1 if she could have it back. Girl1 said, "sure!" and handeded it to her. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><br><br>
I smiled at Girl1's mama and told her that it was so refreshing to see a mom not hit or yell in a situation like that and that I really was impressed with how she handled it.<br><br>
"Thanks!" she said... and THEN...she added : "but don't get me wrong... I do smack her on her bottom when she's bad, too...just not in front of other people" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:<br><br>
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Ha! "Don't get me wrong" You just congratulated her on her parenting style. Does she really think she's going to win mommy brownie-points from you for admitting she hits her baby? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/disappointed.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="disappointed"><br><br>
~Nay

 

[Fuamami]

Whoa! Some people have no shame! It kills me when people admit to not being able to spank their kids in public. It's like admitting that spanking is childish, stupid behavior that no one wants to be seen doing...yet they're still admitting it!

 

[cmb123]

Gee, good thing she cleared that up! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:

 

[Brinda]

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Gee, good thing she cleared that up! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:</div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I would've loved to see the look on her face if you'd said that!

 

[YankeeMomInVA]

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<div style="font-style:italic;"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I would've loved to see the look on her face if you'd said that!</div>
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LOL!! Me too! lol

 

[annarosa]

maybe she's just not used to being complimented on her parenting like that - I hope she is exaggerating/ even lying - seems unlikely to me that someone who can handle a situation like that woudl need to resort to spanking........