I get very very annoyed on those very very rare occasions when my kids' deadbeat dad actually spends time with them. I am rationally happy that my kids see him and know that he's still alive, but inside I feel HUGELY annoyed. I know the kids will see him next week for the first time after three months and I already feel overwhelmed by the feeling of 'too little too late'. Any one else feel this too? Any insight on how to process it?