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Has anyone ever dealt with anger problems? I have always been a fly-off-the-handle type person. Passionate, whatever.<br><br>
Anyway, lately I find myself so easily aggravated, frustrated, overwhelmed etc and this just leads to me being angry even though I don't think anger is the real problem.<br><br>
For example, I find I will get angry if overwhelmed. Even though I at some level at the time realize it is about being overwhelmed but I lash out in anger instead of correctly identifying and dealing with the correct emotion.<br><br>
I have also become more aware as I get older of issues that are now surfacing after being pushed down and 'quieted' in my mind for so many years. You know, childhood, poor parenting, trust issues etc that I coped with by not coping for all these years.<br><br>
I don't want to be the angry mom/wife/friend.<br><br>
Therapy? Stress techniques? I am wondering if anyone else has dealt with this and how they did so.<br><br>
Atleast I am now aware of it. It has been a part of my life for so long but it is starting to affect 'me' in ways that I don't like about myself. I need to correct this and get on a more positive path.
 

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Have you tried some self-help anger management books/techniques? I'm a Christian and I found "Be Angry (But Don't Blow It)" by Lisa Bevere to be very helpful.<br><br>
That was a few years ago when my anger was similar to what you described. Last summer, when my prenatal depression kicked in, it was totally different.<br><br>
Yes, I knew my reaction was unreasonable and I wasn't dealing with the real issue, but it just felt different. That's how I knew something was really wrong.<br><br>
Does that make sense?<br><br>
The change you have experienced recently may be indicitive that something has changed. I would suggest reading some books, looking into dietary changes and supplements, and also cognitive behavioral therapy to help you change your behaviors.<br><br>
I hope this helps.<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br>
--LEE
 

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Anger can be a symptom of something else. I find that when I'm prone to losing my temper quickly I'm actually depressed. But it can also be a sign of anxiety, or just PMS.<br><br>
Try Calm's Forte or Rescue Remedy and see if they help. They're safe and easy to get at the health food store. If they don't help, check out the book The Mood Cure by Julia Ross, it's awesome, a natural approach and deals with a variety of mood issues. It even gives you a tool to evaluate your moods to know what's going on.
 

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Try Calm's Forte or Rescue Remedy and see if they help. They're safe and easy to get at the health food store. If they don't help, check out the book The Mood Cure by Julia Ross, it's awesome, a natural approach and deals with a variety of mood issues. It even gives you a tool to evaluate your moods to know what's going on.</div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/nod.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="nod"> ITA - just wanted to add that SSRI meds helped me with uncontrollable anger, but there's always stuff like counselling for cognitive retraining, using this as an opportunity to rethink your standards and expectations for yourself, others, etc. which can be very helpful too.<br><br>
It's really hard to struggle with intense anger. My psychiatrist always tells me to check whether I'm HALT - Hungry, Angry, Lonely or Tired. Then take 6 deeps slow breaths. Then decide what to do next. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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yeah, HALT, calms forte/rescue remedy..and maybe some talk therapy, to help you get a handle on what to do when your becoming overwhelmed.
 

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This is me too. The hard part is to breathe & stay focused instead of easily falling into the habit of becoming angry. We've talked a little about this in the Buddhist mammas thread. For me what helps is being & staying aware. Mediation helps too. I am also reading The Mood Cure which a pp mentioned.
 
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